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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:09:39 pm
Author : dataimport
Are you happy with your sex life? Or do you ask, "What sex life?" Share your story with other singles.

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March 3, 2006, 3:57 pm PST

Even if you're broken up

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FORGET THAT!  It won't work because those clowns will tell you your faith ISN'T STRONG ENOUGH.  Those church groups never work because THEY HAVE STRUGGLED THE SAME WAY YOU HAVE AND THEY ENGAGED IN IT JUST LIKE YOU DID-ONLY THEY WON'T TELL YOU THAT. 

  

They'll just say, "The Lord helped me through those feelings," which is a LOAD OF CRAP. 

  

First Corinthians Chapter 7 says that if you are unable to control your physical urges YOU ARE TO GET MARRIED.  The Bible also says that your "brothers" and "sisters" should not put a stumbling block in your way. 

  

GET MARRIED BEFORE YOU DO SOME REAL DAMAGE TO YOURSELF. 

Even if you are broken up by your parents (who, in my view are either well-intentioned, but wrong-headed or simply STUPID), you will not be able to beat these feelings by simply abstaining from sex.  Abstinence DOES NOT WORK.  ONLY MARRIAGE DOES.
 
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March 3, 2006, 4:04 pm PST

YOU DON'T NEED TO CHANGE

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  I just turned 17 and i have been dateing this guy for 5 1/2 months we started haveing sex and we told ourselves that we loved each other and that made it ok . we got caught and now we are not allowed to see or speak to each other .it is hard because i do love him we are both chirstians and we both do things we shouldnt (Me more than him) my group of friends are not angels i smoke and drink  i had a fake ID i would go to bars and clubs and i know that if i continue down the path im going down that i could get hurt ,arrested, or killed i know i need to change and i need to walk with the lord  again ,but i dont know where to start i need help and other suggestions HELP!!!!

Listen, YOU DON'T NEED TO CHANGE. You've done NOTHING wrong.  For the sake of your own sanity, I hope you can GET OVER THAT and stop listening to all the morons who tell you that you need to WALK WITH THE LORD.  All you need is a marriage license.  Marriage WON'T SOLVE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS and it could even MAKE THINGS HARDER FOR A LITTLE WHILE.  However, it's better than FEELING LIKE YOU ARE A FAILURE, because YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE.  You are a good person and just need a little nudge in the RIGHT DIRECTION. 

  

Y O U  D O   N O T   N E E D  T O  C H A N G E. 

  

Okay? 

  

 
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March 3, 2006, 4:10 pm PST

Bachelor parties are B.S.

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I am 23 years old. I would say that I am a very good looking girl, but an insecure one all the men say. I have been dating my boyfriend who is 28 for about a year and a half. He is probably the most trust worthy guy you would ever meet, however, the whole strip club thing makes my skin crawl. We had a falling out last summer when the night before his best friends wedding, he was the best man, EVERYONE wanted to go to the strip club, of course I didn't and i got very upset that he wanted to go, and these girls were going to be totally nude. We didn't go but he still holds it over my head that he missed his Best friends wedding/strip club night. Now the bachelor parties continue and I keep telling him I do not want him to go, but he basically is telling me too bad. He says all he does is sit there and drink beer and hang out with his friends and that the girls don't matter to him. I am disgusted with it and the fight keeps coming back to haunt us. It makes me sick to my stomach that breasts and butts are going to be parading around my man, tempting him. What should I do? This may end our relationship. I feel one way and he feels another, is there a compromise, I don't think so at all. I hate strippers!

Bachelor parties are B.S. and you should FORBID it.  If it ends your relationship, then you are better off.  Go find a guy who doesn't feel the need to watch skanks taking off their clothes. 

  

I don't normally say this to a woman, but STICK TO YOUR GUNS on this one. 

  

  

 
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March 4, 2006, 9:38 am PST

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hi im 20 and I'v been dateing my boyfriend for a year now he is 25. When we first got together we dident have sex for the first 4 an 1/2 months because i wanted to see if he wanted to be with me for real. So he waited it out with out pushing me. The sex was so good I have never liked sex all that much untill we started . any ways  he got this job about 4 months ago where he goes away for like a month at a time. and when he comes home he dont seem happy to see me and we rarly havesex any more. do u think he is getting board of me ? why dosent he miss me ? I know he loves me tho.And I think I am pushing him away because i try to tell him how i feel and i end up crying all the time and he thinks i m not happy when i cry and he is not the one that is gonna make me happy. do u think he is making excuzes cuz he want me to leave ? I hope not cuz he is my first love and i dont know what i would do if he left me ! 
 
