Topic : 09/15 Dirty Little Secrets

Depends on the place. I take my two year old to Denny's or Olive Garden all the time. Anything more expensive than that I don't touch anyway, I find it a waste of money.

oh you are right. there are some places that it is expected to have kids. like Denny's! we have this place here called Bonanza, well I  just love it. they have the most amazing salad bar, and believe me it is noisy at the best of times so to add a couple noisy kids no one would notice. that is where i will take my kids. it is not often i go for supper and leave the kids behind. sometimes it is just nice to get out for supper and to relax. instead of having to get up 20 times to get this kid this and that kid that and to stop the food fight and all the fighting. you know? omg, i am so wishing for that today.think i need some quiet.

You are right about the super market thing...but your comments on her weight are just as nasty - you just get to hide behind the internet. 

Gina - I feel the same way sometimes.  In the store, driving, etc...

The difference is...I really make an effort to not take my sometimes crappy personality out on other people.  One day however, you'll ram my cart (or someone like me) and you will absolutely regret it because you'll have met your match.  Somewhere out there is another angry woman waiting for you to cross her - or worse yet - a man who will be violent.

You've got to chill out and work on not taking a rage dump on people.  You've got no idea what they are going through that day.  I mean, think of all the horrid things that can happen to someone to make them slightly thoughtless in the store:  a sick child, parent that died, teenager who is buying food because their mom is too drunk to feed them, mother who is considering suicide because of depression and your act is the last straw.  You've got no idea who and what you are touching in such an ugly way.  One day I was experiencing a migraine while driving and couldn't see out of one eyes - I was trying to navigate off the interstate and someone raged at me and I missed another car by inches.  They had no idea I couldn't see - all they could see was their own anger.

 

Someone should sue Gina.  One day she is going to hit the wrong person.  Grocery shopping is extremely difficult for me since I have had spinal surgery.  People like Gina are a danger to people like me--and she is not the only one out there of her kind.  One good slam with a grocery cart could render me unable to walk and in pain for the rest of my life.  Hopefully Gina owns a house so that if she ever does injure someone seriously--they will be able to take away her happy little life and end her assaults.  If I were the grocery store manager, I would ban her also--she has no business doing the things she does, so if the store doesn't ban her for her actions, they should be party to the suit as well.  Hope someone who has been assaulted by Gina in the past sees your show and decides to sue her--loss of her life as she knows it may change her attitude.  If not, then jail for a subsequent assault might work.  If one of the Gina's of the world ever hurts me, I may be sick and in pain, but I will do it in style--cause I will sue the pants off of her and the grocery chain!!!

You make an excellent point! Some of my friends have been going through some very rough things themselves in life and I know, for me too, there have been times when the last thing I need is some self righteous jerk in the supermarket trying to divy out some whacked out idea of justice.

The reason this post spoke to me is because a couple years ago I had a baby, I had a c-cection gone wrong and it became infected, I was basically walking around with an open wound. My husband and I decided to go to walmart and pick out something for dinner. I thought being out of the house would be a nice break from being in the hospital with my daughter (she was premature)...I had no less than 3 comments made about how slow I was walking. I tried my best to stay out of the way of people, but I was in severe pain and on heavy drugs (7 different meds) I didn't let it upset me, but I did with they could imagine my circumstances.

Like I said, lately has been a hard time for a few friends of mine, one of them lost a 23 year old nephew in a car wreck...the last thing she needs is someone trying to teach her manners if, in her greif, she forgets to not block the mac'n'cheese row! 

 What the heck is going on?  Why in the world are we bashing and giving digs to people who suggest not going crazy and or actually hurting someone because they didn't react the way we wanted.  For all you gals that recognize A high road congrats.  I didn't hear anyone say they were perfect just that they were trying to be better people. Why would that earn them criticism?  Maybe it makes you feel guilty or ashamed that you're not being a bigger person.  If that's the case change your behavior don't attack someone else for trying to be positive.  We are all just trying our best but discouraging someone who is trying to "live well" is really creepy!

I dont believe that she is only this way in the store. I am surprised that she has not been sued for hitting people. That is assult what she was talking about. Isn't it. I dont like it when people get right up on me in the check out line but I would never throw things at them. That women is lucky she has not be arrested.

 

Mercy

 Amen to that.  While we all can get overwhelmed by thethings that happen around us, I should think our human dignity would demand that we at least TRY to reign in our urges to do harm toothers.  For me, my  level of calmness can be linked tomy degree of spiritual fitness.  If I am not right with the world, anybody who drives a car near me is a jerk.  I get all worked up over their minor infractions, kind of like this grocery store lady.  The only person it hurts is me...but I count, too.  So even though I am the only one hurt I try to adjust my attitude. Someone told me about 10 years ago:  It's hard to be hateful when you are grateful.  And gratitude is an inside job.

Sometimes I have a hard time feeling grateful.  My income is$800/month and I have difficulty paying my utiltiy bills.  I'm not married and my only child was stillborn--even my father died in a plane crash (it sounds kind of unbelievable.  Trust me, it only gets worse.).  But I can ACT grateful until I feel it.  You can use gratitude as a TOOL to get yourself out of a crappy mental place.   I'm grateful that I have a family who can help me pay my utitlity bills.  I'm grateful I have a bunch of friends who love and support me.  Sometimes I don't want to be grateful for those things--I'd rather be grateful for a Mercedes Benz in the driveway and a baby in a carriage, but the point is, I'm happier when I'm in gratitude. So yeah, maybe what this woman needs is to take out her kit of spiritual tools and put them to work!!!!  Middle class?? I wish!!!!!  LOL  (Not that poor pain is worse than middle class pain...ha ha ha  Seriously, it doesn't work that way.  Pain is pain.  Although,  I guess there does come a time when you have to say, "quit your whining."  Oh well...)

I rI ran home and tuned in for this show? This has to be the most boring show that Dr Phil has ever had. Gina and the shopping cart? The Bogus-Baker? A total waste of air-time! Excuse me while I nap! ZZZZZZZZZZZZZ