Topic : General Advice

Hi- my daughters are 14 and 15-they have a friend who is starting to hang around-who dresses very revealing,(she is 13) and she is very pretty. if she wears shorts-its always daisy dukes and halter tops-or low-low rise jeans,and skimpy adult blouses-i see my 48 year old husband looking at her a bit too much for comfort-not that he is a pervert-she definatly does not look 13,and she is wearing very revealing clothes.My question is-what can i say to her,so she understands that it isn't okay to wear immodest clothing at my house? I do not allow my kids to dress like that,and never will,but i don't want to alienate this kid either-her mother dresses the same way-and i am overweight-so i am at a loss as to how to approach this-the reason i mention my weight is-as soon as i say -'look-you can't wear revealing stuff to my house" i think they will jump on the 'your just jealous' bandwagon. 

  Even if there is a grain of truth to that-my kids are honor students ,focused on education,never in trouble at school-the 13 year is the exact opposite-detentions all the time-a boyfriend at 13-but the thing is we live in the country and she is the only other kid for miles. 

hi i can understand you completly  

i also have a daughter who brought home a friend  

and she hardly has clothes on  

and also her mom to  

and like you im over weight so i didnt say a word  

but i never liked when she came over  

it was hard to do but when she came to the door  

i would tell her my daughter could not come out  

this girl would come 3 or more times a day  

and i would keep saying the same thing util she stopped  

you really should do the same   

as i did  

your kids will understand why you did it  

if you would like to talk my email is paville3@hotmail.com  

you sound like a person i would like to chat with  

good luck  

sherry in pa  

Dont feel bad about not being ready to kiss a girl  when your ready it will happen  you need to both feel comfortable about it , time will tell you when your both ready besides your 14 no big hurry is there ? have fun and enjoy life  take care Lori  

many many years ago- with my first child, who was a terrible eater, and didnt sleep much my pediatrician gave me sage advice..... 

its your job as a parent to provide quality and quantity of food and a nice safe soft warm place for them to sleep-  

its their job to decide WHEN of IF to sleep and how much to eat.    

Our rule was stay in your room (first- and yes at first we even had to lock the door with a latch until we went to bed) and later stay in your bed (yes she had 1/2 the contents of her rooms toys books etc on the bed- and not interrupt others while they are sleeping... 

she eventually became bored and started sleeping on her own.