Quote From: k_tiemensHello. I am 24 years old and expecting my first baby in September. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 6 months now and been together for a year, and want to get married in febr, 09 but my family wants us to get married before the baby is born.. because it would be morally correct to do so. We think it will be best to make sure we have everything ready before the baby comes, and then focus on getting married, we really want to get married as well ! I am so stressed about this and get all kinds of mixed comments from my family such as " if we don't get married before the baby comes, the baby will come into the world with label his /her parents weren't married when he/she was born " and even mentioned adoption as an option. Our reaction being upset if course, because I can not imagine this life inside of me being in someone else'e arms but our own ! My father is a priest, and they strongly believe in marriage before children. I know what we did was wrong, but is it really so wrong if two people love each other and wants to spent the rest of their lives together despite of the baby being there or not? I am not sure how to handle this with parents, and just hope everything will work out for the best at the end and that they would want to be a part of our baby's life.
Hi Tiemens
I'm no expert but ask yourself these questions...
Does he love you? Do you love him? If these questions are in place and the answers are as they should be then you don't have anything to worry about. Yes your parents have a point but in the end are it your life and what they say is merely suggestions and what they think is the best for you, but in the end it's you who need to decide what you want to do. If YOU want to get married before the baby is born then do so if not then don't. You are the one that needs to live with your decisions. Parents usually have more experience and want you to do things as they see being correct, but sometimes they are not. So therefore you need to decide what it is you want. Don’t stress yourself about what your parents are saying rather concentrate on your relationship with you husband to be and concentrate on things that makes you happy. Stressing is not good when you are pregnant so just enjoy this time because it is very special and this is your time to be happy regardless what anyone else has to say.
Wishing you the best of luck and remember smile because what you have is a miracle from God