Topic : Interracial Relationships

In looking at the messages I can really relate because I am kind of stuck in between two worlds. My parents were born in Indian and I was born here in Canada. Growing up with both cultures I found myself moving mostly toward the Canadian culture and away from the East Indian one. I am 22 right now and I know very little of the language, barely eat any of the food, and dont follow any of the traditions. My parents are now pushing me to find someone who is East Indian so I can think about marriage. The thought of this scares me so much. I have been dating someone who is white (dutch actually) and we just click. I care about him and we became very close, I have been too afraid to tell my parents because they had always told me this would be unacceptable. I have began to a few times, at just the idea of it my dad stopped speaking with me and my mom began to cry. Its very disrespectful to not do what your parents want in that culture. Im so so upset because I hope maybe one day to have a future with my boyfriend but I know that I will be disowned. I couldnt imagine life without my parents, I love them dearly and dont want to hurt them. Yet at the same time I love my boyfriend and he makes me happy.am working on my degree right now (paying for it myself) and ive been living on my own a few hours away from them, my boyfriend is considering moving about 10 hours away but we've talked and decided to stay together and work on a long distance relationship. I wasthinking maybe it would be best to tell them when I was finished school and see if my boyfriend and I become more serious and surivive the long distance relationship, but at the same time I feel so guilty for lying to them. I know the outcome of telling them will be terrible, but Im stuck on what to
do. . I know that in the end I need to do what makes me happy and if that means a future with someone of a different culture, thats what I am going to do. The stress this is putting on me is aweful...  I wish there was some easy way to tell them and deal with this. It would be just so wonderful if we could live in a world were there was no judgement about color or culture or race - I wish I didnt have to chose between my family and my happiness 

Why are white women constantly going after black men?  I'm going to give you a straight up answer from a white girl that mostly dates black men.  Almost all of my friends date black men and my niece and nephews are all interracial (black and white).  Although I don't really consider myself to be constantly going after black men... more like I find myself more attracted to black men.  It's not like I "only" date black men, because I have dated white men and hispanic men as well.  I don't find my reasons for dating black men probably any different than your reasons for dating black.  I don't date black men for sexual reasons... it's an attraction thing.  Black men seem to be more confident with themselves and I find this very sexy.  I am also a curvy white girl who isn't a stick figure so I find that black men are usually the ones hitting on me.  Black men seem to appreciate my body and that makes me feel good.  I have been with my fiance for about 8 months now and our relationship is wonderful... he is the love of my life.  I constantly feel like our relationship is tested and questioned by black women and I don't understand it.  I don't care who black women date... whether it be black men, hispanic men, or even white men... any man for that matter.  Why does this matter... if someone makes you happy and treats you good who cares.  My boyfriends mother and sister are wonderful women who I truly respect and care for and I receive the same respect in return.  I have never once felt out of place around any of his family and honestly I am closer to them then my own family.  Not once has his mother, sister, or aunts ever questioned why he dates a white woman... all they care about is that he is happy. 

I don't think you are wrong for asking this question, nor do I think nyou are a racist... I believe you are curious.  I just think it is strange that you say "I have never lost a black man to a white woman, nor have any of my black friends (that I know of)..."  This statement does make me curious as to how you view interracial relationships between black men and white women...

  I would like to say that I agree with interracial dating.  To me it is even crazy that we are classified as races and not just fellow americans but that is how society is.  That's where the statistics come in.  I am bi-racial and let me tell you, when I started school in the early 90's born 1984, Myself anf my sister were the only bi-racial kidsin the school as well as maybe a handfgul of african american children.  it was hard for us to identify with any race, blavk or hite because the issue with the prejudism of black and white was still going on.  So when bi-ravial children soared to overwhelming numbers people were not redy for another race to emerge. we had white and black kids picking on us.  still today being of mixed race I'm still classified as black.  What we fellow Americans don't realize is this was indian country we all migrated from other places such as ireland, england china, germany poland.  We are the melting pot cause we are not nativw to this land but immigrants who adapted we all came from different parts of the oceans.  Look how people of a civilization we have become.  We will rule our own destiny when our humanity surpasses our technology, Just ponder on that peace!!!!

   I have had interracial relationships. My children have also. i don't care if the other person is purple as long as they have good moral values and treats my family and others with respect and kindness. We all look the same with our skin pulled back or the most part. We shouldnt choose to associate or not associate with anyone because of what we look like on the outside.

We miss out on a lot of blessings when we do. Life is a journey, and we share the same roads, so look into others eyes, and see their soul, not the color of the skin. There are plenty of folks out there with the same racial background as I have, that I would not associate with because of who they are on the inside, skin color does not define who a person is. Character defines that!

i'm a white girl who has dated african-american men since high school and loves every minute of it! i have never been attracted to whites and i think most white men are inherently racist and feel inferior about african-american men's superiority. african-american men are stronger, better looking, better in the sack :), more intelligent, more confident and in general just better people. luckily attitudes are changing and white men are learning that there place is not to dominate and lessen people or make racist laws restricting african-american men from having white women. today women, especially white women, are more liberated- free from the slavery of house rearing and cooking (lol) and making familys in the old 'traditional' way. white men (or white people in general) owe allot to people of other races, especially africans; the africans built civilization and taught europeans how to read, write and philosophize they taught europeans everything about school, family and religion so it is only right for us to pay them back and abolish all racist laws still keeping african people down, like marrying and having families with who they damn well please!!! the only way to ensure that racism stops is to let african men intermarry with white women and help to make beautiful biracial children to flourish over the whole world. i am not joking, even michael moore thinks so (as funny as a guy he is, he's serious! read his book "Stupid White Men").

i don't think all white men are bad, please don't misunderstand me, because there are many that now understand what their role is in society and many have come to understand their racist ways of the past. they know that feminism is not evil, they know that gays and lesbians are human beings like they are and they know biracial relationships are necessary for all the people in the world.

shoney (my current husband) and i have 7 beautiful  biracial children (we kept busy!!! heh :) now and my family loves our relationship and adores all of our kids. i would never in a million years change it for anything else in the world!!