Quote From: hehageI waited forty five years to get married. Coming from a small family I was exceited about the prospect of marring into a large family, which by the way live a mile from me. I have never in my life seen what has happened since our wedding, my husbands grown children have treated me with such hatedred it is beyond anything I could have imagined. My husbands mother,sister-in-law-,brother, sister her husband have be so despicable I wanted a divorce four months after the marriage, just to get away from the venom of the family. They may have one in-law as a problem, I have them all. You know it's wonderful, when you actually have a file in your desk filled with hate mail from the family accussing you of things that are so outlandish you almost have to laugh. I no longer see any of them, which is very sad, any advise out there to help this situation let me know.!!
My husband and I have been married 22 years. He comes from a family of 8, 2 boys and 6 girls. All of the girls are so unhealthy in their relationship with thie mother and the emeshment in this family is so deep, that one does nota make a move or decision without the others (incluidng the mother). i AM fortunate, in that as the only daughter-n-law I have a husband who came through all of the dysfunction, and is a strong and healthy man, he made it clear from the start of our relationship to his meddling sisters and others that "we are non of hier business". They do however make attempts to make our lives thier business, but we are a team, and have thick boundaries and are firm in setting them and allowing them to be crossed. Yes, this has caused alot of tension and strife in his family, but we keep that outside of our home and do not allow it in come into our home, i (we) also have been accused of some pretty horrible (laughable) things, but it is all in how a coulple cmes together and supports one anoher as a team and does not allow that crap to come into thier lives. We see his fsamily from time to time, we live within a 25 mile radious, but we do noit socialize, visit, and do holidays together, it is just too much drama, we keep things, simple and basic with them . We have a rule, nothing in our home leaves our home to share with others. We recently attended a funeral of my husbands Aunt and one of her children stood up to talk and she said that one lesson she had learned from her motehr was this she said, "My mother always told us growing up, to remember that there is "family", and then there are relatives".... hmmmmm... that gives one alot to pause and ponder...
It's the invasion of the in-laws! Despite an intervention by Dr. Phil, a couple and their respective mothers still struggle to get along. See how Ernie and Kerry are doing, and what happens when their moms agree to set their differences aside and meet for coffee. Since the last show, Kerry says her relationship with her mother-in-law has never been better! Unfortunately, her relationship with her own mother has never been worse. Plus, Alaina and Ray are married with two children, and they all live with Ray's mother, Eda. The two women are constantly at each other's throats. Is this family too close for comfort? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
