Quote From: susiecue37My husband and I have been married this July for two years. We met in Georgia, got together and pretty much moved around to find better jobs. We moved to WV where some of my family lives and friends because he was offered a job in Virginia. While there it was hell. We lived in a place that only a homeless person would feel blessed with. Although the place was peace away from my mother, it was very hard living there.
Since we moved here in Kentucky, of course where he grew up and has friends, pretty much I almost feel like my existence ended. I am here and he is pretty much the only one I talk to as a friend. His friends have pretty much made it known I am not welcome so when he goes around them I am left at home alone with my daughter.
In the last month he has already went out with them twice and when I mention going to visit friends in WV he acts like it is going to cost too much but he doesn't think it is too much to pay a shooting range approx $60 a visit to hang out with his friends.
Is there something other than arguing with him that I can do peacefully to get him to understand what I am going through? Tonight was Patty's day and here in Kentucky there are lots of Irish who celebrate it. He had mentioned two days ago that he wanted to do something tonight small but at least do something.
Then when he saw how busy the places were he said that he did not want to be around a lot of people even though I had looked forward to this all day. I just came home, cooked and watched him sleep in the recliner.
He obviously doesnt like to spend a lot of money at once. But doesnt mind the occasional day out with the boys. Meet in the middle with this. Everytime he goes out and spends $60 at the range put $60 dollars into a savings account for yourself. After about 10 times out with the boys you will have enough money to go to West Virginia.
It is tough being in a new place and feeling alone. Try volunteering somewhere in the community and see if that helps you.
I am a combat veteran and dont like crowded places either. My wife is the social one and I am sure I make her feel like you feel a lot of times, try to make a back up plan next time.
