Topic : Ready for Marriage?

I am going through the same thing with my first born I have a little girl that is almost 3 I have only seen her once since my mom took her from me but I also now have a one year old son and my Boyfriend has a little boy that he has not seen in 2 years so I can relate with you alittle bit the best advice that I can give you is to do what makes you and your man feel happy. If you feel that you are ready to have a baby with this man than go for it but if  you are not ready explane to him that you are not and that it will take time for you to be ready for another baby. I want another baby so badly but my man is scared to have another baby because of what his ex did to him and I am willing to wait for him to be ready. no matter how long it takes. If you truly love him you will wait and the same goes for him. I hope that this has helped you in any way. 

~Crystal 

You need to leave. It's that simple. Believe me, you will find someone better.   

I am in the same boat as you but it's MY parents that don't like my fiance..... we have been dating for 3 years now and got engaged this past Christmas... when I told my parents they were not happy at all.... they say I can do SO much better, but I love him and want to be with him. We have 2 kids and 1 on the way and I couldn't be happier. I mean sure we have our fights but what couple doesn't?? They were getting on my nerves so much about him that I just got up and moved away from where we were....I used to live in Manitoba, Canada and now I am living in Alberta. It makes me feel like my parents don't want me to be happy at all... his parents are very supportive of me and were VERY happy when we told them we were engaged!! I don't know what it is about parents today.... they way I see it is if your kid is happy BE HAPPY FOR THEM cause if that is the person they love and want to be with that is the one they are going to be with and seeing how 18 years of age you are considered an adult they really have no say in whom you want to spend you life with.... I let my parents make my every move till I was 19 and now they see I' living my life the way I want to live my life and they are finally realizing they have no say...I have a family now with this guy and I can't be any more happier then what I am!!!    

And as for you I think you guys should just go on living your life...if they love their son then one day they will come around and see who YOU really are and that you are not the bad person they think you are!!! Just hang in there.....   

I am the parent of 2 girls 17 and 21, and would not take the chance of losing my relationship with my girls they mean the world to me.  Although I am supportive of them in the choices they make and advise them (sometimes strongly) when I think they are doing the wrong thing I still stay close with them.  If they just will not give up on the plan I let them go with it, but I can swear to you I have not been wrong yet about their choices of men and what the outcome will be.   

I also want you all to know that it is not easy being in a relationship or marriage with someone whose family does not like nor accept you, because the truth is your family are the only people who will always be there for you no matter what.  Take a step back and look at the reasons your family doesn't like your significant other and consider the reasons and be sure that you are right or are they? hmm 

Also if you have shared your troubles with your family regarding your significant other then that is part of the problem.  Don't air your dirty laundry to your family because they will always side with you and they will never forget the bad stuff. Find a friend or clergyman to talk about your relationship problems to. 

My 21 year old has recently gotten engaged to a wonderful young man who has a very sweet family and we all like each other.  They were friends first and he was a frequent visitor in our home before they even thought about marriage he is a good Christian man. 

For those of you who keep looking for love and hoping to find it NOW, wait it won't happen in your time, it happens in the Lord's time and when it does you will be 110% sure that it is right.  Remember this you have to be the kind of person that you expect in your mate! 

Some of you are so young and just looking for a way out of your current situation, be patient! 

Does the rest of the family keep the secret from the daughter too.  Secrets are not good!  I can't imagine what the daughter is going to do when she finds out that he is getting married and has been with you for 3 years but never told her.  He's worried she will quit school? What a lame excuse.  Are you sure you want to get involved with a family that keeps secrets?  What will that teach your children?  Do you think that will change? 

I was married to a man with a family like that, we have been divorced for 19 years and his family still is like that they have not yet learned.  I am thankful I am not immeshed with that anymore and that my daughter didn't grow up around that. 

Life is too short to be unhappy or to keep secrets.  The truth is the longer he waits the worse it will be when his daughter finds out the truth and she will.  Maybe he doesn't intend to tell her because he doesn't intend to get married.  Something to consider. 

Good luck.