Topic : General Advice

Your contact with her teachers needs to continue, whether she resents that or not, because you are doing the right thing by getting involved. When you discuss this with her, its important that you assure her that you are proud of how independant she is, however, even the most independant, successfull people need outside help sometimes. If she is like my teen, she probably says "don't worry about it, mom!" but as her mother, you and I both know you won't stop worrying. Ask her teachers about any outside help she can receive and encourage her to participate in it. I think that doing what you are doing and encouraging outside help and/or tutoring will be helpfull, I wish you the best! 

It is a difficult change to become responsible for the lives of children.  Being a parent is partly about knowing how to parent based on what you have read and what you have seen in your own families but it is also about being mature enough to control your emotions and disciplined enough to provide consistency for your children. 

The older you get, hopefully, the more settled and mature you become.  You learn more about your spouse and learn over time to trust each other and work as a team.  Your careers become established and you are able to afford more.  Then, when you have your family, hopefully the maturity and stability provide a basis for a good family life.   

However, there is always a bit of a set back when you have children because everything changes so much. When a couple is married without children, they are free to live how they want and there is less stress because there is less work AND more money in the household. Suddenly, you have to find a sitter to go out.  You have to be quiet when you have sex (if you have sex much cuz you get exhausted from midnight feedings and running after them). You have to spend your money on them first and there is less left for you.  You can't travel far or to exciting places with a baby. 

I met my husband when I was 17.  We married when I was 24 and I had my first child at 33. Now, at almost 47, I am a parent of two children.  I think we maybe waited too long for our kids but we wanted to travel a lot and we both took a lot of schooling (I'm a lawyer and he is a psychiatrist). Being older, we have more patience and money but we don't have as much energy as younger parents. I frankly don't know which is better. 

I am sorry.  What a thing to hear when you are pregnant, but he just isn't into you.   Yes, talk or write to him and express how you feel but don't count on him for anything.  He has already walked out on a family and he isn't expressing any sort of commitment to you.  

Make your plans for this baby without him being in the equation.  Please talk to someone about the option of giving your child up for adoption.  It would be much better for you and certainly better for your child and it would be a wonderful gift to some infertile couple. 

Your daughter is not alone. Chemistry was very hard for me in school. I had all A's and B's until my senior year when I took chemistry. It was the most confusing thing and it seemed to just get harder and harder as I got farther and farther behind. If you are in contact with the teachers and they know you would like to get her some extra help from them then that's pretty much all you can do. As far as algebra goes, does she have some friends that might be doing great in that class that might be able to give her an easier explanation than the teacher? Sometimes teachers have a tendency to explain it in a way that makes it harder than it needs to be. Hopefully she will come to realize you aren't trying to control her, you are only trying to search every avenue possible to get her the help she needs. Sounds like you're a great mom! Keep up the good work. 

I am so stuck right now. My neices aren't listening like bad not listening. 

History of the problem: my sister missy had twins at the age of 20 she got married then divorced b/c the dad was a jerk now the twins are 5 and just acting terrible. It is effecting me b/c my neices are like my own kidsi helped raise them almost like a second mom and for a while i watched them more then there real now. And now my sister has a new job and is working all these hours and gives then no one on one time and it's turning bad. The twins live with us and have been ruining my home and i don't know what to do. 

What there doing: they have put baby pwoder all over there already messy room so everything has powder it is still taking forever to get the smell out then they took crayons and drew on the wals also drew on the kitchen walls, one of the twins plays with her poo, they both play in the sink with soap and waste it.  

What we have done: we have given then time outs, made them clean up there own mess, sent them to there fathers for a night, explained to them why they did that is wrong. My dad(there grandpa) has tried to get them to stop becuase they used to listen to him but not anymore. 

Me: Usually when there dad or mom can't give them attention i do and they never misbehaved with me b/c i was there favor. now it's gotten worse they tak back and do the same distructive things and i am stuck and my sister is too stressed & unhappy to do thing about it  

I am so stuck Help!!!! 

Thx, Beth