Topic : 200 Pounds or More to Lose

*Cindy, I'm Sooooo happy you have gotten it together and started again now instead of waiting another week. I don't know about you but I can gain a ton in a week and that shock to the system is awful so glad your doing it. You help me so much I'm glad your here. I'm going to check out that book. Bye the way I type all my posts in my e-mail program then unless AOL goes down which it does at times I don't lose my post on here and if anyone has other trouble like deleting and stuff you don't have a problem there either just cut and past on here.  <br> *As far as my little pool forget it the past few days it is so hot the water feels like it is almost 100 and the temp out side is in the high 90s but they say it feels like 115. I can't breath when it is like that so have not been in pool last few days. Mostly in my room where there is air. I'm going to the grocery store tonight after Dave gets home at 11:30pm it is a little cooler then. I have been doing leg lifts, sit ups, arm circles working small weights until the heat drops they say Wed. keeping fingers crossed. Jan  <br> *Linda you said: LINDA B.  (is there something foreboding having your initials identical to the abbreviation for "pound" (LB)? Gave me my chuckle today thanks LOL Your chicken sounds wonderful let us know how it comes out. Jan  <br> *Autumn congratulations on the new job and the weight loss. That many steps is awesome. You go girl. Just don't over do. I'm proud of you.

*You said...I wish things could have been better but the fact is, they weren't and there was nothing else left for me to do. I'm, in no way, glad that my dad died, and I miss the man that he sometimes was. I just wish we could have seen THAT man a lot more often.  But you know, everything happens for a reason. It will be a year in September and I still cry when I think of him, I miss ONE or TWO of his personalities very much....Boy can I relate my Dad will be gone 3 and a half years from West Nile at times it is hard for me because he was my Dad and I miss the nice side also yet I don't miss the angry side at times I feel guilty about the way I feel but I working on it. I know a lot of my eating issues go back to him but I'm the adult in control now I have choices and I don't have to react any more. There was a time that the negative behavior helped me possibly saved me but not any more now it will kill me. I am striving to simplifying my life so that I can live in peace also. But I'll skip the cows and chickens LOL I hope you realize all your dreams. hugs Jan

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*Jen so good to see you here. Your goals sound great. You can reach that Sept goal. We are here for you. Jan

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*cheryl good to see you, welcome back. Jan

Gr-r-r-r-r. I just hit the "Back" button on my computer instead of "Edit" on the screen and wiped out my response to you. DH and I both liked the chicken and peaches. I will make it again but I will large-dice the peaches and cube the chicken for ease of eating. We went out last night and I had baked flounder stuffed w/ crabmeat. I opted for a double portion of veggies instead of rice. The only starch I had was a small slice of homemade multi-grain bread (that was a better choice than the white rice). I GUESS ALL MY POSTS WILL BE RUN-ON AND LIGHT-FACED because none of the commands will activate w/ MSN_TV.   I lost another pound (down 11) and realize that it will slow up now. That's OK. I just feel better eating properly even though it will take years to lose all my tonnage. LOL ... Well, I'd better sign off. My two aunts are coming for us to take them out to lunch for the one aunt's birthday (82 ... does all her own housework and lawn work).. I will choose something healthy and enjoy the experience. LINDA B.                                 

I answered a bunch of posts but do not see them here so will do a few again then I'm out of here this is frustrating. There are a few but not the ones I wrote to Millie Brenda and others...

Millie I'm so sorry you had to go threw all of this I pray you are feel well soon. I'm still praying God Bless ((((HUGS))))) Jan

Brenda I'm sure Will, will be thrilled LOL but the guy you saw on Oprah Was Lance Armstrong not Will Armstrong but he is Will's plus many others mentor. Talk about pushing threw the pain he has done it. Jan

Hi Jen, Did you ever get the invite I sent you? What a beautiful place to live. Would sure love to see it for real one day but unless we hit the big lottery not sure that will happen LOL Jan

Hi Barb Welcome you have done so well and I'm sure a big help here to us.   I know there were several people who just came back good to see everyone I know Jennie was one sorry the old brain can't remember them all.   Megan, I love the articles you post. I use many of them with my live group and will tomorrow the one about weighing Thanks.  I'm really glad you are still..."hacking away at the 7 Keys." The S word has crossed my mind many times also in the past but not for a long time now thank goodness. It is important to not let our selves be pulled there. That's why the good thinking is so important. We can do this one day at a time. Hugs Jan

Loretta I'm so glad you found your path, I have been reading about his journey as well which just reinforced how I have been feeling. This guy is really amazing. As you know I have also been reading about Gary Marino's walk and his book The Big And Tall Chronicles it is been very motivating for me but I do have to say that Gary got a lot of help money clothes shoes and promotions to do his walk partly because he wanted to raise money to help over weight kids. I see where Steve is now getting some support as well.

