Topic : Where Should Your Child Sleep?

Hello I am new to the Dr. Phil Boards but I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions how I can get my daughter to sleep in her own bed. She is 17 months old and our first mistakes as parents, I think, was letting her sleep in the bed with us. If I put her in her crib she wakes up in the middle of the night crying so hard that she throws up. I just don't know what to do because my husband and I have lost a lot of the intimacy in our relationship PLUS we are not getting any sleep because she sleeps SO bad.  

Any suggestions??? 

My daughter is going to be 2 soon and she slept in our room for the first year in her playpen at the foot of our bed. My husband has never been around a baby before we had our daughter so he got real nervous that something was going to happen while she slept. So to comfort him, she slept in our room. She went very easily to her own crib. She is used to only sleeping in our bed when: 

1:My husband is away with the Navy and I need some comforting. 

2:She is sick. 

3:If she wakes up from a nightmare. 

She is real good about going back to bed if we don't allow her to come to bed with us. We have even grabbed our futon mattress and layed it on her floor so we can sleep in the room with her to calm her down. 

One of my friends has a 2 1/2 year old and he wakes up in the middle of the night like clockwork to go into the bed with them. I don't understand why they do it because it doesn't give them any personnal time to themselves. We have told her to try to just let him cry and fall back to sleep and it works when we are there but if no one is there, she doesn't want to hear him cry so she goes and gets him. I think that is rediculous. He also sleeps during his naps and night time with a pacifier in his mouth. He doesn't use it during his naps at daycare and sleeps just fine so I don't understand why she insists on giving it to him while he's at home. That is just confusing him while he's at daycare.  

Any suggestions on how I can help her get her child away from the bed and the bink? 

Hello I am new to the Dr. Phil Boards but I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions how I can get my daughter to sleep in her own bed. She is 17 months old and our first mistakes as parents, I think, was letting her sleep in the bed with us. If I put her in her crib she wakes up in the middle of the night crying so hard that she throws up. I just don't know what to do because my husband and I have lost a lot of the intimacy in our relationship PLUS we are not getting any sleep because she sleeps SO bad.  

Any suggestions??? 

Hello I am new to the Dr. Phil Boards but I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions how I can get my daughter to sleep in her own bed. She is 17 months old and our first mistakes as parents, I think, was letting her sleep in the bed with us. If I put her in her crib she wakes up in the middle of the night crying so hard that she throws up. I just don't know what to do because my husband and I have lost a lot of the intimacy in our relationship PLUS we are not getting any sleep because she sleeps SO bad.  

Any suggestions??? 

 May I ask at what age did you start putting her in her crib?  and have you looked into the fact that there could be something waking her up at night making this reaction worse, My children always slept in their own beds except when they were very young  and i was breast feeding them but then they were still in their bassinets after they were done. My daughter at around  15 months started waking up  during the night and doing the same as your daughter was doing and come to find out she was waking up and wasn't able to see anything got scared and had the crying/screaming type fit, we put a coloured nightlite in her room and she was fine then cause when she woke up she could see things and knew where she was..  Our outside light would shine  in her window and distort things which scared her.. Now neither of my children will sleep anywheres but in their own beds.. they don't even like sleeping at someone's house  cause its not their bed... so I guess it worked toooooo well 

      If i was you  try a night light or even try maybe having soothing music playing cause it could be something as simple as a noise scaring her...  Try and not take her back to bed with you just comfort her and get her settled back down in her own bed and then back to sleep.. I know its hard  cause you don't want them to cry..It happens with my son sometimes he works himself up to a fit but if you have a monitor you will hear her my monitors are sensitive enough they are on the other side of his room and I can hear him moving around in his crib and my daughter if she is moving around in her room..  Just listen and sometimes you can prevent it from getting to the point she is screaming/crying and vomiting  and Good luck with getting her to stay in her own bed..   

Hello Again, 

We started Megan in her crib around the time when she was 6 months probably. I tried the night light and tried the music but it doesn't seem to work. I am not sure what to do. I think your right about not taking her back to bed with us because I do. She is the first and I don't want her to "cry it out". I know we have to do something I am not sure what to do. I am afraid that is has come to a point where she will have to cry it out