I totally sympathize with you. This sort of situation is what I fear for my daughter when she gets older, too. But I do try to make sure that her daddy has a strong, positive role in her life. I hope that he shows a good example of how a man should treat and respect women. Has she had a good relationship with her father? Is she involved in any other activities to validate her, like college or work?
I went through the same sort of relationship at 17 or 18. And although my dad was and is a great man, acceptance and emotion weren't easily expressed in my strict household. And although he talked to me a lot about his expectations, he didn't listen very well. I wonder if that had much to do with me letting the first person to show me some attention just walk all over me, in fear that no one else would want me. But it took the boy being shockingly abusive (only once, thank God) to make me get away from him.
I hope you find a way to let her know she deserves more. I know its frustrating, but don't stop talking to her. And don't give up.
