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Created on : Friday, September 15, 2006, 03:46:10 pm
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Society has become more accepting towards relationships with someone of a different race. Is your family united, or divided over your interracial relationship? Share your story here.
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January 8, 2008, 6:50 am PST

I Agree

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I really don't understand you're response.  You are assuming a situation that may or may not have happened between my great grandparents and using that assumption to make a point.  You can't make point based on assumption.  I was giving my advice to an 18 year old.  Do you know how old my great grandparents were when they married?  Of course you don't!  I do.  And they were not 18.  My point was, because it obviously missed you, she is only 18.  Chances are this is not the love of her life that she will spend the rest of her life with. Why risk alienating her family at this time?  Did you watch Dr. Phil last night?  It was about a couple who got married at 17 and 19.  One of the first things I heard Dr. Phil say was they were too young to get married.  I'm basically saying the same thing.  She is young. She will meet other men.  May be one her family approves of.  You sure were quick to jump on what I said without a full understanding of why I said it. Does this subject hit close to home with you?

I was married at 16 in fact 5 days after my 16th birthday. i am now divorced and happy about it to. I missed out on so much going to parties with the girls and having a normal life. So i do agree with you they are to young. my marriage only lasted 13yrs but it was 13 years of hell. I didn't get to know him as a friend before marriage(WISH I HAD). He was very abusive i was black and blue all the time. Now when a man walks past me i cringe. I have met another male who i got engaged to he was excellent and knew what i went through. Now he has done the dirty on me just got up on day and said "i have a job interview in Townsville  aust and that night was gone  left me with 4 kids. we still have contact and he wants me to move back there. This is the town i coped all the beatings. This is where he also cheated on me I say No Thanks.

So what your saying is true and i totally agree with you on all aspects.
 
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January 28, 2008, 3:44 pm PST

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  i am married to a wonderful black guy'for like the first 3 years that ive known him'he was like my best friend.im white....my son loves him n he treats both of us awesome.he loves us as much as we love him.

    color should have nothing to do with fallin in love.

like i said we started out as friends n it grew from there!

     noone should judge anyone
 
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February 5, 2008, 4:30 pm PST

Interracial Relationships

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Im In a Interracial relationship and its wonderful.   I have a beautiful daughter who is just getting more and more beautiful each and every day.  My husband is from Kenya (which is in Africa).  He is the most wonderful husband anyone could ever ask for a wonderful dad as well.  The thing is when he talks to black americans they say he "acts  white".  How can someone act white???  I mean if speaking proper english and having manners is "acting white" then what is "acting black?"     Like he isnt black enough or something its not cool to make people feel like that.   He also doesnt like it when black americans say there african american because they really are not african at all he is.  They are americans.   I think when everyone in this country starts realizing that we are all americans not anything hypenated then it will be alittle better place to live.

 

i agree with you interracial relations are hard work but are worth every second of it ive been in one for 1 year and 10 months and i am getting married soon
 
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February 12, 2008, 5:31 pm PST

How to deal with interracial relationships

I have been in a interracial relationship now for 4 months.  My first "I love you" relationship.  I am a white female and he is black.  He treats me better than any white man did.  I just have a problem with his mood swings.  I always grew up thinking that interracial relationships were wrong.  Well, i was taught that.  WRONG!!!  We all put our pants on one leg at a time.  But, coping with the different backgrounds is hard.  Its not easy sometimes.  Like I said this is my first interracial relationship.  And its totally different from dating a white man. 
 
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February 12, 2008, 5:37 pm PST

Hard Work

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i agree with you interracial relations are hard work but are worth every second of it ive been in one for 1 year and 10 months and i am getting married soon
Yes they are hard work.  I am a white female.  And it sometimes is a struggle to cope with different cultures.  I love and adore the man I am with. 
 
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February 19, 2008, 12:26 pm PST

interacial is wonderful

i am 23, got married at 18 and my husband is nigerian, i am dutch (white)

he is 10 years older than me, but i enjoy every part of it, he gave me 3 wonderful children, and he made me of who i am today, he took me in when i was lost, and now i am found, i was a drug addict, i smoked and drank, but because of him i stopped all of those, he even made me go to church!

