Topic : 11/24 Great School Debate

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Parents want the best for their children, but what’s the best way to educate them? Dr. Phil’s guests face off in a debate about whether to school, homeschool or unschool. Dana and her husband, Joe, call themselves radical unschoolers. They say education happens as a side effect of life, and they don’t believe in tests, curriculums or grades. Are their three kids learning what they need to know? Then, RaeAnn says public schools are death traps and wants to homeschool her children. Her husband, Steve, says their kids are safer at school than they are at home. Can this couple reach a compromise? Plus, Nicole feels like an outcast at 26. She says she hated being homeschooled, and couldn’t relate to other kids. Share your thoughts here.

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November 24, 2006, 6:45 pm PST

We all want to do what is right

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I do not think that home schooling is for everyone nor do I believe that public schooling is either.  I think parents have a responsibility to do what will best benefit their child.  I have one child in public school and one that I home school.  While one does extremely well in the public school, the other does not.  I don't think it's fair to put all people in one box and say that is what's best for one is best for all.  It doesn't work that way anywhere else in the 'real' world. 

 

For those who have ailments - do they all take the same medication?  No, it depends on what ails them!  Does everyone take something for an ailment??  Not if they don't have an ailment!  Not everyone has the same learning style, abilities or disabilities.  You can't put all people in one room and teach them all the same way and expect them ALL to 'get it'.  Put all those alike (same learning styles, abilities and interests) in one room and teach them and they'll comprehend.  I'd like to see THAT happen in the public school system! 

 

And some parents don't have a choice but to send their child(ren) to public school.

 

I don't think anyone can tell anyone else what's best for the other's child and it be taken seriously.  This debate will never be resolved until we learn to accept each other's differences and accept that not everyone fits the same mold.

I couldn't agree with this person more. One size dosen't fit all when it comes to education.
 
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November 24, 2006, 6:49 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

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If your child is gifted, what makes you think YOU are qualified to educate him but an entire school system isn't?
I have yet to hear that having a degree makes you "qualified"  - there are so many different meanings to the word qualified.  An entire school system is not without its flaws, some very serious ones at that.
 
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November 24, 2006, 6:50 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

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I don't think that home schooling can match up to public or private schooling.  I would like to know how parents plan on exposing their children to advanced subjects such as physics, chemistry, calculus or technology classes?  Students gain a great deal of knowlege through interaction with other students.  Home schooling limits the success their children can attain. 

That is the misconception that people have about home schooling. I took a chemistry class with other home schoolers one day a week. We did experiments every week. Our teacher was a medical doctor. How many public school kids do you think have a teacher with that kind of education? I tool BIO 2 in college after taking home school biology, and I was at the top of my college class. Also, if home school students want to they can take dual credit classes in high school from universities in any subject they want.
 
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November 24, 2006, 6:50 pm PST

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We use K12 too. It's great!
What is k12? I'm from Indiana and have not heard of it.
 
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November 24, 2006, 6:52 pm PST

Homeschooled

I do have to rebuff Dr.Phil on his anti-home school when you reach puberty  and are home schooled.

I BEGGED my parents to home school me since I was in late 7th grade.

I started homeschooling my sophomore year, so therefore I started when I supposedly needed to be in public school.

I gladly am home schooled because I don't want to deal with the pettiness of the teen world.

I don't WANT to be a part of that social scene, if I went to public school again I am sure I would go crazy

I don't believe that I am socially retarded in any way shape form or fashion

So please do remember home schooling is better for some but not made for all.



 
 
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November 24, 2006, 6:52 pm PST

public school debate

I believe in the public school system.  However, I did have my children attend a private school for two years.  As a teacher, I was able to teach at that school which was a great plus for all of us.

The public schools offer children a very broad range of opportunities:  academic and social, as well as particular diagnostic services to assist children's learning.  Teachers are quickly able to consult with other trained professionals about children's abilities and disabilities.  Our school has teachers for academically gifted children as well as those needing resouce special education.  There is also a speech patholigist on campus and  a school psycholgist. 

There is a prescribed curriculum set by the state.  There is also a curriculum available to parents of home-schooled children that aligns with the same state expectations.  Teachers are continuously trained in specific academic areas and in child growth and development.  If a parent feels secure in teaching their child in all academic areas and can persevere so goals can be set and attained, then perhaps home-schooling is the way to go for those parents. (I would sincerely question the number of parents who would be able to do that.) 

