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Topic : 08/06 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp, Part 5

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(Original Air Date: 06/26/07) Three couples trying to save their marriages continue their work at The Dr. Phil House. Throughout their relationship, Scott and Tara have had violent fights that have included slashed tires and police visits. Dr. Phil sits down with Scott to discuss how he can control his anger problem and set up personal boundaries that will put an end to the fighting with his wife. Afterward, Scott feels confident enough to vow to Tara that he is never going to yell at her again. Will he stick by his declaration? Then, Dr. Phil puts the group through some intense exercises, so they can learn their partner’s point of view. As each person stands before the group and explains what he or she really wants, raw emotions pour out, and the couples find themselves growing closer with compassionate support. Plus, Dr. Phil teaches them his rules for fighting (link to /articles/article/20 ) and his rules for children. After seeing a videotape of all their kids, the message is loud and clear. Will the couples apply what they’ve learned and change their families forever? Share your thoughts here.

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February 24, 2007, 2:32 am CST

Thank God for My Man

My husband and I have been married 25 years this October.  I'm going to lay it right out, and some won't believe it or they'll think I'm telling stories, but here goes.  I can count on one hand how many times we have fought in our time together, and it was more disaggrements then fights, we don't yell at eachother because we respect eachother.  If my children acted they way these people are acting, I wouldn't care how old they are, I'd send them for time out. 

Kudos Dr.Phil for trying so had to them to see the light!  I hope you can get the door to open or the curtans to part so, they can see themselves.

 

God Bless

&

Good Luck

Dee

 
February 24, 2007, 4:27 am CST

?????

It makes me wonder sometimes & I hope it's not just me... that these people in the Dr.Phil house are a bunch of wannabe actors really puttin it to the show with the drama... & the story lines as well... who writes the storylines anyway??.. they are so good at doing it... & the whole thing is so believeable... and it feels like it's too good to be true tv... like I said.. I hope its not just me.....
 
February 24, 2007, 5:41 am CST

Quote from Maria 3255

I really hope that these three families, with all the help of Dr.Phil, will break through to save their marriages.  I don't believe it will be an easy task, but they can do it if their foundations are strong and cemented. I will pray for them and their dear children.  Lory.   
 
February 24, 2007, 6:36 am CST

Quote to Dalitamc

Quote From: dalitamc

My husband and I have been married 25 years this October.  I'm going to lay it right out, and some won't believe it or they'll think I'm telling stories, but here goes.  I can count on one hand how many times we have fought in our time together, and it was more disaggrements then fights, we don't yell at eachother because we respect eachother.  If my children acted they way these people are acting, I wouldn't care how old they are, I'd send them for time out. 

Kudos Dr.Phil for trying so had to them to see the light!  I hope you can get the door to open or the curtans to part so, they can see themselves.

 

God Bless

&

Good Luck

Dee

Dear Dee, you are very blessed that you and your husband of 25 years have a relationship of respect toward each other.  Unfortunately when I was married to my first husband, we were married for 22 years, ours was a parent-child relationship. He was the parent and I was the child, and he liked it that way because he had some control over me.  I was very naive and I often felt frightened of him because he set himself up as a higher authority.  We had two girls, they are now 25 and 26.  When I turned 40 my father died not long after my birthday. My mother had passed away some years earlier. I can't explain it properly but I felt as if i suddenly grew up. I came to see myself as a person, not a dependant. I realised that i was starved for adult communication and affection and deep down inside i felt terribly lonely and I also felt that my husband and I were 13,000.000 miles separated from each other.  It was a strange feeling and I knew my husband wouldn't understand. After much pain and drama we ended up separating and divorcing.  He is now re-married and much happier than he was with me. He treats his new wife like an equal and she's not dependant on him. She has a much stronger personality than I had and perhaps thats what he really wanted. I am re-married too and my husband of 7 years treats me like an equal and i have to depend on him now financially because i injured myself at work, and cannot work now. I do feel bad about not contributing to the family budget in a monetary way as working always made me feel a useful person to society, and got a lot of pleasure earning my weekly wage, which gave me also self-esteem. I can't help feeling that I had been a burden to my first husband as I also suffer from clinical depression and had 3 nervous breakdowns during our married life. My new husband does understand a lot more as he had suffered with depression too.  I feel more accepted. It was hard for the girls at the time, but they have adjusted after all this time. They have trouble communicating with their father too and he treats them as if they were still 10 years old, which annoys them because they cant share how they felt and feel now.  May God bless you all as a family, Lory.(Maria 3255)  
 
February 24, 2007, 6:41 am CST

Praying for the couples

My heart really goes out to these couples but I will be honest they should be ashamed of themselves. One couple uses fowl language and leaves the room like a child. Unless,  that changes and they begin working together then nothing will ever change.  Another couple disrespects his wife to no end. What seems to be so bad is the wife seems like she really loves him, why is another Dr. Phil show. Of all the couples, I think this one has a better chance at making it work. I think the husband does love his wife and he is beginning to realize how it hurts her feelings when she is talked about in that negative way. On the other hand the wife needs to stop being so critical and dont bring the Mother into the problems. ..that definitly won't help..she needs to listen and talk things through.. be honest. He doesn't read minds so bring everything out on the table and start over. Finally, the last couple is bringing a third party into the picture which is a no-no. I dont think she will get rid of him. I think for that couple divorce preceedings should begin. There doesn't seem to be any foundation to work with.

