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January 15, 2007, 6:50 pm PST

You know what to do

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Hello;

I am a 40 year old women, 140lbs over weight, I have never been so depressed in all my life. I have spent thousands of dollars on weight loss books, diet pills and weight loss programs, sure I lose 10 to 20 pounds here and there but have never, ever reached my goal. I am so depressed about this. What else can I try? where can I turn? I feel hopeless, and don't know what to do.....

I have a lot of stress in my life with my health, and also my husbands health, he is terminally ill. I am unable to work due to a work disability. I use food as my comfort, I don't know any other way. I wish I could go on the shows on TV that provide you with the trainers and cooks to help you loose weight. WOW that would be a dream come true to have someone help me get the weight off and teach me to keep it off.... Anyway, I don't even know why I bother to tell this to strangers, I guess I just needed to vent my feelings.

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You just don't want to do it.

I sound terribly unsympathetic, but I actually do have a great deal of sympathy for you and your situation. I gained a bunch of weight after injury and illness took a toll, and life kept throwing nasty little curve balls. But just chose healthy eating and activity over the temporary pleasures of eating for entertainment.

The trick to losing weight for me I think was to start slowly, gradually implementing lifestyle changes. I have probably gone too far now and that's a story for another day. But slow and steady does win the race. You simply have to find new ways to comfort and entertain yourself.

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January 16, 2007, 7:58 am PST

How dare you!

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You just don't want to do it.

I sound terribly unsympathetic, but I actually do have a great deal of sympathy for you and your situation. I gained a bunch of weight after injury and illness took a toll, and life kept throwing nasty little curve balls. But just chose healthy eating and activity over the temporary pleasures of eating for entertainment.

The trick to losing weight for me I think was to start slowly, gradually implementing lifestyle changes. I have probably gone too far now and that's a story for another day. But slow and steady does win the race. You simply have to find new ways to comfort and entertain yourself.

You sound like so many people I know, The problem is, you have no idea of my medical history, family life or anything else, so how dare you judge me by saying you just don't want to do it. You might want to find out facts before you get involved with things you know nothing about.

I do eat healthy, and exercise as much as my chronic pain allows me to, I cut out soda, chips candy of any kind, and all sweets, anyway I am not going to sit here and defend myself to you. I just wanted you to know that I am trying, have been trying and will continue to try, I was just looking to vent not get judged.....

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January 16, 2007, 8:30 pm PST

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You sound like so many people I know, The problem is, you have no idea of my medical history, family life or anything else, so how dare you judge me by saying you just don't want to do it. You might want to find out facts before you get involved with things you know nothing about.

I do eat healthy, and exercise as much as my chronic pain allows me to, I cut out soda, chips candy of any kind, and all sweets, anyway I am not going to sit here and defend myself to you. I just wanted you to know that I am trying, have been trying and will continue to try, I was just looking to vent not get judged.....

Did you not say you " use food for comfort"?

To lose weight, you have to stop that.

You can eat healthy food and still eat too much of it. You have to eat less, forever.
It's not comfortable. It's not easy. That's what it takes, however, especially when it is too difficult to do much strenuous excercise.

I have been overweight. I have been chronically ill and dealt with chronic pain. I was in an accident that make it hard to walk. I have ankylosing spondylitis. I have dealt with ill relatives and shocking, traumatic illness of my child. I am not without sympathy for you.

But you know what to do. You don't want to do it.

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January 17, 2007, 12:29 pm PST

Guess I did not exlpain!

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Did you not say you " use food for comfort"?

To lose weight, you have to stop that.

You can eat healthy food and still eat too much of it. You have to eat less, forever.
It's not comfortable. It's not easy. That's what it takes, however, especially when it is too difficult to do much strenuous excercise.

I have been overweight. I have been chronically ill and dealt with chronic pain. I was in an accident that make it hard to walk. I have ankylosing spondylitis. I have dealt with ill relatives and shocking, traumatic illness of my child. I am not without sympathy for you.

But you know what to do. You don't want to do it.

Yes I did say I use food for comfort ,but I don't over eat every day, I have bad days like everyone else, however I still don't over eat as you may think, food is my comfort when my stress is high, and that may be a couple of times a month, and according to the neutralist I see on a by weekly bases, my food choices are not the reason I am overweight, she says that its because I can't do any form of exercise due to my injuries......

I am in the process of seeing a doctor to find out if I have a thyroid problem or something.... cause I have really tried everything.

I am not trying to upset anyone on here, I just come on here to vent my feelings, and see if anyone else was in the same boat as I am, I should have just read stories not posted my own. I guess that was not a good idea.......

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January 17, 2007, 3:27 pm PST

still here,still trying

Hi. I'm Mel, an overwieght female trying to lose this wieght. Yes I am frustrated by now. I geuss you could say I'm tierd of trying! It just seems that its not comeing off. Oh I,ve lost some but I don't know maybe I'm not giveing it enough time. Alot of days I really don't feeling like going on. I know that I shoudn't feel like this! How long does a person need to go on until you see some results. Is it really worth it any more. A lot of days I don't think so. I am so teird of all the pain and every thing else that goes along with being overwieght. I am wondering if there is any that feels the way that I do or am I by my self?

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January 17, 2007, 5:04 pm PST

Your not alone!