I also agree with the research presented at the end of the show that there is not a significant difference between public and home-schooled children through Middle School ages.  Once children reach high school age, many things accelerate and social priorities change.  Course knowledge becomes much more intense and individual performance is closer to "real world" academic expectations and social interactive situations.

One area which is difficult for children who are unschooled or home-schooled to deal with is problem-solving real life situations.  Teaching in a public school presents many types of situations where children learn coping skills in handling difficult problems.  I have had quite a few challenging classes with difficult children.  I also work in a school that is nationally recognized school of good character and we use those character traits in working through quite a few situations.  This usually resolves those issues.  However, I remember one particular class with several major discipline problems. One day they each decided to act out and I looked at the class and spoke to those who were behaving and said the lesson to be learned that day was they were learning coping skills because perhaps one day they would have a boss who behaved  that way.  (We all made it through the year and quite a few children came back to visit me.  I guess we all learned coping skills.)

Unschooled and home-schooled children do not necessarily live in bubbles but their exposure to other children in an academic setting is very limited.  In trying to give their children well-balanced educations or learning experiences, working with all types of children who have all types of abilites is just not part of their "curriculum."  I feel that can be a significant loss.

 

 
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November 24, 2006, 6:53 pm PST

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already employed!  At age 11 he has several thousand dollars in the bank.  Not a bad start. 
Michelle
Same here! Unschooled and employed by local company and self-employed, as well.
 
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November 24, 2006, 6:54 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

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Kudos to you!  I too began homeschooling my three children this year. Each of my children are homeschooled for different reasons. We homeschool through a charter school which is actually a virtual public school. I know that they are getting everything that they need. We even have a weekly meeting where kids get to go to "class."

 

I have read many comments on how teachers are not getting enough credit. I will give credit where credit is due. There are some fine teachers, and there are some not so fine teachers. I worked in special ed. classes for some time. I can tell you that in this type of situation, the aide does most of the "teaching." For the most part, the teachers are planning and writing IEP's, not teaching. But, the "uneducated" aids teaches because she passes a test. I'm sorry, but teaching is not that difficult. As parents, we are always teaching our children, whether the child is in public school or homeschooled.

 

As far as socializing, why do kids need to be socialized in a school setting?  There are plenty of opportunities to socialize outside of school. Why do we want kids socialized in a school setting? I have to say that the socialization that my kids did learn in the public school were the things I would not want them to learn: cussing, hitting, fighting, how to dress (inappropriately), dirty jokes, slang, and so much more. Sure their were some friends, but not true friends.

 

Public schools work for most kids, not all. There are many learning styles and the public school does not address them all. The kinesthetic learning can't possibly learn in a public school -- it would be deemed as having ADD. 

 

All in all, each child is an individual. I can truly see why homeschooling is a growing trend.

 

Why were the Charter and Virtual schools not mentioned?  Soooo many kids would benifit.  I wish they paid for it in Oklahoma like so many other states do.  I know people would homeschool if it were paid for like in Texas and many other states.
 

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November 24, 2006, 6:54 pm PST

that's the difference

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I wonder if the parents who school or teach their children also act as their doctor and dentist? I'm amazed at the lack of respect the teaching profession receives from the public in general and particularly from parents who consider themselves the best techers for their children. Yes, they are the best teachers when it comes to morality, manners, etc and trained prfessionals are the best teachers for their children when it comes to academics.

No other profession requires the same amount of continuing education that teaching does. No other profession receives more public scrutiny, criticism, and general lack of respect that teaching does.

Granted, there have been some very violent and unfortunate events at schools across the country and I understand why parents are concerned with the sfety of their children. Overall, our schools are safe and I believe, as a teacher, that most of today's teachers have their students best interest in mind on a daily basis. It would be nice to be as respected as the other professionals.

I don't know any home schooling parents that would actually compare a teacher to a doctor or a dentist.  That said, for six consecutive years, the only time my children have been to a doctor is for an annual check up.  Each time the doctor replies "Sometimes I don't know why we bother to do this each year".  We also skip flouride treatments at the dentist and do not drink flourinated water.  My kids, the oldest being 11, have zero cavities.  The difference is likely related to their diet.  They rarely  eat processed or packaged foods and refined sugar is very low in their daily diet as well.  We are very mainstream people though...just with a different mindset that is running along very well for us.  I've never met  a dentist or doctor that has summers, and a number of other breaks each year have you?  While I realize you may be working at home in prep tasks in those times, I've never gone to my doctor's or dentist's home to receive services.  I do not believe your profession is comparible to that of the other two you have mentioned. 
I have first hand experience with using my public education system and first hand experience being part of a diverse and rich home learning community.  This leaves me being able to offer more than just an opinion on the topic of home learning and it's value. 
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November 24, 2006, 6:54 pm PST

Advanced young children due to home schooling? Not necessarily.