 

I have been married for eleven years in March. My husband and I have been through the ringer with my illness, loss of employment, my disability,.. then he lost his job when it went over seas..then he became disabled. If we can stay together then what these couples are going through should be a breeze. They should realize how lucky they are they have good heath, good jobs, their children are healthy. The things they are argueing over seems so petty to me compared to what my husband and I have been through. I love my husband more each day we have a strong relationship and all the troubles we have experienced only brought us closer. And overall thats what I hope will happen to all three of these couple. They will learn to trust each other and let their relationship build on these experiences and get stronger. They shouldn't look back only forward..tomorrow is a new day and together they can survive.  Good luck!

 

From Rebecca

 
February 24, 2007, 6:56 am CST

Very blessed

Quote From: maria3255

Dear Dee, you are very blessed that you and your husband of 25 years have a relationship of respect toward each other.  Unfortunately when I was married to my first husband, we were married for 22 years, ours was a parent-child relationship. He was the parent and I was the child, and he liked it that way because he had some control over me.  I was very naive and I often felt frightened of him because he set himself up as a higher authority.  We had two girls, they are now 25 and 26.  When I turned 40 my father died not long after my birthday. My mother had passed away some years earlier. I can't explain it properly but I felt as if i suddenly grew up. I came to see myself as a person, not a dependant. I realised that i was starved for adult communication and affection and deep down inside i felt terribly lonely and I also felt that my husband and I were 13,000.000 miles separated from each other.  It was a strange feeling and I knew my husband wouldn't understand. After much pain and drama we ended up separating and divorcing.  He is now re-married and much happier than he was with me. He treats his new wife like an equal and she's not dependant on him. She has a much stronger personality than I had and perhaps thats what he really wanted. I am re-married too and my husband of 7 years treats me like an equal and i have to depend on him now financially because i injured myself at work, and cannot work now. I do feel bad about not contributing to the family budget in a monetary way as working always made me feel a useful person to society, and got a lot of pleasure earning my weekly wage, which gave me also self-esteem. I can't help feeling that I had been a burden to my first husband as I also suffer from clinical depression and had 3 nervous breakdowns during our married life. My new husband does understand a lot more as he had suffered with depression too.  I feel more accepted. It was hard for the girls at the time, but they have adjusted after all this time. They have trouble communicating with their father too and he treats them as if they were still 10 years old, which annoys them because they cant share how they felt and feel now.  May God bless you all as a family, Lory.(Maria 3255)  

Dee, it is wonderful tht you have been married for that length of time. My husband and I are working on eleven years next month in March. We have had a difficult time in our marriage with different things being thrown upon us. I found out I was ill and had to quit my job of ten years as a finance manager. Then shortly after that I was totally disabled. A few years later the same thing would happen to my husband. He suffers with depression, anxiety attacks, and he is bi-polar so his mood is like a roller coaster. He is a wonderful husband, spoils me to no end. Pleas don't feel like a burden to your husband, it sounds like he loves you no matter what the circumstances. You may not contribute financially but I bet you contribute in other ways like being a house wife, cooking, those things aren't an easy job. Some days I feel great and can clean cook all day other days my fibromalgia, chronic pain, lupus, and arthritis all seem to be at each other and I feel terrible. So Mike my husband knows when its a bad day, he helps out more and tomorrow is a new day and maybe I'll be feeling better. You take care of yourself, please write me anytime or IM me on yahoo if you prefer. I wish you all the best. Now if those couple can get it together and make things work.

 

God Bless, Rebecca

 
February 24, 2007, 8:13 am CST

Hard to believe Man Camp participants

As a person who has never used bad language (except for the occasional "damn") in my life, I was shocked to hear the kind of language the Man Camp participants have used towards each other.  To my thinking, decent people use decent language.  None of these couples would ever be found among my circle of friends.  They seem quite trashy to me.  Am I just being prudish, or do a lot of people outside of films, where bad language seems to be a requisite, use such language?  Why would women stay with men who call them such names, and vice versa?

 

Sharee

 
February 24, 2007, 9:13 am CST

Length of Man Camp?

My roommate & I look forward to Man Camp every week, but we thought it would be a trilogy--now we're up to 5 episodes!  Anyone know how long Man Camp is going to last?  Thanks!
 
February 24, 2007, 9:19 am CST

infidelity is a deal breaker every time

I faithfully watch the Dr. Phil school pretty much daily and some of the people I see there really astound me. I can say that I've been married four times, all for the wrong reasons and none of them has worked out.   My latest wife passed away last year, but she was very very ill for the entire time we were married and our sexual contact was non-existent for 6 of the 7 yrs we were married.  Not only did I never do it, but I never ever considered being unfaithful to her just because I felt the need to satisfy my sexual urges.  In two of my previous relationships, my ex was more than unfaithful and more than just once.  That is the most hurtful thing in the world and as far as I am concerned unforgiveable. If the person, regardless of who it is, will do it once, they will certainly do it more than once because the 2nd time is always easier.   Not everyone agrees with my opinion, but it is what it is. Thanks for listening.

 

sincerely

r. blum

oh

 
February 24, 2007, 9:20 am CST

02/26 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp, Part 5

 

 

I would not have these type of people in my home as guests.  They will not follow any rules when they return home, as they have no respect for anyone.  Their mouths are dirty, and the children are exposed to this.  Can we not see people that are more deserving?

 
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