I love him so much, because my mother accused him of being my pimp and drugdealer, while he is exactly opposit!

He has never beaten me or harmed me, but he is a wonderful husband and father and would never leave him because of what my family says.
 
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February 20, 2008, 12:23 pm PST

hello

hello there i love to watch your show i think it is the best  talk show ever 
 
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February 22, 2008, 3:54 am PST

Unfamiliar territory

I have a daughter who is involved in an interracial relationship - she white, him black.  My family has just recently learned of this relationship and are very, very disappointed, hurt, upset, and even worse - embarassed, and have no problem telling me so.  Although I am not happy with the relationship - she is young - I am not embarassed by it.  I am hurt and disappointed and cannot find myself to be a part of this type of situation, but not sure that I could tell my daughter to give up what obviously makes her happy - or at least she thinks she is.  My family - I'm not sure how to deal with that.  We are very, very close and always have been.  I am with them all the time, as is the family tradition.  My daughter visits on holidays and they always loved it.  Now I'm not sure that they even want her around and I don't know how to respond to this either.  Not because of my family's feelings, but because of my own - I want my daughter to realize what she is getting herself into - the many people she will be hurting including herself, as they will not want to have anything to do with her.  We are a large family - aunts, uncles, cousins - and they will not accept it, as I am not sure that I can either.  What to do?
 
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February 25, 2008, 11:56 am PST

WHAT DO I DO?

HI, IM A BLACK AND CHEROKEE FEMALE DATING A WHITE GUY FOR ABOUT A YEAR NOW. I LOVE HIM DEARLY. I'VE ALWAYS DATED WHITE GUYS AND IT SEEMS TO ME THAT ALOT OF PEOPLE HAVE A HARD TIME ACCECPTING A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS. WELL, IM HIS FIRST BLACK GIRL AND MOST OF HIS RELATIONSHIPS HAVENT LASTED MORE THAN 2 MONTHS. IVE DATED WHITE GUYS THATS NEVER DATED A BLACK GIRL BUT WANTED TO, BUT I FEEL WORRIED ABOUT THIS ONE. WHY? I DONT KNOW. HIS FAMILY I THINK IS OK WITH ME. HIS BROTHER IS SWEET AND HIS MOM IS AWESOME. BUT HIS DAD MAKES THESE LITTLE COMMENTS THAT I THINK HE DOESNT THINK I KNOW HE'S SAYIN THEM. MY BOYFRIEND I THINK, LOVES ME WITH ALL OF HIS HEART. BUT SINCE IM HIS FIRSY DO I HAVE ANYTHING TO WORRY ABOUT THAT I NEED TO WORRY ABOUT?
 
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March 2, 2008, 4:08 pm PST

What's the problem?

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I have a daughter who is involved in an interracial relationship - she white, him black.  My family has just recently learned of this relationship and are very, very disappointed, hurt, upset, and even worse - embarassed, and have no problem telling me so.  Although I am not happy with the relationship - she is young - I am not embarassed by it.  I am hurt and disappointed and cannot find myself to be a part of this type of situation, but not sure that I could tell my daughter to give up what obviously makes her happy - or at least she thinks she is.  My family - I'm not sure how to deal with that.  We are very, very close and always have been.  I am with them all the time, as is the family tradition.  My daughter visits on holidays and they always loved it.  Now I'm not sure that they even want her around and I don't know how to respond to this either.  Not because of my family's feelings, but because of my own - I want my daughter to realize what she is getting herself into - the many people she will be hurting including herself, as they will not want to have anything to do with her.  We are a large family - aunts, uncles, cousins - and they will not accept it, as I am not sure that I can either.  What to do?

Why is everyone so concerned that he is black?  The color of someone's skin should never be an issue.  What you should focus on is does he have good character, does he treat your daugher with respect, does he cherish her?  It is hard for me to believe that in 2008 people are still stuck on racial issues.  As for your family, shame on them for being embarassed.  If your daughter is lucky enough to find someone that is a good partner and makes her happy, you should have the guts to support her.
 
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