Topic : 07/03 Big Love

Am I the only one who thinks that this "big love" is just as superficial as being attracted strictly to slender women? No matter what type of woman--big or small--a man prefers, selecting women to date based on their physical form not only itemizes women, but is just plain demeaning.  When a man shows romantic interest in me, I would hope that he is attracted to my character, my personality, my soul--things that truly define me as a person--first and foremost.  Physical attraction should be secondary.  Unfortunately, this obsession with the body has become epidemic in modern America.  And if that is the foundation upon which couples begin their relationships, we can expect steady increases in divorces, break ups and general heartache.  

I'm a healthy BBW who loves club Bounce. After viewing this show and reading some of the comments left on the message board I was shocked to see so many of these very negative, harsh and ignorant comments posted. I have always recieved the message loud and clear from society that I should be ashamed of myself and that I should rate myself as less than human because I'm not model thin. This message is not given just to big girls but to all girls. We are all taught that in order to be loved and successful that we have to fit into this idealistic mold of the perfect woman.  It's all supperficial, we know what we should look like but there is no reference made to what kind of person we should be beneath the surface. And if we don't reach this pinacle of perfection we will never find happiness or love...This quest for 'perfection' has driven women to inject toxins into their face,  purchase the perfect C cup and swallow potentially dangerous pills to loose weight and society tells us that we should want to do these things in order to be better people. Could someone explain to me how larger breasts and fuller lips will make me a better human being?  It's all descrimination no matter which way you slice it. Every person on the planet has a right to love whomever they want without judgement or ridicule. Being a BBW or a BBWlover doesn't hurt anyone. It's a choice that individuals have the right to make. I'm not a thin woman and I would not choose to be a thin woman even if I had a magic wand that would make it so, because I know that thin does not equate to happiness, beauty or health. I feel that all people should strive to be healthy and a healthy body comes in all shapes and sizes. As Dr. Phil says healthy is a lifestyle not a look or a clothing size (this is not a direct quote, just my interpretation of what I have read in his book). I could really go on and on but I'm gonna step off my soap box now.

Cheers and may you all find your happiness.

In case anyone wants to know the truth: No man, and I mean NO MAN wants a morbidly obese woman. There are some insecure guys who are in relationships with unattractive women simply because they don't have the confidence to score with a truly sexy girl and are fearful that another man would be too much competition for them with a sexy girl.  But if you watch these guys, every time a really sexy girl passes by, their eyes are fixed on them. I've seen it a hundred times! A REAL MAN wants a woman he can lift in his arms.

 I hope the situation never arises where their house catches fire and the fat woman passes out from the smoke and these "fat worshipers" are left with the task of carrying their 600 pound beauties to safety. 

 Any man that says an obese woman is what he wants is lying to you and to himself. All of you who want to reply with your heartfelt opinions, please feel free to chime in, but the TRUTH has been spoken.

 Tune in next tme when I speak the truth about the unhealthy, pathetically thin, anorexic "Twiggy's" that are on the other side of this coin.

Peace