  It is hard to imagine anyone starting a walk anywhere at 400 pounds. One of the things I have really noticed lately as I read about different people who are succeeding in their life is that they REALLY work at it until it hurts. How often have I pushed myself out of my comfort zone not often. I know so often I look at people Olympic winners, Lance Armstrong, Actresses and think how lucky they are. They are not lucky they have worked dam hard to get where they are. Just recently I was reading about different actresses talk about what it takes to stay the way they do Almost everyone f them said they worked out 6 yes I said 6 days a week and we're talking hard work out. People who play an instrument will practice many many hours a day. My friends daughter who plays with the Detroit symphony practices so long her fingers hurt and she has gotten a sore on her chin. This really made me stop and think if I want something I need to work for it yes there might be some pain but if I want to succeed I need to push threw it just like Steve Vaught did. (The Fat Guy Walking) He said there needs to be dedication and sacrifice and he said I don't want to miss out on birthdays, graduation, marriages and grandkids because I chose not to take my life back. Well, I don't either and I'm doing something about it. Loretta I'm so glad your doing it way to go Hugs Jan Holly, good for you going on your walk after getting up late it would have been so easy to just not go and say you didn't here the alarm, Way to push forward. My Goals for this week are:   1) To eat 3 healthy meals per day and 1 or 2 healthy snacks depending how I feel. Really monitor portion sizes.
2) To continue to drink lots of water
3) Exercise 5 out of 7 days. 4) To monitor my self-talk and maintain a positive outlook
5) Continue self search, read, write in journal. 6) Push myself harder, exercise a little longer even if it hurts. This is really weird I'm trying to put the breaks in like the guy told us or girl Phil's helpers LOL and some worked when I previewed it and some didn't so I'm trying again! We"ll see there is supposed to be paragraph breaks after everyone.

 

• Rebecca, High sweetie first take a deep breath and then breath out. Your posts are all here I just checked. click on your name color4do it will take you to a page that list your posts  by just clicking on View more posts from this user . I agree this board does seem to be harder to navigate I keep hoping it is just the bugs. The other night I could only navigate around 20 posts I couldn't get back to the first one when I hit First I could only go back to the first one I started at today so I don't know what to says about that.
• As far as the people telling what books or people help them, we all got here because of a man and his book, Dr Phil. Is he making money off us yes but has the program helped many people yes. I read a lot, something help some don't. I get a THE DAILY MOTIVATOR from Ralph Marston. It is so weird some days I'll get it and think well, that's nice but other times it will be JUST what I need and it will get me going again on the right foot. Then I'll post it to the board in hopes it will help someone else. A month ago I was struggling and someone from our Board told us about Gary Marino and I did some research and found he had written a book, I bought it and he just really impressed me and motivated me and I've been doing great all month. I'll tell you if I can lose this weight and write a book and help just one person like myself it will be all worth it. I hope by now you have had time to rethink it. I don't think we should push religion, the same as we ask people to not cuss and swear because it can offend people. So we have to be careful. I hope your doing well this week have not seen you post since this last one so hope your still with us thinking of you. Hugs Jan
  
• Hi Linda, I don't think the problems are with just MAC or MSN because I'm having my share and it is frustrating. Besides some messages I send hours reading and posting not coming on the board and I did check I went to my name and checked messages posted like I told Rebecca to do because I found hers that way but did not find mine any where. They all run together. The only think I can get to work is the red and black so I have started posting every other one in red or black. Hope you have a great lunch today. Your doing great. Your weight loss may surprise you and pick up again. Mine has but I think before my portions were to big until I started writing everything down. Keep up the good work you'll get there Hugs Jan

Cherie, I can't imagine being in an earthquake, I have gotten used to tornados......as use as you can get! Of course, we did have an earthquake here but really didn't notice it until it was over! lol

 

Last night had a terrible storm but got lots of rain so much cooler here now. So Jan head down here for the day and we can swim and be outside! You are doing so good. I hope that Bev had gotten those patches ready!  Have you seen Delight she hasn't showed up yet that I can find!

 

Loretta, I have to live in Key One.  The power of what we think is just so important.  Yesterday I got all "dolled" up for my first inteview and people who had not seen me in awhile, just could not believe how good I looked.  I thought why do I not look this good everyday.......and immediately my mind started going to unhealthy statements!  I do find though that it is easier to "shut them up". I see why a lot of people think they have mulitpersonality disease. I sometimes feel so "Sybil".

 

Linda B, I will fix that tonite have everything I need and get off early enough to cook.  You are doing such a good job at food choices. White rice is probably the one food I crave the most! But I do a fairly good job of staying away from it.

 

Megan, the space puppy showed up on your first message. Thanks for posting about weighing. I confess I weigh daily! Really seems to be a catalyst for me to work harder and be proud of myself for the work I do.   I have always said the food is my drug of choice.  And in many ways a more expensive habit!  I have gone the "s" route and believe me it is not worth it!  I will be glad to share it with you in an email if you think it will help but probably not something to share here.  It really makes me wonder how I made it to 53. God! that's how I made it.

 

Amanda, You look so good and I know have worked so hard. Is it getting easier. I would be interested in hearing your thoughts about Key I issues.

 

Brenda, You are just too funny! My kid would kill me for the pic! I hope though that everyone is well, including you!  I no more could go all day without eating..........I'm a foodaholic! 

