Topic : Pregnancy Loss

Hi! I'm a 19 years old and I got pregnant some time in april, when I found out in May that I was pregnant I thought it was one of the best days of my life, Soon after my world came crashing down. I went to the doctors on July 18, 2008 to make sure my baby didn't have downs syndrome, The first thing I noticed was that my baby didn't have a heartbeat. I had been to the doctors a week prior to get blood results and they found I have some sort of blood disorder. I was at the doctors last week and they told me that there was nothing they could say yet! How long do I need to wait to find out what happend!!!!

My husband and I lost our first baby back in February.  It was the worst feeling I had physically and emotionally felt.  Unfortunately the doctor's couldn't give me any reason why it happened.  The more they said it was nothing I did, the more I felt like there was something I did.  You may never find out what happened but the best I say to you is that you can't predict these things and you can't stop them.  Your baby made a choice.  He or she physically struggled to stay but knew that it would be better to become your angel.  We came up with a nickname and know that our little one is watchign over us.  It will be okay, and you will get through it. 

Good luck and God bless. 

When I was in the hospital for our miscarriage, there was nothing they could do to stop it but since it started already they gave me a few options.  They told me that we could just wait until it completed itself, do an insert, or a D&C.  I couldn't handle waiting a week, 2 weeks, a month of bleeding to continue to "wait" for the baby to leave.  I opted for the inserts since the worst of the bleeding had already pasted. 

I can say that I empathize with you but I don't know exactly how you feel.  Everyone's loss is always different.  The Hospital continued to send letters that they were sorry for our loss, I think that was more the Army than anything.  But as I was just starting to get over the larger part of the hump, the letters would come again.  It has been almost 9 months and our baby's due date is coming up.  We had put it on the calender and then had to cross it off.  You will never get over losing a child, but you will get through it.  My husband went out to the Hallmark store a few weeks after and bought an angel statue.  He told me that it was our angel and that it would watch over us forever.  We keep it in our family room and it blesses us everyday!!!!  You could always find a symbol to help you know that your baby is always there. 

You will be okay!!!  You need to be for your oldest child!!! 

Good luck and God Bless!!!!

Hi, my name is Jen.

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and I have been pregnant 4 times and have not had a child.  My husband is older than me and has 3 grown children, but I desperately want a child of my own. 

The first pregnancy lasted 13 weeks and I had a miscarriage.  The second pregnancy lasted 14 weeks and I miscarried twins.  The third pregnancy lasted 8 weeks and I again had a miscarriage.  The fourth pregnancy went great.  I was 32 weeks along and going to my weekly check ups.  I was ALREADY a high risk patient because of all the miscarriages and I went to the doctor on October 30, 2007 for a checkup and told the doctor that I had thrown up blood and spotted a little bit.  She was very busy that day and told me if it happened again to call her.  She never checked me to see if anything was going wrong though.  On November 1, I laid down to take a nap and when I woke up it felt like I was having a charlie horse in my lower abdomen.  I called the doctor and she said to just take a Tylenol and drink a glass of water and take a warm bath.  Well, it didn't get any better so I called again, the doctor told me that if I didn't feel better within an hour to come in.  Well, I didn't wait much longer and my husband drove me in.  When we got there it was too late, the baby was gone.  Then on top of all that, the doctor wasn't there so they wanted me to wait and have it naturally when my doctor got there the next day, even though the baby was dead.  They gave me too much Magnesium and it put me into a coma until 6:00 Friday morning.  When they woke me up they had to tell me everything again, because something had happened that cause me to lose all memory up to the day before.  I did finally give birth to a beautiful baby boy, Dakota Dale, later Friday, November 2, 2007.

I am now seeing a specialist and am have difficulty becoming pregnant.  They have done sooooo many tests on me and have no idea what is wrong with me.

My husband and I want so desperately to have a baby!  I can't help but feel if that doctor would have taken some different steps that our son would be turning ONE this November 2.

I completely understand what you are going through.  I have had four pregnancies and no children.  The last pregnancy lasted 32 weeks.  It was just awful!!!!  I have struggled very much with jealousy and resentment.  It will be 1 year on November 2 and I have learned to deal with the jealousy, but I still do cry LOTS and still question why!!!!!

As far as family.........I UNDERSTAND!!!  My mom and dad do not approve of my husband and they have really NOTHING to do with me.  When I was pregnant with Dakota, I tried to tell my mom what was going on with my pregnancy, but she never wanted to hear about it.  I am an only child and I told her that I am her only chance of having a grandchild, but she didn't want to hear about it.  After I lost him, she didn't say ONE word until I went off the deep end to her.  Then she said she was sorry!

I have learned to lean on my husband completely.  If they (my blood family) don't want to be apart of my life, than that is their choice!

I hope things go better for you!  STAY STRONG!