Topic : 08/16 Family Drama

Sometimes babes, even challenged ones, have more sense than the rest of us.  But, I , like her, felt something was just skewed with everybody, & I do mean eveyrbody.  Tell you daughter Hi--, "Hi Sarah!" , &, of course, I think Dr. PHil is pretty good, too, obviously. 

Carrie to me seem the most stable.The oldest sister seems to be the most unstable .The father seems to be a protector of Carrie, which he should, but he seems more scared of the other siblings, He needs to be more powerful. The son really don't want nothing to do with the situation.I think the mother is the most devises of all. You can tell she pits the siblings against each other especially Carrie. 

I think the mother is the catalyst in creating the drama and chaos in the family. I sensed the father isn't strong in leading, which surprised me given his Mormon background.

 

Isn't it obvious that Carrie has an eating disorder because she doesn't feel in control of her life?

My heart goes out to her. GO DR PHIL! Thank you for supporting her and not allowing the family demonize her as the villain.

  Carrie and her family are indeed in need of help.But can you seriously believe that "SHE",is the victim?The whole family are victims,but Carrie uses all this to her advantage.I watched the show and immediately knew that she would have it come off to her benefit.Why did she only tell her Father that she had an eating disorder?He isn't much better than her,letting a child use you like that.The whole family lives off of the drama that each one of them causes.

  But she is a piece of work.She knew that when she came on the show she would make it all about her.She lives for it,she thrives from it and the award goes to........Wonder if she thought about a career in movies? I just hope the whole family gets the help each of them deserves and really,really need....Don't even get me started on the Mother....she gets an award too....It's just sad that these people use each other and never truly know the meaning of "FAMILY"....

You too are confused concerning the Mormon religion.  The FAMILY is the center of everything, the church is a support system, or safety net to guide families.  If a Mormon family misinterprets or misrepresents those guidelines, it is their personal misunderstanding or misinterpretation.  HOW they CHOOSE to initiate or teach or follow those guidelines is uniqe to every family.  Some CHOOSE and practice SUCCESSFUL methods and others, like Carrie's family are a mess, just like families of other faiths or no faith.  Whether your final destination is "Heaven" or "Hell" or "Eternal Life" or "Outer Darkness"  (as you put it) is still a matter of choice.  It's the ACTIONS you choose, and your choice of faith or a plan that get you wherever you end up. 

Happy or miserable,  religion or none, it's always a matter of choice.  Have you read "The Hiding Place" by Corrie Ten Boom?  or any of the survival stories of World War II  prisoners?  Even though they were suffering the most horrendous things, they still had one choice, and that was their attitude.  None of the experiences that I have read had a "victim" attitude.  They certainly had plenty of people to blame!!!  But their ultimate survival depended on their choice to keep living.

 

Carrie and her family and others in chaos can still choose to keep living.  But they must make the choice. It won't matter how much professional, medical, religious or other help they get, it won't help them unless they choose to change.  I think that all anyone can do is offer them the opportunities, you know, you can take the horse to water, but you can't make it drink.  You can pour the water on it, you can sink it to the bottom of the barrel, but it will still die of thirst!!! While it's blaming the rider for some problem with the water.

 

 

I wonder if Dr. Phil didn't miss something here-- I believe Carrie might be bi-polar, chemically imbalanced or at least terribly self-absorbed.

 

What hit home to me was that at the end of the show everyone in the family was crying (normal response!)  except Carrie who sat smugly with her Daddy's arm around her (instead of  around his wife, who was crying). Somethng wrong with this picture.

 

I think Carrie IS the problem here but I also think her father is wrong in ever listening to her criticize his wife and the rest of the family... She is manipulating him and he is letting her do it.

Wow!   Run, Kelly!   There is drama here--lots of it.     Church people seem to thrive on histrionics.    It's built in to the storyline.      In reality, Christ and Young, or whomever the leaders may be all preach love for one another, but ultimately, the purity of love can downgrade quickly to judging right and wrong (of others, not self) , then to manipulative controlling behavior and the drama that goes along with control issues, which are major church-y themes.    Control the masses with judgement.            Not one person that I saw in this family is without extreme histrionic (drama) destructive behavior.      If you want to make a change, cut the crap, go back to spiritual love of self and others.   Simply drop your storylines, and practice this:  "Want more for others than you want for yourself".      A wise person once said that it is amazing how little it takes to get by.     Start now.   Peace.