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I'm homeschooling my 5.5 year old daughter. Since she was four years old, she's known how to read, count to 100, recognize colors like TAUPE, shapes (beyond triangle and square) and the list goes on. I take her to a home school co-op where she takes Spanish (her teacher is Chilean), Math, Book Club, Story of The World and Sign Language. I teach a World Cultures class a this same co-op. These are classes that wouldn't even be remotely accessible to my daughter were she in our public school system. She tests at a high 2nd grade level which tells me that the requirements for 2nd grade in our public schools are ridiculously low because I think that her knowledge is what any 5-6 year old should know.  

 

The experience you detail in your highschool experience is fabulous.  For you. That doesn't mean that everyone in your high school is equally as pleased. Check out  the list that has been posted of famous home schooled American Citizens who have made their marks in science, math, civics, literature, government and more. Consider these people as well as those those we don't know, before labeling one who is home schooled as uneducated and useless. One thing I hope you learn as you continue your education is that not everything is black & white. There will be many things in life that you don't understand  but that doesn't mean that these things are wrong or merit-less. Respect for others opinions, even if you disagree,  is a huge part of a successful education and I hope you will take that with you to Emory.

I think it's fabulous that your daughter is so advanced for her age. However, I don't believe that can be attributed to home schooling. Sometimes kids are just born with a natural ability to learn faster and at an earlier age.

While both of my daughters were always advanced (from preschool onward), I can use my younger daughter's younger years to more closely compare with your daughter.

My daughter surprised the heck out of us when she could pick up the Wall Street Journal two days after her 2nd birthday, and begin telling us the names of each letter (upper and lower case), followed by the sounds they made. It blew us away because we hadn't done anything special to teach her this other than giving her the typical toys.

Shortly after that she began reading small words. Right at the time of her 3rd birthday, I drove by a new area when my daughter exclaimed "visitor's parking". I was shocked when I realized she had just read a new sign that had been put up. This was far beyond dog, cat and hat.

By 5, she was reading so well and loved reading so much that while waiting for her sister's gymnastics class to end, she would run out of words to read so she would start reading the ingredients in the candy or chips package she had. Many parents around us were absolutely shocked and always asked me how old was she. She could actually read those huge words!

Count to 100? By 5, she was doing more than just counting. She had figured out math. Addition and subtraction was extremely easy, with multiplication and division being pretty strong, as well. We attributed this to her watching her sister (3 years older) doing her homework. We know no one was teaching her this stuff.

I also started asking around for her to start piano lessons when she turned 6, but the best teacher I found wanted to start her at 5. In less than a year, she was playing songs at the high school level. A year later, she was playing college level songs. She was amazing to watch! But she didn't like to practice as much anymore so she quit.

During this time she also took gymnastics, and was placed on the team at a very young age. Then she was the "star" of expositions because she could do multiple flips and higher level skills while so tiny and so young. I finally pulled her out after several years because it's too much to have a child practice 6 days a week for 4 hours each day.

The news of what she could do really sank home as she got into public schools and began the normal series of tests kids take. The first was the test to see if she should be in the GT (Gifted/Talented) classes. She overwhelmingly qualified in all subjects.

I'm not sure where her 1st grade Iowa test results are (I'm not even sure if kids in the 1st grade took those tests?), but I found some of her other ones.

In the 3rd grade, she was working at the following levels:

Note: A number like 5.4 indicates working at the level of the average child in their 4th month of their 5th grade school year. 7.3 would mean the 3rd month of the 7th grade.

3rd Grade:

Vocabulary: 5.4
Rdg Comprehension: 5.8
Reading Total: 5.7

Spelling: 3.7
Capitalization: 3.0
Punctuation: 4.6
Usage & Expression: 5.0
Language Total: 4.1

Math Concepts/Estim: 5.7
Math Prob/Data Interp: 8.8
Math Total: 7.3

Core Total: 5.6 (this was in the 96% of national ranking)
Social Studies: 4.1
Science: 5.3

Okay, two years later, in the 5th grade, she then scored as listed below. Keep in mind that we did not do anything at home to teach her, and at that age, the teachers were restricted to assigning no more than 30 minutes of homework a night (when they did assign homework wish was pretty rare). Her primary method of learning was public schooling. The test was taken at 5.2 (2nd month of her 5th grade).

