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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:56:39 am
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Are you or someone else you love addicted to something unhealthy? Whether it's food, alcohol, drugs, painkillers, sex, pornography, or something else, find support here.

 

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August 3, 2008, 11:31 pm PDT

HI

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Hi, I am new here and new to the whole message board, I hope to meet new friedns and show support to others going through hard times and maybe get advice from others going through the same stuff I deal with ,Hope you all have a Blessed Day. Kobi

This is a great place to meet new people! Not many posts lately though but I always check in.

 

Good to see you here.

 
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August 12, 2008, 12:44 pm PDT

Addiction Support

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I have been suffering with a gambling addiction for years and it is starting to take its toll. I have called gambling help lines, read books on gambling addiction, talked with friends and family about my addiction and all to no end. I am so desperate for help that I have come here searching for answers. I always thought that I had a large love for life but after years (decades) of this addiction I have seriously been considering suicide. Yes I know that is not the answer and there has to be an answer out there for me somewhere but I can't help but feel that I have reached the end of the line. I can't believe that I am so desperate for help that I am here at my computer writing this message. Sorry for blithering on like this but I need help and I need it soon before I do something to embarrass my family further.

   

  

   

  

Crying for help again…..gametime.

   

  

      Two years have passed since the last time I posted here and I am no further ahead with my gaming problem then I was in July/06. I fact my gaming problem has become worse rather than better.I don't know what to make of the lack of responce to my plea for help. I guess my life isn't worth the time it took me to write this message. Wow, do people really care that little about each other that not even one responce in two years has been posted. Somone said that no man is an island.....well I call b.s. I am an island and I guess the only support I will recieve will be from myself. Now concidering that I have very little left to live for I guess that leaves me very few outs to choose from. To live or not to live now that is the question. Maybe I should start an on line poll about how I should off myself, then maybe I will get some sort of responce. I can just see it..."here use this rope...no use this gun...no no use these drugs you won't feel a thing". God dam I can't believe I am so desperate for help that I am writing here again.  Now I will go away and leave you in peace to live your lives while I try to figure out what to do with the rest of mine. Don't bother to respond to this message as I don't think I will be back here again to read it. Peace and happyness to you all. See you in another lifetime.

         At the end of my rope......gametime.

 

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August 12, 2008, 2:21 pm PDT

i am so there

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My situation involves my husband who has been addicted to crack for 4 years.  He has been on the mend often and now I am facing another set back. I need a buddy to swap stories with.....

 

I feel very lonely as no one understands the pressure involved with seeing someone you love destroy your life by substance abuse.  If you can relate... give me some feed back, I would love to chat.

I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL IN AWAY, I WAS ADDICTED TO CRACK AND COKE FOR THE LONGEST, I HAVE BEEN CLEANED FOR 13 YEARS, I WILL TELL THAT STUFF WILL KILL YOU AND EVERYONE AROUND IT TOUCHES, AND BELIEVE ME YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE DOING IT FOR IT TO REACH OUT AND GRAB YOU!!

ONE OF THE THINGS YOU WILL HAVE TO DO AND BELIEVE ME WHEN IT'S ALL OVER YOU WILL HAVE TO MAKE THIS DESISION AND IT IS, IS THIS HEALTHY FOR YOU TO BE IN, LOOK AT WHERE YOU WERE BEFORE HE STARTED AND LOOK AT YOURSELF NOW, HE WILL HIT ROCK BOTTOM THIS IS ENSURED WHERE WILL YOU BE? AT THE BOTTOM WITH HIM? YOU HAVE TO ASK YOUR SELF SOME REALLY HARD

QUESTIONS WHEN YOU ARE DEALING WITH AN ADDICTED, WATCH THE DR  PHIL SHOW THURSDAY, YOU

MIGHT GET SOME ANSWER, I KNOW IT HURTS TO WATCH SOMEONE YOU LOVE JUST SLIP AWAY, MY CHILDREN WATCH ME EVERYDAY AND I HAD TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR EVERYDAY TO, IT'S HARD, YOU CAN'T HELP HIM HE HAS TO DO IT HIMSELF FOR IT TO MEAN SOMETHING, I WILL LEAVE YOU WITH THIS.

