Topic : Searching for Birth Parents

Records are open here in BC -- go to your local Govt agency and request your original birth certificate.  THere a nominal cost -- used to be $50 -- and as long as there isn't a veto on file from one of the people named on the document you will have access to the names on it.  

You also have the right to request your non-identifying info -- and that means all the files from Social Services -- but with names blacked out --  

While you do have a right to your feelings about being adopted, please try to realize that there are many, many reasons for parents to relinquish their child to adoption.  

I have heard stories of mothers being forced to give up their babies, and signing an adoption order,  of babies being taken without any consent at all, of mothers being lied to -- the list goes on. And these things aren't just in the distant past -- I know of at least one incident less than 20 years ago in my own town.  

There are some -- like my birth mother -- who realized that they would not be able to raise a child -- I respect that -- there are a lot of parents out there who do horrible things to their children.  If more of them could realize that they were not cut out to be parents -- children would be better off.  

My birthmother let me go and allowed me to grow up in a good and stable home, she always loved me, and now that I am an adult and reunited with her, she is part of a much larger family.  She has her relationship with me, and one, on its own terms, with my parents.  For us, it is a good thing.  

Just try to have an open mind about it -- if you never want to meet them, that is your right -- don't feel you have to change that, but do try to forgive them for what happened.  Even if they did have a choice, it couldn't have been an easy one to make.  

Besides, you have good parents now, and that is, in part because your birth parents gave you that chance.  You could at least respect them for that.  :-) 

What province are you in??  Can you get records from the govt? In BC records are unsealed and you have a right to them.  

Do you have a last name and possible area they might be in??  I would be willing to do a bit of searching for you if I can.  

email me at secretme0289@yahoo.com  

I found my birth mother with nothing but her name -- I went onto a bulletin board for her city -- Nanaimo -- and asked if anyone knew her.  

A lady who knew her contacted me, and then luckily acted as a third party to contact her and ask if she wanted contact.   

It was far easier than I thought it would be.   

I also found  paternal sibs -- a friend made some phone calls and found one that was willing to have contact. Sometimes all it takes is a few phone calls.  

www.canadopt.com is also a good place to start.  

Good luck with it.  

http://www.albertaadopteesregistry.com/  -- have you tried this site?? 

Have you done a Canada 411 search?? There are only 4 Doris Campbells listed for all of Canada. 3 in BC, one in Quebec.  May be a long shot -- but you never know.  My Birthmother still has the same name as she did when I was born.  

secretme0289@yahoo.com 

My twin sister and I werre adopted at the age of 3. My adopted parents just told us at the age of 21. Our names were changed and I don't know what they were. My adopted mother says she doesn't want to tell me about my birth mom because she thinks what she knows will hurt me mentally. She has told us that we have a brother and sister but she didn't know ages, names, or where they are located.  We were born July 23, 1982 in Raliegh, NC and I am hoping to finding my birht parents so that the void in my life can be filled. I want to know the medical history so that I can know wether or not there are any illnesses I need to watch for in my 2 children. Any help will be appreciated.  

Kimberly