Quote From: faeryedarkMakes me glad I don't have siblings that were close enough to my age for me to live with (or grow up with) I had a half bro. 33 years my senior and have a half sis 24 years older than me. We get along nicely . she lives in C.A. and I live in P.A. Actually I love her alot but was happily an "only" child growing up.
Otherwise, I don't have any family left to speak of but, I have my friends and we're as close as any family. i'm sorry to say I've had to watch them go thru things with their families (back-stabbing,name calling)
Like I said, you can choose your friends but, you can't choose your family.
I have 3 sisters as well. One is struggling with alcohol and is continiually setting herself up for drama. One is very overweight. The other, my half sister, is a lesbian who was introduced to our family when I was fifteen years old. 2 of us are survivors of anorexia. We all have our issues, however, we love each other enough to accept one another for our differences as well as our likenesses. However, we were taught something very important by our folks.
The only person you can control is yourself.
I am much younger than my sisters, and felt I was pretty much an only child growing up. But that distance allowed me to watch my sisters experience adolescence before I had to survive it. Step back, slow down, and examine why you are feeling judgemental of someone else. Many times, it has NOTHING to do with the other party. Too many people start pointing fingers at siblings to try and deflect the examination away from themselves, even when THEY are the on conducting the examination. Christy could serve herself well by realizing her level of control. Bottom line--own your actions. The only person YOU can control is...YOU. Realistically, she needs to realize that she has ONLY 2 choices to make every day, all day. 1) What kind of attitude she is going to have in ANY given situation, 2) How grateful she is going to choose to feel about all the blessings in her life. Blessings are ALWAYS there. Joy can be found in weird places, if you look for it. Even a wino feels grateful for the first drink of the day. That may be the best thing that happens to him all day. But he has that Bliss to hold onto during the other stuff.
That's it. It isn't more complicated than that. Christy is NOT the police, CPS, or any other certified authority. They have answered the call and already done their jobs.
Christy, pull your head out. Kids DO NOT speak with such conviction in defense of guilty abusive parents. Find Joy in your own life, and maybe you won't covet your sister's life so violently. You are hurting yourself and taking everyone with you. Drop it. Find your own Bliss. Your eyes won't stick if you cross them. Your face won't stick that way. You won't go blind touching yourself. Fortunately, things don't ALWAYS become true the louder and more often you say them.
(Original Air Date: 10/26/06) Backstabbing takes many forms –- lying, spreading gossip and fueling nasty rumors. Dr. Phil’s guests say the ultimate betrayal didn’t come from a stranger, but from their own flesh and blood! Stacy accuses her younger sister, Christy, of being a traitor. She says Christy reported her and her husband to Child Protective Services for allegedly having child porn on the family computer! Christy sticks to her story, and vows to help put her sister and brother-in-law in jail. How far will she go? Stacy’s 16-year-old daughter claims her Aunt Christy is a liar, and says she’s ruining their family. Can these two sisters overcome the conflict between them, or is their relationship at the point of no return? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