5th Grade:

Vocabulary: 8.7
Rdg Comprehension: 7.2
Reading Total: 7.9

Spelling: 7.0
Capitalization: 13+ (COLLAGE level)
Punctuation: 13+ (COLLAGE level)
Usage & Expression: 13+ (COLLAGE level)
Language Total: 11.8 (almost a high school graduate)

Math Concepts/Estim: 9.7
Math Prob/Data Interp: 9.6
Computation: 7.0
Math Total: 8.7

Core Total: 9.3 (this was in the 98% of national ranking)

Social Studies: 7.8
Science: 13+ (COLLAGE level)

I don't know where her 7th grade Iowa test scores are, but I remember that she had even more college level scores. I think it was her math that had moved into the college level, as well.

Also, when she was in the 7th grade, we found out she had ADHD (I never believed in any of that which is why it was caught so late, but there were undeniable signs that were causing her distress so we had it checked out). At that time, we had a full battery of tests conducted, and she came out with a 99% overall.

Many people have suggested that I move her up a year or two, but I have always refused, and now that she's in the 8th grade, I am very glad I did. While her intellect can pick up the academics very quickly, she is equal with other 8th graders in terms of her socialization, organizational skills, behavioral development, crushes, etc. And she is being challenged each day. She loves school!

I was badly abused in all my years of being in school, but this is due to the way my parents raised me, not because I attended public schools. I was not a wanted child and from birth on, anytime I needed something (like food), I was punished for bothering my mother. I spent most of my time alone in my room. I had no idea how to socialize with any kids and so I ended up getting picked on horribly. I never told my parents or asked for any adult's help because I believed I was defective, and if my parents found out that the kids were rejecting me, I would somehow be thrown away for sure. If I wasn't good enough for the other kids, then I most certainly wasn't good enough for my parents, and I would somehow cease to exist. My coping skill was to learn how to hide. If they can't see me, they can't hurt me. -- another thing my parents had taught me (if they saw me, they would hurt me).

I am in therapy -- have been going to a wonderful psychiatrist for hourly sessions twice a week. I'm about to hit my 2nd year of therapy and have made good progress and am now mostly needing support for some of the changes that my changing has caused (for example, my permanent separation from my parents as they continue to abuse me with things like blaming me for my father molesting me for 8+ years (I was kicked out immediately when I told on him)). After years of blaming myself and thinking something was inherently wrong with me, I have learned that the only thing wrong with me was that I was abused which caused me to react in ways that shut people out of my life, which I then used (not understanding) as "proof" of how people didn't want me because I was defective. So, yeah, I was kicked, tripped, had things thrown on me, called horrible names, and so much more each and every day to the point I learned to do nothing more than hide and fake things.

So was the problem I had at school simply because of the school? No. It's just a building. It is the PEOPLE in the child's life that make or break it. Fortunately, I was extremely vigilant in picking a good school system for my kids, and have been very pleased with the way they handle things (especially the high school).

Each person's experience at a school will be different, depending on the PEOPLE who parent the kids and who run the school. Public school -- in and of itself -- is not bad. It can be very good. But only if the PEOPLE -- parents and school admins -- take the time and trouble to make it good.

And the point of all the grades I posted is two-fold.

First, it's clear that some public schools definitely teach a child "at their own pace" even to the point of keeping them interested and involved when they're well above the grade level's expectations.

Second, having a child excel in certain areas is not necessarily a matter of how they were educated. Sometimes it's simply a matter of a child being naturally precocious. Just as children experience learning disabilities, other children experience the opposite and learn very quickly and easily, and all the gray areas in-between. ALL kids are different and cannot be measured by a report card, a test, or by how old they can tie their shoe laces.

I think what truly counts is whether they are prepared for life in every way possible -- socially, academically, facing challenges, dealing with problems, dealing with having to do things they don't want to do, kindness to others, respect for others (including the hierarchy of authority) and most importantly, loving their own selves for their own individual uniqueness (the good and the bad and all in-between) and being able to laugh at their own selves while just dancing in life as if no one's watching. THAT is so much more important to whether a child is able to achieve any milestone early or not. Because in the end, no one cares whether a person learned to read at 2 or 5 or 10. All that matters is if they are happy and well adjusted adults, happy to be alive and happy to be living their own special lives.
 
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