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Hi. I'm Mel, an overwieght female trying to lose this wieght. Yes I am frustrated by now. I geuss you could say I'm tierd of trying! It just seems that its not comeing off. Oh I,ve lost some but I don't know maybe I'm not giveing it enough time. Alot of days I really don't feeling like going on. I know that I shoudn't feel like this! How long does a person need to go on until you see some results. Is it really worth it any more. A lot of days I don't think so. I am so teird of all the pain and every thing else that goes along with being overwieght. I am wondering if there is any that feels the way that I do or am I by my self?

Hello Mel,

Your not alone, there are many of us in the same boat. If you need anyone to talk to you can email me at constan@nb.sympatico.ca I would be happy to talk with you and share things with you as well..... Just know your not alone

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January 18, 2007, 7:46 am PST

Glutton for punishment

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Hi. I'm Mel, an overwieght female trying to lose this wieght. Yes I am frustrated by now. I geuss you could say I'm tierd of trying! It just seems that its not comeing off. Oh I,ve lost some but I don't know maybe I'm not giveing it enough time. Alot of days I really don't feeling like going on. I know that I shoudn't feel like this! How long does a person need to go on until you see some results. Is it really worth it any more. A lot of days I don't think so. I am so teird of all the pain and every thing else that goes along with being overwieght. I am wondering if there is any that feels the way that I do or am I by my self?

Dear Mel, you put your experience out there, of relying heavily on food to comfort the self and control bad feelings. The idea of having to put into practice eating less forvever must be overwhelming. You sound very ambivalent about having to stick to a lower-calorie eating plan for a long time.

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January 19, 2007, 9:09 am PST

Obesity

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Good morning, I am from Eastern Ontario.

I bought Dr Phil's Ultimate WL book before the holidays and am reading it slowing and trying to understand and apply to my own self the steps he has laid out.

I find it very slow reading and at times have to put it down when he pushes raw keys.

I need to lose weight but before that happens i must continue to read that book. The part about not putting the blame and guilt for every thing that has happened in the last 63.5 years of my life, on myself is very eye eye-opening......

I would like imput from others who have read and digested this book. I would like to drop quite a bit of weight but now realize it can happen with some self healing, or maybe a whole lot of self healing.

Bernice

Slowly or otherwise I can't work through the steps. I don't understand what I need to write down or even how to relate the questions to my feelings. I would love to have a forum to discuss the steps with.kjburleson

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January 20, 2007, 8:29 pm PST

Obesity

I am a 47 year old female, happily married with 2 children. My son is very well built. Me and my daughter are both obese. I weigh 325 pounds and my daughter (who is 21) weighs 225 pounds. I have a lot of health problem that started when I was 35 and only weigh 150 pounds. I now have type 2 diabetes and a lot more health problems but I can not get rid of the weigh but I worry about my daughter, I don't want her to be like me. I come from a long line of obese people and I want her to break this line. You here about eating disoders of people who are thin. I have a eating disoder of eating to much of food. I try so hard but I just can't stop. I have a lot of emotions I don't share with people. I feel as if I need to get all this out before I can fix my eating disorder. I am killing myself because my diabetes is not under control but no one knows because I lie about it. My husband expect me to be so perfect and I can't share with him I have something I can't handle. I just can't go on.

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January 20, 2007, 9:23 pm PST

Don't go on

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I am a 47 year old female, happily married with 2 children. My son is very well built. Me and my daughter are both obese. I weigh 325 pounds and my daughter (who is 21) weighs 225 pounds. I have a lot of health problem that started when I was 35 and only weigh 150 pounds. I now have type 2 diabetes and a lot more health problems but I can not get rid of the weigh but I worry about my daughter, I don't want her to be like me. I come from a long line of obese people and I want her to break this line. You here about eating disoders of people who are thin. I have a eating disoder of eating to much of food. I try so hard but I just can't stop. I have a lot of emotions I don't share with people. I feel as if I need to get all this out before I can fix my eating disorder. I am killing myself because my diabetes is not under control but no one knows because I lie about it. My husband expect me to be so perfect and I can't share with him I have something I can't handle. I just can't go on.

letting your husband think you are this perfect rock of strength - though change could be hard on your husband, he married you for better or worse and in sickness and in health.. and he can't help you if you hide your true self from him so much.

One person you have to be honest with is a doctor.   Let them know of your struggles.   Sometimes with type II diabetes, the insulin resistance must be managed with medicines, like metformin and some others, that can help stubborn pounds budge if you eat right and get more active.

Since you have comorbid illness related to obesity, its possible you are a candidate for bariatric surgery covered by insurance, and you can consider together whether that could be the right path for you.

You may be genetically hard-wired to be more hungry or to get less satisfaction from a given quantity of food.   Some overweight people have fewer pleasure receptors triggered by eating than normal weight people, and the overweight person needs more food to get the same amout of pleasure and satisfaction from it.   These differences can be overcome but it takes will and persistence and sometimes medical help.

Habits of a lifetime, your coping skills, can be adapted and changed, and you are making the first important steps trying to get insight into why you overeat and how you can help yourself or your daughter get a handle on obesity, which is making you sick and shortening your life.   Someimtes what seems like the end is really a new beginning....

I'll be saying a prayer, and pulling for you to feel better.

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You know what to do

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Guess I did not exlpain!

still here,still trying

Your not alone!

Glutton for punishment

Obesity

Obesity

Don't go on