Alright I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months. We have both been in a marriage, that ended up in divorce, and have a hard time maybe committing to anybody. When we first started dating, I kept telling myself that this was too good to be true. It was by far the best relationship I had ever been in, and the healthiest. We talked about everything, and had no troubles with the communication process. We spent a lot of time together, which for me was good, because that was lacking in my first marriage. We both have children from our previous marriages, so we knew things might be difficult, when it came to the children. As the relationship went on, things seemed to be so good, almost too good. We were both raised very different. Both of our parents were divorced when we were very young, and we both had step parents involved in our life. But my life, I really cant complain, I had a good childhood, a family that loved me, and I never had to second guess anything really. He was raised by his mother and step father, and his step father was hard on him, but I truly believed that he saw a lot of potential in him, and that is why he pushed him so much to succeed. Along with that his real father, had nothing really to do with him in his life. He remarried a woman, they had a daughter, and from that point on, she was their main concern, and to this day still is. I don't think he has ever felt accepted by his father, nor do I think he ever will. That is the very sad to me.
We have had a few issues when it has come to his dad and step mom and sister, and this is causing so much stress on our relationship. They have tried to put words in to my mouth, and called me a liar, and in return makes him take a second look at our relationship. He proposed to me in March, and had no congratulations in return when it came to his sister. I feel that there is a jealousy issue, and that she doesn't want anyone with him, so makes it miserable for all people involved. We had an incident a few weeks ago, where they lied to him about something that involved his daughter, which in turn involved his ex-wife, who would make it so miserable for him, at any chance possible. This has caused major damage to our relationship. He keeps telling me now that he doesn't know what love is, but that I am his best friend, and that he cant imagine his life without me. I don't know what to do. We built a house together, and my children live with us, who truly adore him, but this has been difficult to him also. He has been so mixed up, and is not OK with himself. He has huge self worth issues, and truly believes that he doesn't deserve me. I cant imagine not thinking that I wasn't deserving to him. He came in to my life, when I needed him most, and is truly an angel in my eyes, a godsend to me and my children, but he doesn't see that himself. I don't want to give up on him, but he is not making an effort at all, and I do think its because of his family. When all he hears his step mother say is " I don't know why you would want to be with her, nobody likes her" makes it difficult for him to make decisions. There are so many mixed feelings, when it comes to this relationship. I know I love him, that has never been a question, I honestly fell in love with him the moment i met him, and I will love him till the day I die, so it makes it so hard for me. Any ideas for this troubled gal?
