I have a problem. My husband and I found out that his daughter is confused about her sexuality. She is my step daughter, her mom and are great friends, in fact all of us are friends, and supportive but this one we are lost. She is 13, and all we heard last year was about this girl that was bisexual and had all of these rumors, and how weird she was...Well, things have changed this year, this girl all of the sudden is her best friend, the rumors are about our stepdaughter. I found a book that had a lot of things written in it. Like she does not know if she is gay, bi, and has a lot of questions. Is it our right to read? I found in my family room, picked it up put it in her purse, without opening it, but she put it back in the family room as if she wanted me to know. We talk all the time, and I am always honest and here for her. I have been with her dad sense she was 7 we have always gotten along. She has been asking a lot of questions, and I always answer, and I think she has been trying to tell me, but I missed the clues. The only reason, I opened the book is because I thought it was her dads, we have lots of these books that are alike. Besides I had put hers away, in her bag, she put it back out. Her mom is supportive of me, and her dad as well. But is that our right to check her email, letters, books like this, her room?? And if that is yes, how do you say to her that this is our right? How do we talk to her? How do we bring this up? This does not upset us, or make us mad, we want her to know we are here, and ready to listen. But we want to know what to say, how to handle, how to let her know we are calm...
I don't know what to do, she wants this girl to spend the night, which we have had lots of sleep overs, but now that I know this, what do I do? Yes, I told her mom in confidence.
So what do we do, this other girl has been confused for a long time. We always let her have sleep overs, but now how do I handle this? My stepdaughter even told her boyfriend that she thinks she is bi.....please give me something!