 

Millie, God bless you guys! I'm so glad that you got to the hospital and that is so scary.  My prayers are with all of you! I know your husband was gone for two months (unless I"m confused) was he able to come home during all these trials? 

 

Everyone have a great day. Lots of laughing, smiling, (Dee, you are so welcome!), loving ourselves!  Cindy

Thank you for asking....my husband was gone when I started miscarrying, but he came home on Saturday.  Problem is, when I went to the hospital on Monday, he was just starting his new position here in Norfolk that day.  It was a tough coincidence.  We both have been incredibly stressed out.  When both of us are struggling, we tend to take it out on each other, not a good scene.  I'm hoping today things will settle down a bit.  He had to take my daughter to the hospital yesterday for a gash on her hand.  He was gone about four hours, poor thing.

 

ANYWAY,  I hope you all don't think I've got an advantage, having been in the hospital!  The blood I lost is probably replaced already.LOL  And they re-hydrated me, so I'm all puffed out!  August 1st is coming fast!  I can't wait to see Beverley here again as a regular fixture.  And I can't wait to hear how all of you did this month!  It's going to be exciting.  It really helped me stay motivated this time. 

 

Love,  Millie

"Unless you eliminate self-defeating thoughts, they will actually gain momentum, becoming more deeply lodged in the habitual patterns of your life and more unyielding to change"

 

ONE of my problem areas with Key One has been "Frustration Thinking". There are many times that I tell myself, "this is all too hard, I can't be bothered to exercise or I don't want to miss out on yummy foods anymore" Dr Phil says that there is always a pay-off for why we do the things we do. Why we make the "wrong" choices.  I struggled with this....as if I WANT to be fat!! I couldn't see any pay-off.

 

I realised that the pay-off was that I was avoiding the discomfort and challenge of changing my life.

 

It IS hard to turn your whole way of life around. To stop setting your life up to be an unhealthy, obese person. Was I really doing that to myself? The answer was, of course, yes.

 

I have realised to be healthy and slim I must deconstruct my life as I knew it and re-build it to live like a healthy and slim person does.

 

That means BABY steps and getting up and brushing myself off when I fall and starting again.

 

Following the keys shows me the path to a new life. I just have to practise staying on the path!

 

We WILL do this....together

 

Jen

 

"Successful people will do what unsuccessful people won't" Dr Phil

 

P.S. You'll have to forgive my spelling....the Dr Phil spell checker doesn't like some of my Aussie spelling!

I meant MEGAN!  But I couldn't backspace on my mistake.  Oh well, I'm a "Meg fan" anyway!  I must confess I'm a daily weigher too.  I know it's bad, but I can't seem to stop.  Maybe Cindy and I could 12 step it together :-)  Thanks for the info.  Maybe some day it will sink in.

 

Love,  Millie

those of you doing it....do yourself a faver and please quit!   I had to quit doing it.  I find I lose better if I do...and I get to see a bigger amount come off when i do weigh just once a week.  It does set my mood for the day..that is for sure!  It has been very tempting to hop on a lot lately (in fact for a few days there i was!).  because I have finally busted under a number which I seem to have been stuck on for over a year..and it is very exciting...but the Lord has given me the strength to leave that scale alone, in the upstairs bathroom where I hardly ever go. I am not sure how I am doing in the inches department, but look forward to finding out!  I don't even have the 1st # written down...so I am counting on Jan for that!  Jan...make sure you post those #'s for yourself...it could only encourage us!

 

 

It went very well...I felt a bit intimidated because he was quite quiet and reserved, and I wasn't sure if he liked it...well he went out front and made another appointment for next week!!  I am so happy...all that  anxiety for nothing.  I was a nervous wreck all day Monday over it...now that I have gotten through it..I feel like a conqueror!!  LOL!  Now I just got to drum up some more business  i don't have anymore appointments yet though many seem interested!  I will still be hanging around introducing myself to people in the meantime...and leaving my room open so people can take a look...it turned out very nice...the owner went out and bought a mirror to put in it to keep it from looking so small..lol.  Next I want to add some plants in there.

 

We have to refinance...AGAIN.  geeze!  I know we need to because we have more debt than we can handle..again....but it bothers me that we are just going to end up building it up again.  Maybe, maybe not...maybe I'll be getting so much business months form now it won't even matter...but the comapany is giving us a better deal than even last time and they are paying for the appraisal...THEN maybe next year our credit will be good enough to get a prime rate.  I am convinced that our financial problems have absolutely nothing to do with what we make, it's the way we handle things.  and I keep giving in when I don't completely agree with something DH wants to do.  Well the good news is, our credit is still something that can be worked with...and I may get cash out to take this big exam by the end of this summer...and become a therapist!

 

MY kids are going nuts this am, as usual!  Natalie is crying over every little thing.  Sometimes she gets like that..So I had better get going before the screaming busts my eardrum.. I hope she isn't coming down with anything...she isn't warm...I really want to get these guys out of the house today but it is so darn hot outside!!!!

 

Keep cool you guys!!

 

Concieve, Believe, Recieve, Achieve!!!!