Quote From: kwindshawn I tried online dating-things went great until I sent my pic-then they all conveniently disappeared. The widower I met online-that was the only good one, and it is over. They guy I somewhat see now is online, but it remains to be seen how it goes. The rest disappeared-I think this is why women shy away from it. Personally, I don't care about the guys finances-the guy I was married to had money, and it created more problems than the monstrous debt I am now in. I can't use men for their money-I believe in taking turns in paying on evenings out-some guys get offended, but I feel it is wrong for them to go broke-life is to be enjoyed. Why not help out??
I quit online because of the picture issue. Goes back to being myself.
It is depressing-I changed my attitude about dating-I am no longer looking for the soulmate-now we are friends having fun, and if it progresses great. Maybe we all need to lighten up.
I understand about your photo fears. As part of a personality disorder I have always had a serious issue with body image so it was sheer agony putting together a "presentable" photo for use on my dating site profile but I just had to.
Profiles without photos get mostly ignored as you discovered. Males are visual creatures, it's not something they could change if they wanted to. It's true a percentage of guys are chasing moviestar lookalikes. I put such guys in the same league as the women who chase millionaires, Fools with a capital F!
A lot of women won't put a photo on a dating site profile. It's like they are saying "I refuse to be judged on my looks!". Fine in theory except that in so doing they are trying to force males to think like females, a losing strategy.
A transparent honesty approach to advertising requires full disclosure and that means a photo.
You won't know if you don't give it a go.
Women judge on looks also, maybe not as much as men but they certainly do!.
I've been rejected by various women because I'm not particularly athletic (read hunky,muscular), because my hair is receding and because I don't dress expensively.
Only one of the women I had a date with was above average in the looks dept, ( I rejected her because she was literally looking for free accomodation in return for sex, I want BIG brownie points for that! ) most were facially very average with a weight problem. My last girlfriend was, and I'm using the medically correct term here, morbidly obese. Had she been the person she pretended to be then I would still be with her. I was concerned about her weight only in so far as it prevented her doing some things she wanted to and it undoubtedly will end her life prematurely.
