Topic : 08/23 My Fiancé is a Stalker

Then you need to seek help too.  Stalking is not normal behaviour.

Miracles happen every single day, sometimes they are just not obvious :) but I agree that God helps us if we help ourselves.  Both Ken and Amber have a big job ahead to get their thinking and behaviour onto the right track.  I hope they use the help Dr Phil offers.

Thank you for protecting your children. I would live on the street with mine if it meant keeping them away from an abusive parent, etc. Women/men can call any social service agency (ex. salvation army, catholic charities, Interfaith Network, etc) and they can/will tell abused women/children where they can go, who they can call, etc). With the use of the Internet, many resouces can be found quickly. There is NEVER any excuse to put children in harm's way, which is what the guest is/will be doing if she allows the man (who is definitely SCARY) anywhere near their daughter. You did a wonderful thing for your own children. God bless you for that.

being a victim is just as much a choice too.

It's now almost to the end of the show and Amber's fiance has finally admitted why he is the way he is.  All comes down to what his own Dad did to him when he was a kid.  That stuff is learned/passed on down from an abusive parent.  Now, I really have hope that he can finally break that cycle and get onto a path of healing and being a better man and hopefully a much better father than his father ever was.  I can really see the pain in his eyes from what his Dad did to him all those years ago and I thank God for people like Dr. Phil who get to the core of the problem and get individuals like this young man some much needed help.  Mind you, I'm not excusing his behavior, but at least we now know why he's acting the way he is.  I really applaud the young man for having the guts to admit what his own father did to him.  Not many young men would admit that. 

  

Great show and much needed subject to be talked about. 

  

Michael 

I do not know you or anything about you, therefor I will not presume to know what you have or have not been through in your life. I will however tell you that once you are in this horror I can my life it is not as easy as just leave. I have involved family and friends by telling them. By doing this how ever lives have been threatened. Does he mean it? I do not know for sure. My backbone has been shattered and I live in fear.  

  

If you have lived through this type of thing and got out I am proud of you. With very little to no resources it is hard to know where to turn, or how to turn. I call the police they take him away for a couple hours I am still in the house No money.  

  

Everyone always says your life is worth more than money but lets live in reality for a second ..... Money is the only way a person can get out of an abusive relationship. Hell I can not even get counseling  without money. I do not have a Dr Phil  to help me get out. Where do I go? I can not get an apartment & the shelters are full. I could sell everything we own but that takes time and I am sure he would notice things gone from the house. I have just learned to walk quietly around the eggshells and I do not get him mad. Then each night I go to bed and nothing has happened and I know I am safe for another day I say a prayer and hope the next day is not my last.  

    Dr. Phil made me cry today. So many people would have just had them break up then this guy would have found someone else to do this to. But in stead Dr. Phil let him know that he was here to help him. What a wonderful man Dr. Phil is.

 but part of the frustration and fear (from my perspective) is that Ken will  use his unfortunate background to justify  abusing Amber. I totally agree and was disgusted too by the fact that Amber "got off' on the attention.(She's not mature enough to marry anyone) I swear, I have NEVER understood women who are secretly 'pleased' at all the 'attention' they get from men who are abusing them?????? (It just proves how much the guy 'loves them') HUH? What a twisted, sick, convoluted way of thinking!  It's really good to hear about someone who changed and made a success of his marriage! Yes, its great that you think your wife was the main reason you got better. But, you have to admit, if you hadn't been open&ready for change, it wouldn't have happened. I sincerely hope that Ken proves everyone of the doubters that we are dead wrong and makes it too, for his own sake&that of his baby girl. 

These women may be STOOPID, but they don't "deserve it."  

  

If you have a fancy car and drive with it late at night thru less than great parts of town, do you "deserve it" if you are car jacked? 

  

If your mother or girlfriend walks to her car at 9 p.m. from a grocery store and gets attacked, does she "deserve it"?  

  

If you wear fancy watches and clothing and get mugged on your way into your office building, do you "deserve it?" 

  

If your sister or neice gets raped on a date with a guy when she's wearing a sexy outfit, does she "deserve it"? 

  

PLEASE!!! People make stoopid choices lots of times (it called being HUMAN), but they still don't deserve to be beaten, raped, carjacked, robbed, etc.  

  

You sound heartless, which means your advise isn't being offered to HELP people. You simply want to condemn people. Ever hear the saying, "Don't say anything if you don't have anything good to say about someone"? I think you should learn it.  

  

You know, I am a strong, independent  woman (married 16 years) who would never be hit more than once by ANY person, but I still can see how not everyone can be like I am. Some of us are raised to be weak, needy, etc. We must LEARN to like and respect ourselves enough not to put up with crappy behavior. Sadly, some of us take years learning that.  

  

Not everyone is YOU (or me). Be happy you are strong, but I am sad that you are so arrogant and not able to be compassionate. I can just see how condemning you will/would be with your own children. Very sad.  

Why isn't Ken in jail to keep EVERYONE safe from the likes of someone like this?