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Topic : 08/08 Weddings Gone Bad

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Created on : Friday, March 16, 2007, 10:15:51 am
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(Original Air Date: 03/19/07) Drunken fistfights, motorcycle accidents and police helicopters hovering above … not exactly the building blocks of an ideal wedding. Today’s guests say their perfect day was anything but! From nightmare weather to emergency room visits, these weddings went horribly wrong, and the newlyweds say their marriages are suffering because they can’t get past the painful memories. Nicole says she and her husband-to-be, T.J., promised each other to abstain from alcohol prior to their wedding ceremony, but T.J. broke that promise and got so drunk, he could barely recite his vows! Their special day went from bad to worse when T.J. turned violent, and the police were called. T.J. says he’s apologized enough, and it’s time for Nicole to forgive and forget. Then, Paul and Monica say many things went wrong on their wedding day, but the worst was when they rode off on a motorcycle, only to crash as they turned the corner. They’ve been married for five years and say their wedding calamity set off a curse, dooming them forever. What does Dr. Phil think? How can these couples say “I do” to a brighter future? Talk about the show here.

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March 17, 2007, 11:36 am CDT

"I do" overs

Has anyone thought about having another wedding?  A smaller, much less expensive wedding but just as meaningful.  A new starting point?!   It might help to create happy memories for the couples rather than sad ones...or in TJ's case, just having some memories might be nice.  : )

 
March 18, 2007, 2:37 pm CDT

You know, I just don't get it.

I understand that some people want a nice perfect wedding, but if something goes wrong,I say get over it and move on.My husband and I got married almost 33 years ago on an island on the lake near where we live. My brother took us over in a little john boat. Then he went back and got my husband's brother-in-law and wife. (The brother-in-law is a minister) My husband's sister and my brother were the witnesses. It's what we wanted to do. We have never regretted it. I wouldn't go back and change a thing. Like I said, I DO understand that different people want different types of weddings. But ,I will never understand this thing about something going wrong and never getting over it. It doesn't make any sense to me.
 
March 18, 2007, 4:43 pm CDT

End it

This needs to stop. I understand sticking around for the kids but when thinking best for them thinking about yourself doesnt have to be forgotten. They should do what is best for the entire family.
 
March 18, 2007, 5:47 pm CDT

03/19 Weddings Gone Bad

These people think they are "cursed"....?
 
March 18, 2007, 6:16 pm CDT

Counseling

Quote From: penny_lady

These people think they are "cursed"....?

Time to seek a counselor (Dr. Phil)  find a way to get over this, create a new beginning and move on.

 

 
March 18, 2007, 8:05 pm CDT

Excuses, excuses

Quote From: penny_lady

These people think they are "cursed"....?

It's only a "curse" if they let it (superstitious nonsense!!). My 2nd wedding was far from "picture perfect" (Mother & niece of Bride had food poisoning [niece upchucked in the church], Mother and aunt of Groom got in a car wreck, delaying the ceremony for an hour, MOB is so wiped out she takes daughter & niece of bride home right after the ceremony & bag the reception).

 

Guess what? We survived!

 

IMO, too much emphasis is put on the BIG DAY, as opposed to the lifetime...

 
March 18, 2007, 8:18 pm CDT

OOOHH Can I relate

When I married my husband (almost 4 years ago), he was the perfect boyfriend and I though our wedding night would be wonderful. As it turns out it was a nightmare. He was mad at my father for my dad making some harmless comment that my husband took totally out of context. then we had a separate reception for the people that wanted to drink. My husband got totally bombed, we then ended up at my sisters house for a barbecue and he continued to drink. He was then passed out on the couch so I got him up and got him in the car to go home. Half way down the block we forgot his shoes so I turned around to get them, he started screaming at me and calling me all kinds of names, jumped out of the car threw his cell phone at the car, put a dent in the car and would not get back in. So I left him (we were only 6 blocks from home at this point). I went home and he kept calling me on my cell phone and yelling at me how he didn't want to get married I was a b****, a c***, he threw his wedding ring and it got smashed by a passing car. He then got home and kept screaming at me until he passed out. The next morning he was apologetic and wanted to make it up to me, but nothing can make up for ruining a night that was suppose to be the happiest for both of us. I still do not let him live it down. I can relate to these couples.
 
March 18, 2007, 10:56 pm CDT

RUN

Quote From: palshanna

When I married my husband (almost 4 years ago), he was the perfect boyfriend and I though our wedding night would be wonderful. As it turns out it was a nightmare. He was mad at my father for my dad making some harmless comment that my husband took totally out of context. then we had a separate reception for the people that wanted to drink. My husband got totally bombed, we then ended up at my sisters house for a barbecue and he continued to drink. He was then passed out on the couch so I got him up and got him in the car to go home. Half way down the block we forgot his shoes so I turned around to get them, he started screaming at me and calling me all kinds of names, jumped out of the car threw his cell phone at the car, put a dent in the car and would not get back in. So I left him (we were only 6 blocks from home at this point). I went home and he kept calling me on my cell phone and yelling at me how he didn't want to get married I was a b****, a c***, he threw his wedding ring and it got smashed by a passing car. He then got home and kept screaming at me until he passed out. The next morning he was apologetic and wanted to make it up to me, but nothing can make up for ruining a night that was suppose to be the happiest for both of us. I still do not let him live it down. I can relate to these couples.
Hi

In my opinion, your husband has serious anger issues, I would run, who is to say  this was not  just  the begining of something really bad. Be careful, or get him some help
 
March 19, 2007, 2:34 am CDT

just separated.

Hi,
On monday 12th march my husband of 16 years moved out. We have two teenage children.15 and 13 years. We have not had a happy marriage and I was pregnant when we got married. For some reason my husband has continued to throw this at me for most of our married life. I know now that this was a symptom of the fact that he was not in love with me and was looking to blame me for getting himself in this mess. We continued with our marriage. I can say that he did not try very hard to commit to it. He became more withdrawn over the years and even though I kept trying to be loving and caring. He progressed to spending most of his time on the internet and has become addicted to pornography. He has also become addicted to a site he has virtual girlfriends from all over the world that of course are busty and sexy images. He has just recently started contacting them via phone and so this is no longer 'virtual'. I have cried bitter tears and did the wailing thing when you hurt so badly that it is the only release from the pain. I was never really good enough for him. Never thin enough, or intelligent enough etc etc. My children are more pragmatic and say he is gone forget about him.. That is probably because he has hurt them over the years by not giving them the attention that they deserved. I make sure that they see him so that they can keep up the contact with him. but this is only the start and financially and emotionally the pain is going to be with us for a while.. On a positive note i am determined to get over this. I am going to give myself until my 45th birthday in may and then i am going to live as an emotionally independent woman. I will not want to invest any more time on mourning his departure. Who ever gets him next is welcome to him.
 
March 19, 2007, 4:47 am CDT

Don;t they see the obvouse?

Just like others have suggested......Keep it simple and get re-married.or do they wanna repair what was broke and then broke again.i believe most anything is fixable.Let this go....Start fresh and this time get it right....Good luck.
 
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