I have been married for 5 years.I married the man I fell in love with and since my parents were totally against it,I decided to elope and marry.Things had changed long before that between my parents and I.While my parents were working in kuwait trying to make good money for our future,we 3 (2 sisters and 1bro) stayed at hostels and at granmas and then for 2 years by ourselves.Our parents only sent us the money we required for ur studies and house.since we had basically stayed without them since I was 13,I being the eldest was never close to them.I had a difficult time being the parent to my siblings but I did my best and they turned out just fine.
My mom and I have had trust issues since i was 5.She always told me that she never trusted me.and were very strict with us.Anyway when I came to kuwait to work,I was living with my parents here.I didnt get the best of jobs or paid well and my parents insulted me all the time.they called me a loser,a zero and what not.they called me ugly and fat and said that i was a loser and no one would marry me.I cut myself several times but my parents never bothered.i cried for hours in the bathrom and felt that i was going mad.I prayed to God everyday to send me a good man in my life who will take me away from all this.And i did.
I was a catholic but converted to islam when i married my muslim husband.The first thing my parents did when we told themabout us, was call both of us at the police station.They blamed my husband for kidnapping me.When we showed the legal documents,my mom slapped me around saying I had ruined their reputation and they never wanted to see me again.Now its been 5 years.Once in a while I tried to call them but they told me to first divorce my hubby and then they would talk to me.Recently I tried to speak to my dad but when i told him it was me,he banged the phone and told my sister to tell me ,that they didnt want me at all in their lives.their reputation is much more important.even when i informed them of a major surgery i went through,they didnt even call to ask if i was okay.
Now my sister is getting married and they have told her strictly not to invite me.they dont want my presence.my sister has decided to go along with their wishes and has told me she doesnt want anything to ruin the wedding.so as I always do,i agreed ,if thats what makes her happy.I want to be in good terms with her coz only my siblings talk to me from my side .They are the only connection to what i call my family or of whats left of it.she calls me and tells me about how grand the wedding is gonna be and how great this function is going to be,of how much fun she is going to have with relatives.of how much my parents are going out of their way to make this occasion special.she even told me that she will use all that my parents had kept aside for my wedding,on herself.I feel so left out.My parents have disowned me and not even my siblings have ever tried to make an effort to bring me back in their lives.
I dont want anything,just knowing or my parents telling me that i do matter,would mean the world to me.I cry so much at times and fall sick.My husband tries his best to comfort me and be there for me but iam always crying.why,how can parents treat me like this.Indian societies are so close knit and unlike western societies kids stay with their parents till they are married off.But knowing your parents hate you because you went against their wishes and married someone,its still hurting after such a long time.Dr. Phil, or someone please guide me as there is no end to my depression.It feels good to vent out here.