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March 4, 2006, 12:14 pm PST

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Hi, Im 24 years old until 9 months ago I have never been in a serious relationship... I met this guy who just took my breath away anyway all went well for the last 9 months 3 weeks ago he broke up with me.... reason his family will not acept me cause of my religious beliefs. I am christian, I love the Lord with all my heart anyway its difficult for me to move on... I know that if a man loves you there is nothing that can keep him away and if he dosent there is nothing that can make him stay its just so hard letting go... there's just no closeure. He calls and smses to find out how Im doing and stuff like that he says that he still cares but he has no choice but to do what his family requires.... I am scared to trust again, having your heart broken is just to painful but I dont want to be alone, please help how do I move on?
 
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March 4, 2006, 1:12 pm PST

That's a good question

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Hi, Im 24 years old until 9 months ago I have never been in a serious relationship... I met this guy who just took my breath away anyway all went well for the last 9 months 3 weeks ago he broke up with me.... reason his family will not acept me cause of my religious beliefs. I am christian, I love the Lord with all my heart anyway its difficult for me to move on... I know that if a man loves you there is nothing that can keep him away and if he dosent there is nothing that can make him stay its just so hard letting go... there's just no closeure. He calls and smses to find out how Im doing and stuff like that he says that he still cares but he has no choice but to do what his family requires.... I am scared to trust again, having your heart broken is just to painful but I dont want to be alone, please help how do I move on?

That's a good question and I wish I had the answer for that.  I think religious beliefs are a stupid reason to break up with someone because NO ONE REALLY KNOWS.  So, there really is no reason why we should care. 

  

Believe what you want to believe and if your guy's family is that small-minded and HE isn't strong enough to stand up to them, I know it's hard to read this, but you may be better off.  Someone will appreciate you.  You seem like a nice person and I wish you luck. 

 
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March 4, 2006, 2:10 pm PST

The first love

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hi im 20 and I'v been dateing my boyfriend for a year now he is 25. When we first got together we dident have sex for the first 4 an 1/2 months because i wanted to see if he wanted to be with me for real. So he waited it out with out pushing me. The sex was so good I have never liked sex all that much untill we started . any ways  he got this job about 4 months ago where he goes away for like a month at a time. and when he comes home he dont seem happy to see me and we rarly havesex any more. do u think he is getting board of me ? why dosent he miss me ? I know he loves me tho.And I think I am pushing him away because i try to tell him how i feel and i end up crying all the time and he thinks i m not happy when i cry and he is not the one that is gonna make me happy. do u think he is making excuzes cuz he want me to leave ? I hope not cuz he is my first love and i dont know what i would do if he left me ! 

The first love is often the most destructive.  I hope that isn't true in your case.  

Why he doesn't want it from you is something to be concerned about.  He MAY (I said MAY) be cheating.  I HOPE I'm wrong. 

  

How do you KNOW if he loves you?  If he doesn't seem happy to see you, ask if that's true.  Then ask why you don't do it anymore.   

  

On the other hand, he COULD be tired.  

  

I don't know. 

  

Keep an eye on him. 

  

You seem like a sweet person and I would hate for you to go through what I have. 

 
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March 5, 2006, 3:06 am PST

Waiting for many responses to my posts

Hello- Did sny one read my painful experience?  I am 'buddhagurl' - Does any one care?  Just curious.  I figured some one would see this and jump at the chance to respond or want to get to kmow a great woman! 

Buddhagurl. 

 
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March 5, 2006, 3:07 am PST

Waiting for many responses to my posts

Hello- Did any one read my painful experience?  I am 'buddhagurl' - Does any one care?  Just curious.  I figured some one would see this and jump at the chance to respond or want to get to kmow a great woman! 

Buddhagurl. 

 
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March 5, 2006, 8:17 am PST

Hey Buddhagirl

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Hello- Did any one read my painful experience?  I am 'buddhagurl' - Does any one care?  Just curious.  I figured some one would see this and jump at the chance to respond or want to get to kmow a great woman! 

Buddhagurl. 

I did read your experience, thank your for sharing it with us here on the message board. I think that your story is one of thousands of women, unfortunatly, because we tend to doubt and second guess ourselves constantly. We need to listen to our instincts.. that little voice in our head telling us that something isn't right. Too often, we dismiss our instincts so much that eventually, we don't even know that they are there, burried deeply, hidden far away. They are still there, though, and it sounds like you are getting back in touch with your instincts. 

Guys do like kissing and cuddling!! This man sounds like an a**hole who doesn't even deserve another minute of your time. Don't think about when or how he will be sorry, because people like him never are sorry- they just go about using more people for their own agendas. What you need to focus on is YOU. What is your passion in life? Where do you want to be in 5 years? You can't hook your hopes and dreams onto a man, you must depend on yourself first and foremost. I know that you already know that. I am very sad for the experiences that you have been through, please know you have many "sisters" who have lived the same experiences and we are healing, too. You deserve the best from life, don't settle for anything less!! 

 
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