Topic : 08/20 The Dr. Phil House: Saving Grace, Part 2

No...I was told he went for therapy and to see a priest. 

I am grateful that Dr.Phil has the courage to air this on TV.  I believe my brother in law is a pedophile and many yrs ago he was arrested for sexual misconduct with a child.  At that time my husband spoke with the members of his family and explained that they all need to get counselling and make sure the children were okay.  Instead of the family working to ensure the safety of grand kids, nieces and nephews, we were made to feel like outcasts!  When our children came along we kept them away from dear brother in law . This enraged the other siblings and we have not been welcomed to any family function since.  The grandparents are in total denial of the harm caused in this family and continually professes their love for their grandchildren.    Please know that you are not alone and be very careful with the members in the your family as from my experience this grandpaw has done this before.  This is the one he got caught at!!  Bless you as you move forward.  Thank you for your courage in sharing your story.  Sadly you are not alone.

Steves  moved away from the  "devil" defense and onto the "Jeckyll and Hyde" one now.   Whats next?  Aliens took over his body? 

I fear for past and future victims of this man AND this womans!

Why would legislators set a precedent against themselves by being tough on child molesters?

In many states it is still legal to have sex with a 15 year old. There must be a whole lot of these bleeding heart jerks in politics: that's all I can figure.

This is my greatest fear.

 I see how it still eats at my mother. Her abuse is 50 years behind her!

HELP!

I have daughter who is almost 3. How do I teach her to say no.... to scream out.... to bite and kick and fight..... I can't imagine, and now I am so scrared.

Please give us some tools to raise our children!!!

I just saw part of the first part of "Saving Grace" and it immediately took me back. My grandfather molested not only me, but my younger sister and my 2 younger brothers. He lived next door. He and my grandmother stayed with us when my parents traveled for business. The molestations went on for years. My parents didn't know until 20 years later and they were devastated.
Before he died in 2003 at the age of 35, my brother struggled for years with drug and alcohol addictions, which are directly attributable to the molestation. The other brother suffers from depression and an addiction to prescription pain medication and is very much a loner. My sister struggles with trusting anyone- but especially men. She has a wonderful husband who knows what happened and has helped her work through it. The problem with being molested as a child is that you can never really get over it, it becomes part of who you are and shapes how you think and feel about everything. I have 4 wonderful children and I think I would kill anyone who did to them what was done to me and to my siblings. I have a happy, positive, successful life, I've been married for 25 years to the same terrific guy, but seeing shows like "Saving Grace" takes me right back into the hurt.
I was not able to confront my grandfather about what he did- he died in 1980. The grandfather in this program who seems to take no responsibility for his actions needs to know that he has changed forever who this little girl is and what she will become. She will never forget what he did to her and it will factor into future relationships. Even with counseling, she will always be someone who was molested by her grandfather- that is his legacy. She should not ever have to face this man again or the grandmother that covered up for him. She should have that right. God bless Grace and her parents.

You make a good point that we need stricter laws. Many people do not realize that many people are molested. I hope this family will focus on getting help for Grace and leave the relationship with the Grandfather alone. He will never be healed. Pedophiles are not healed they are just controlled. My questions are when was the Grandmother molested and by who. And I am very sorry for Grace's Dad because he shows so many attributes of a molest victim. It is much harder for men to talk about the molestation. I feel sorry for this family but I do hope they focus on healing Grace through counseling for her!!! She can get through this and turn this into a strength for her. I feel sorry for this family but positive things can come out of it. They can become stronger than ever before.

I am a victim of the same thing.  My grandpa molested me on my 6th birthday and continued until I was 9 years old.  When I wanted to confront him and send him to jail for the rest of his natural life, he died from a massive heart attack.  I was ready to send him to prison and let him become the victim.  Somebody would have gotton him to be his female and taught him a lesson in that aspect of it.  I have worked in the corrections now that I am older, and know that the prisoners do NOT tolerate child abusers, sexual predators, and woman beaters.  I still wish he would have spent some time in jail and died there and not when he had his freedom and dignity.  I am 24 now and was in tears watching this show.  I wish this grandpa would go to prison and learn his lesson and not blame it on the "devil".  It is him and he is disgusting.......

There are stricter laws for pirating music and movies than there is for molesting a child!  Unbelievable.  Because producers have the money to lobby against that stuff.  Kids don't have the $$ to influence a politician.  Very sad!