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November 1, 2005, 8:38 pm CST

How can I tell my dad...

Hello all :) 

I am so unsure of what to do...my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. After college (which will only be in about 2 years or so), we plan on getting married. We want to wait until college is over so we both have stable jobs.  

 

My father and my mother got divorced about 4 years ago, and I never grew up seeing the way a loving relationship was supposed to work. Bobby (my boyfriend) was the first guy to treat me with the respect I deserved. We even decided to put sex on hold until our wedding night.  

 

Bobby will be getting me a pre-engagement ring in winter of 2006, and I don't know how to tell my father. He is very cynical sometimes with relationships, and doesn't think we can work because we are young. I know that he is just scared because of what happened between my mother and him, but it hurts when he doesn't support me. To be honest, I was scared, and still do get scared, because I don't know how a relationship is supposed to work-I'm learning as I go along. Bobby, on the other hand, has parents who have been together for over 25 years and have a wonderful,loving, and supportive relationship. 

 

Anyway, thank you to anyone who has advice! 

 

-Nikki 

 
November 5, 2005, 6:09 am CST

help!

hey everyone.  well me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 2 years and the other night we were talking and out of no where she said do you remember the first time we had sex? and absolutely froze up and couldn't even get a freaking word out to save my life.  does anyone know of anything that i can do to make her feel less hurt, and make her feel like i still care about her and that moment was very important to me it was just a accident and i didnt mean too.  i would just love it if someone out there could help because this girl is my one and only and i am willing to do anything and i mean anything to fix this. 

thank you, 

tony 

 
November 5, 2005, 11:45 pm CST

Drop her!

Quote From: sum2000

You know .. we all have a love story.. mine is no differient than a man caught up in a love affair of long distance. I am also a married man. I have stayed to long in this marriage and it has gotten worst not better... fact is I have not even slept in the same room for over 3 years ...  I met this gal on line a year ago while she was going thru a divorce  and sense then we have never misses a day chatting. We met also too ...we are more in Love with each other now than ever before... I had to come back  get my divorce... mean while she (the lady I am with) said she needs time too because the dramma was to much for her children whom are adults and she doesn't want to hurt them.. they will never understand an internet relationship. So Now I am 1200 miles away .. we still chat and cam each other not missing a day .. But I miss her so much ...we are making plans but so much up in the air... my question is do you think we will make it .. it will be at least a year before we can meet again.. and now she wishes I was there so we could date .. I am worried I will loose her .. what do i do  
 I really think you need to get out of that relationship Basically you have been chatting to this chick on the internet wasting your time, when you could be out finding this awesome girl close to home. You are 1200 miles away and get to see each other once a year!?!? I am sorry but what kind of relationship is that?? Instead of chatting you could be out there meeting people. I think that if she really wanted this to work, it would have happened by now. Like you said her kids are adualts, i am sure they coud take it if their mom started dating again. Thats my opinion...stop wasting you time with some lady over the internet and find go out and meet some one!
 
November 11, 2005, 9:55 pm CST

frustrated

i am married 4 twenty years but my husband still do not seem to trust me and gives me and my children no privacy at all. he reads our emails, open post which is not his, etc. i do sometimes go on the chatlines to have fun and chat ,,,,but thats it. i do not know why my husband is so angry when he realises that im doing something which i have not informed him about. he needs to trust me because i am faithful to him. i have no privacy at all.  
 
November 13, 2005, 8:38 pm CST

I need advice!

I have been dating an amazing man for a year now.We took things slowly at first because I think you should only have sex with the person you love and trust.He respected my beliefs,we fooled around but never did anything"serious".We waited 9 months to make love and when it came down to it he couldn't do it because he had thoughts about commitment and the future,after discussing these things we had a great night together.Now he doesn't want to have intercourse he just wants to fool aroung and just have oral sex.He says he enjoys it more and that's the end of it.I am well taken care of when i'm with him in all aspects except when it comes to the intercourse that's where we keep having problems. Please help me out,i feel like i'm right about persuing this issue but maybe i'm just going crazy!!??Any response would be appreciated! 

 
November 13, 2005, 8:43 pm CST

Go with the flow

Quote From: nb0204

Hello all :) 

I am so unsure of what to do...my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. After college (which will only be in about 2 years or so), we plan on getting married. We want to wait until college is over so we both have stable jobs.  

 

My father and my mother got divorced about 4 years ago, and I never grew up seeing the way a loving relationship was supposed to work. Bobby (my boyfriend) was the first guy to treat me with the respect I deserved. We even decided to put sex on hold until our wedding night.  

 

Bobby will be getting me a pre-engagement ring in winter of 2006, and I don't know how to tell my father. He is very cynical sometimes with relationships, and doesn't think we can work because we are young. I know that he is just scared because of what happened between my mother and him, but it hurts when he doesn't support me. To be honest, I was scared, and still do get scared, because I don't know how a relationship is supposed to work-I'm learning as I go along. Bobby, on the other hand, has parents who have been together for over 25 years and have a wonderful,loving, and supportive relationship. 

 

Anyway, thank you to anyone who has advice! 

 

-Nikki 

I know that your parents' support means alot and it is a very important step in your life...but...This is your life where you make the decisions for your future.My advice is to tell your father exactly the way you feel.Parents are happy when their kids are happy, and If you're really happy and in love with Bobby - your dad will be twice as happy for you,that you found that special love that unfortunately he has lost.....
 
November 17, 2005, 12:43 pm CST

Porn

 Hey everyone..
I have a crazy situation.. I have been with my fiance for 3 years. We have a daughter she is a year old. We're young and  we're both going to college. My fiance has only had sex with me. He tells me he's in love with me and he only wants to be with me for the rest of his life. A few months ago he told me he wanted to see what it was like having sex with someone else. We broke up because of it. He cried and said that it wasn't worth losing me and his daughter over. And he would never cheat on me, blah blah blah. Anyways... now he's been looking at porn ALL THE TIME. It wouldn't bother me if we were having sex as much as I wanted to. I've even asked him what can we do to make our sex life better? I'm not against trying new things at all. I've even tried to talk to him into a few things.. He just likes to imagine he says. WHY? I dont get it. Am I over-reacting? I've been thinking about leaving him over this because It's getting out of control. My self-esteem can't handle getting any lower.

Please help!!

 
November 17, 2005, 1:49 pm CST

hiding?

Quote From: xfactorx

i am married 4 twenty years but my husband still do not seem to trust me and gives me and my children no privacy at all. he reads our emails, open post which is not his, etc. i do sometimes go on the chatlines to have fun and chat ,,,,but thats it. i do not know why my husband is so angry when he realises that im doing something which i have not informed him about. he needs to trust me because i am faithful to him. i have no privacy at all.  

You know as a married woman, you should never have anything to hide?  So why care if he looks are your emails and chat lines, unless you are saying things that you shouldn't be and talking to people you shouldn't be.  If you have nothing to hide and are doing nothing wrong, then let him check ... in line he will realize you aren't doing anything.  

  

 
November 21, 2005, 7:29 am CST

Ineed help fast.

  Hi all I need help and fast. My daughter is 16 and we found out she is pregnant and I need someone to talk to. My e-mail is wednesdaygi92766@hotmail.com  if anyone read this please e-mail. Thanks Becky
 
November 21, 2005, 7:38 am CST

SEX.

 I think you shouls wait you got your whole life ahead of you. Don't let any boys  pressure you into having sex.
 
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