Topic : Ready for Marriage?

Quote From: jim1970

As a recovering nice guy, I would like to know why so many women to try find a nice guy later in life. 

  

This usually happens at the first sign of a wrinkle or a gray hair. 

  

As for myself, I had ALWAYS wanted to be married.  I NEVER wanted to play the field.  Yet, here I am, at 36, never been married. 

  

I  WAS the guy who offered his shoulder for you to cry on. 

I  WAS the guy who wanted to commit. 

I  WAS the guy who opened the door for you. 

I  WAS the guy who didn't pressure you for sex. 

  

YOU were the one who said you wanted me as a boyfriend and later told me you were kidding; that you just like me as a friend. 

  

YOU were the one who accepted my invitation and YOU broke off the date just an hour before I was to show up. 

  

YOU were the one who was looking at other guys, all the while stating that you just wanted to see if he was someone you knew-BUT, if I DARED to look at another woman (which I never did), I was dead. 

  

Now, you are in your thirties and complain that there are no good men left.  There were plenty, but you killed their spirit. 

  

I admit that I have written very angry and very bitter messages on this board.  I represent MILLIONS of angry men who resent women that think we are STUPID ENOUGH to settle for them.  We want fresh milk-not curdled. 

  

After all, when we make love you to, we KNOW you're thinking about that night in Acapulco-a place we've never been able been afford to go to. 

  

If you're thinking about THAT guy, GO BACK to that jerk.  You deserve him. 

  

Yes, I have been very cruel at times-and I'm not sorry in the least, because I know I'm not the only one.  We all listen to Tom Leykis because of YOU. 

Quote From: hobart7

Also I was not aware of how I was talking about women. I have nothing, but respect for all of you. I am guessing it must be some underlying issue from my ex that came out. I have a lot of insecure feelings about this issue. I would love to have talks with a person who can help me with them. I have always felt that counsling helps. It just takes a person to do it, and to get the understandings to make the right choices. I think that was a day I had a few beers, and my twin was coming out. I am a Gemini, and so I do have an evil twin. I keep that one under wraps as best, but it comes out sometimes. Anyway Just to tell you or all I have the most repspect for women, and there beautiful ways they have about them. God Bless.   Randy

Quote From: grover

  

As soon as I saw my partner I knew we had something special. From the first time we went out we decided to take things slow as he came straight out of another relationship. Although that never happened - within 3 months I had moved in with him, & at 15 months we were engaged. We have now been engaged for 6 months & things are only just going back to the way we were. From the time we got engaged we have fought & argued & have a major fight at least once a month. We both love each other, a lot, and there isnt a doubt in my mind that he is the one I am going to marry. But he just spung it on me, that he doesnt regret getting engaged at all, but doesnt want to ruin our relationship by getting married. He tells me that if getting engaged has pushed it to the edge imagine what getting married would do? 

He says it isnt that he "never" wants to get married, he just doesnt want to right now when we are just getting back on track... 

Does marriage really ruin a relationship? 

Quote From: lissie82

I am 23 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We are really happy and have no problems. We are ready for marraige but we are still in college and ahve no money for a wedding. i come from a large familya nd would hate to not invite everyone. Well, a few months back i discovered the website myspace.com. i was having a balst talking to old friends and all. Well, my boyfriend decided to get a page also. In highschool he had a highschool sweetheart for like 3 years i guess. She was brought up when we first got togetehr b/c his fmaily knew her well. when i met his friends they would ask "what happen to??"...yep. Ne ways, i didn't bother me b/c we were happy and b/c she did him wrong. and He really cut her out. Well, he got his webpage and his friends continued to ask for her. after awhile it stopped ..when they saw that he was ahppy and that he was marrying me. yay! recently, his ex girlfriend got one too..this is where it starts...there was a chain letter that said to post your old memories on the comments page....well, on his page someone mentioned his ex...i went behind there and wrote "i'm tired of hearing of her...can we change the subject"....ne ways...hsi friend apologized for bringing her up..she said it was disrespectful towrds me.....Well...........his ex vistied his page and saw that i wrote that and started bragging to her friends that  "she bigs me" and that i can't get over her....okay? no one cares about her. we have our own life...just cause of one comment, she think the our world revolves around her. well, i ahd left it alone until after a week, i saw more comments of me....she was even using my name......i was mad. I emailed her politely, introduced myslef, and told her to stop. told her if she had coments to email me and not to post them. She returned back with hostel words saying that I need to get over her and  stop being in her business....we had an email war..it was bad...i just told her to get ober it and to leave me alone...she played the innocent victim. My boyfriend tells me that she always wanted attention..and tahts what she got. I emailed her friends more and told her our business thru comments............well, after a month......she still going at it....and I stop alonggggg time ago....it makes me so mad b/c she is getting married in a few months....is she not over him??? what  makes it worst is that their high shcool friends, were not there when they broke up and they think they are still together..so they still get comments like.."what happen" I thought yall were gonn also forver" My noyfriend just laughs and syas its highs chool stuff....it deosn't bother him, he says he lovs me too much, and he has better priorities to think of..he is true and right......Ant advice..sorry to messy....its late  lissie0927@hotmail.com

Quote From: jim1970

Randy, NEVER respect a woman because she's a woman.  She is to respect YOU because YOU are THE MAN.  A woman to be respected is someone who PUTS YOU first and IS FAITHFUL to you-which is hard to find nowadays. 

  

Learn this and you'll be saved from YEARS of HEARTACHE.  Women will eat guys like you and spit you out.  I know.  I've been there. 

Quote From: tinabell1

I at 42, finally found my Mr. Right!   

I met him and thought he was wonderful! I really liked him from day one...he asked me out and I was so happy...then to find out he is only 28 years old...I freaked out and canceled the date, then he calmed me down and talked me into going out with him, but only if my friend was with us, she was and we did have fun.  I stoped it there, because I just think the age is too much!  

Well...we didnt talk for about 3 days, and I was getting sick over it, I already felt something very deep for him.  When we did see eacheother again, we went right to eachother and held hands and I felt love for this young man and visa versa. We started to see eachother, but I always was peranoid...we talked alot about it...but I felt the love getting stronger for him. After about a month, we slept together and it was the most loving thing I ever felt. So. I thought ok, love doesnt have an age....and went forward. 4 months later he proposed with a lovely ring and I accepted, now we are planning to marry in December. Yesterday he told me he needed to be honest and tell me something that If I really love him wont matter.....he is 25....I am so confused, I need some help PLEASE....Please give me some advise, I feel so sick again. I need some help.  

I love him, but I cant stand being this much older than him.  Thank you for any advise you can give me.