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Topic : 03/06 To Be a Child Star

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Created on : Friday, March 02, 2007, 12:02:03 pm
Author : DrPhilBoard1
Thousands of kids hope to make it big in Hollywood every year – from dancing, to modeling, to singing, to acting. Many parents sacrifice a lot of money and time to see them realize their dreams, sometimes to the detriment of the rest of the family. But are the sacrifices worth it? Dr. Phil’s first guest, Lisa, says they are. She is dying to get her 13-year-old daughter, Brittany, in the limelight, and is willing to help her daughter reach her goals “at any cost.” Lisa’s twin sister, Katina, and her mother, Veronica, think Lisa is pushing Brittany too hard, and is trying to live her own dreams through her daughter since Lisa never made it as a child star. Then, meet a couple who says they are raising the next headliner: their 11-year-old daughter, Mary Sarah. But are they leaving their other children behind? One of their kids moved out of the house just to make a point! How can they find balance in their family and still help their star-in-the-making? Next, why one mother’s victory over breast cancer inspired her to do anything to make her 13-year-old daughter, Briana, a country music sensation. But is it putting Briana’s health at risk? And does she have a chance? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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March 6, 2007, 3:12 pm CST

Didn't know...

Quote From: flthomcat

Your last sentence assumes that they will go to college! Kids who are pushed hard in other areas (other than academics), don't normally have the time to devote themselves to schooling. Therefore, they are not the A students that they perhaps could be.

 

Do you know when children models work? They don't do most of their work in the evenings, weekends or summers. Modeling gets going (hot) in late August and then September. Modeling work for kids is normally during the 9-5:00 work day and NOT on the weekends.

 

Our daughter didn't make the honor roll the past grading period, so we haven't allowed her to model until her grades go up (and stay up), even though she's under contract.

 

She has the brains to go to college. The beautiful looks she has may make for a fun hobby ND help add money to her college fund, but they are SO WAY DOWN THE PRIORITY LIST when it comes to the big picture of life! And it's up to PARENTS to do what is best for their children....always.

I didn't consider that modeling was a full time job.  Good for you for putting your child's schooling before modeling.  It's fine as long as its not out of balance.  If she can add to her college fund, more power to her!  At least she wants to (and is capable of) impact society by using her head! 

 
March 6, 2007, 3:13 pm CST

I agree

Quote From: sandrae11

Did it ever occur to Dr. Phil's Producers that maybe these parents wanted to get on the show for FREE EXPOSURE...SO THEIR CHILDREN CAN FINALLY BE DISCOVERED.  I am not so sure that these parents came on to figure out how to deal with balance. and get Dr. Phils advice.

 

 

 We can only hope the parents read this board and give some deep thought to changing their behavior.
 
March 6, 2007, 3:26 pm CST

You are so right!

Quote From: beautifulmusic

Im not a parent but a child and i think living through your kids is wrong!  We will learn what we enjoy and not only like what is set in front of us. If the kid wants to be famous let them see both negative and postive sides when they are old enough. If they are young, all kids dream to be famous its not a big deal. Also the high class life isnt all its cracked up to be. All these celbs have as many as ten cars. When some people dont even have a place to live. open your eyes. If you have a good life but not famous be happy and start helping others.
 I'm glad to see such a wonderful post from a child! You've really got your priorities straight, good for you.

You also make an excellent point about the high class life not being what it's cracked up to be. Look at Britney Spears recent behavior, or Michael Jackson. Paris Hilton put porn movies of herself on the internet to get attention and to spite her parents.

The cancer Mom on Dr. Phil's show refuses to listen to the experts who say her daughter is too young, and she should: children's voices change as they get older, sometimes for the worse. For instance, a TV news magazine, I don't remember which one, did a story on Britney's voice and how it changed over time: indeed, it got worse. Now she's struggling to retain stardom by doing desperate acts...not an example I'd want my daughter to follow.
 
March 6, 2007, 3:27 pm CST

YOU ARE SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO RIGHT!

Quote From: bluejean1

 We can only hope the parents read this board and give some deep thought to changing their behavior.
I think that's precisely what those parents want.
 
March 6, 2007, 3:31 pm CST

Good Show

I thought today's show was very interesting.  My story is diffrent I actully want to be a singer but my mother won't let go out and do things to make my dream happen.  So i have to do the best i can with my computer recording software due to the fact she will not let me go to local studios.
 
March 6, 2007, 3:35 pm CST

"Child star" with irritable bowel syndrome

I have a concern for that young lady with the irritable bowel syndrome...{IBS}.  I was diagnosed many years ago with IBS and later found out that I really have Celiac disease....it is a gluten intolerance....my small intestine can't digest the gluten in breads, cereals, and other food products. It took many years of suffering with IBS and other medical problems before I found out what the REAL cause of my bowel problems were.  You DO NOT GET IBS FROM BAD AIRLINE FOOD OR BREATHING IN GERMS.  It can be caused by nervousness...but most likely it is from your body being sensitive to certain foods. You can sometimes pinpoint what foods trigger IBS. If I was her parents, I would have her blood checked to see if she has Celiac disease.....and if she does, then she will have to eat only GLUTEN-FREE foods for the rest of her life. Celiac will not go away on its own and you do not out grow it.....but eating a gluten-free diet will let your intestines heal and allow your body to absorb the proper nutrients it needs. Please, get your daughter checked for Celiac disease...at least you will know for sure if she has it or not. 

 
March 6, 2007, 3:56 pm CST

BINGO!

Quote From: sandrae11

Did it ever occur to Dr. Phil's Producers that maybe these parents wanted to get on the show for FREE EXPOSURE...SO THEIR CHILDREN CAN FINALLY BE DISCOVERED.  I am not so sure that these parents came on to figure out how to deal with balance. and get Dr. Phils advice.

 

 

It certainly 'occured to me'!

 

You hit the nail on the head.

 

As for the parents who are making their 'other' children the 'star's' UNPAID SLAVES ........... what goes around comes around.

 

Your children will resent YOU, and with GOOD reason!

 
March 6, 2007, 3:58 pm CST

Child With IBS

Call me old-fashioned, but thanks mom and dad for talking about one of the most embarrassing things possible. What an awful way to get exposure!
 
March 6, 2007, 4:08 pm CST

When I heard about Dakota in this movie I felt uncomfortable about it also.

Quote From: vchandler1

DR. PHIL, PLEASE - take this a step further on just how far a stage mother like Dakota Fanning's mother "Joy" sacrficed her daughter in the hopes of her little girl Dakota getting an Oscar nomination.  "It's a gritty perfomance that may just earn Dakota an Oscar".  Remember - Dakota as the little darling in "Charlette's Web"?  She is 12 years old now and just completed the movie "Hounddog".  In the movie the character gets raped by a grown man.  Dakota slips on a body suit while she "acts" like she is being raped by this grown man.  Her mother and manager thinks this ok because they are on the set, and she has a body suit on during the rape scene.  Dakota also runs around appearingly naked or clad only in underpants.  Dakota defended the actions of her mother saying they are "friends" and she totally trusts her mother's decisions regarding her career.  Please anyone reading this!!!  The only way to stop this is, is with the almighty dollar.  DO NOT PAY to see this movie!  Boycott the theater, Boycott next years Oscars.  In America we have free speach.  We have the choice to read what we want, write what we want.  We also have the right to choose not to put money into the pockets of people who produce and direct small children in basically soft porn films, and call it acting.  Imagine what frame of mind that little girl had to get into to ACT like she was being raped.  Did the other actor who was acting like he was raping her, grind himself into her body suit?  That poor child.  She will never have her innocence back.  The sad thing is that this desensitizes a person so much, you are just setting them up to be abused later in life.  Hollywood would not use children like this, if we did not pay to go see it.  Think of all the pedofiles and perverts who will now be able to walk into a general public theater, and be able to get their jollies all for 8.00 a look.  Don't support the abuse of this child, and the others like her.
I know it's only acting but she's just 12 years old. I saw her being interviewed about it and she does indicate that she trusts her mother's decisions. That's kinda sad. I think she's a little young for that sort of thing. I guess it's just a sign of our times.I really can't understand her mother's thinking on this decision.
 
March 6, 2007, 4:19 pm CST

03/06 To Be a Child Star

Quote From: lalondem

I have a concern for that young lady with the irritable bowel syndrome...IBS.  I was diagnosed many years ago with IBS and later found out that I really have Celiac disease....it is a gluten intolerance....my small intestine can't digest the gluten in breads, cereals, and other food products. It took many years of suffering with IBS and other medical problems before I found out what the REAL cause of my bowel problems were.  You DO NOT GET IBS FROM BAD AIRLINE FOOD OR BREATHING IN GERMS.  It can be caused by nervousness...but most likely it is from your body being sensitive to certain foods. You can sometimes pinpoint what foods trigger IBS. If I was her parents, I would have her blood checked to see if she has Celiac disease.....and if she does, then she will have to eat only GLUTEN-FREE foods for the rest of her life. Celiac will not go away on its own and you do not out grow it.....but eating a gluten-free diet will let your intestines heal and allow your body to absorb the proper nutrients it needs. Please, get your daughter checked for Celiac disease...at least you will know for sure if she has it or not. 

I can relate to the people who suffer from IBS. I'm a sufferer of this condition as well. I'm finding it hard to believe that airline food ,and breathing in germs can contribute to this condition. Stress and nervousness is a major factors of it. I'm sympathetic to the mother who is a cancer survivor to a point. When the daughter's health comes into play. It's time to pull in the reigns a bit. The girl doesn't need the pressure or the stress. My advice is to take care of number one for awhile. She's young have a good voice, enjoy the years of perfecting the craft. Nashville can and will wait.
 
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