SOMETIMES PEOPLE USES BECAUSE THEY ARE RUNNING FROM SOMETHING AND IT FEELS BETTER TO BE NUM THEN TO FACE OUR PROBLEMS AND OUR OWN FAILURES. MY HEART REALLY GOES OUT TO YOU, IF YOU STILL WANT TO TALK JUST MESSAGE ME BACK, OUR YOU CAN REACH ME ON MYSPACE, IT'S JGROSS35@YAHOO.COM OR TIGGERRU@HOTMAIL.COM YOU WILL BE IN MY PRAYERS.,

 
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August 12, 2008, 3:15 pm PDT

I am here to help in any way i can!!

I am a recovering addict. I have been clean for about 4 years now. It may not seem like a long time but to me, it is!  Boy, where do I start?!  I started using cocaine when I was 13 yrs old. I then moved on to heroin. And let me tell ya, it wasn't fun!!  But , I kept goin back for more.  And I was shooting up 2-3 times a day!! My veins are just gone; and that's not a good thing, cause you kinda need 'em!! Then I was beat & raped by my "drug friends".  So, I once again, moved on to something "bigger & better" (as I thought then). Crystal Meth......It seemed to take away all of my problems!  I loved the energy it gave me...I loved the people who did it with me!  I didn't have to worry about life anymore!!  Until I almost lost my child to the state. Didn't even know I had one in  between all the drug jumping, did ya????  That's how it was for me, too, when I was using. (I never had my child with me..My grandma took care of her 24/7) And that sure as hell, don't make anything better!!  So, after dcfs came along, I 'slowed down' A LITTLE.  But I just couldn't seem to break away from the power of Meth. UNTIL I had a massive heart attack...I was only 24!  It was STILL the hardest thing to do in my life!!  And now, I have 3 different heart diseases, manic depression & Bipolar.. It IS ALL because of the drugs!!  But I am also a VERY VERY HAPPY woman. I would never miss another day of my child's life for as long as i live!!!  She is my EVERYTHING!!  And it kills me every day knowing that I was absent from her life for 2 years...and I can NEVER get those days back!!  I have lost 4 friends to drug overdoses. It's not easy. but I manage just fine! So, if any one needs to talk, I am here to help give you advice.
 
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August 13, 2008, 7:28 am PDT

Feeling lost

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hi, I am feeling so lost.  My brother was aressted six months ago because of drug use.  I felt like I should try to support him because if he knew someone cared he would want to get better.  Unfortunatly, after six months of being clean and just two weeks before his sentence date he was able to get drugs in the jail and he used them.  I felt so down.  My mother made excuses for him that he had a terrible child hood and didn't get along with our dad.  I lived through the same expereince and I have worked hard to better myself I told her he is 28 and he needs to take resbonsibility for himself that did not go over so well.  My mother didn't go and visit him while he was in jail because she said it was too much for her.  She has a drinking problem herself and is always depressed.  My father went every week despite it being a two hour drive and then he could only visit for an half an hour.  Our famliy dealt with this same problem as I grew up.  My father was arrested for drug use when I was 8 and spent a year in prison.  He continued to have problems after he was out but recently he has taken control of his live and is doing better.  I feel lost because I do not know if I should continue to support my brother I still love him but should I go visit him?  I was suppose to go to his sentencing but I decided not to.  What could I say now, he needs help but drugs are the most imoprtant thing to him.  I am unsure how to handle this I am afraid I may make things worse than I already have.   
It's so hard to know what to do.  Family members so often feel guilty for doing what they think is right.  Two years ago, I was forced to turn my son in to the authorities in order to save my son's life.  So, of course, I was racked with guilt for being what he perceived as a turncoat.  It's not a happy moment when you cause your child to be "in the system."  And, of course, I've felt guilty for years for, perhaps, not being the mother my son deserved.  (I'm twice divorced, was disabled for most of his life due to injuries from a car accident, and have plenty of my own emotional baggage.)   My son was arrested last summer for 2 felony drug charges, including possession with the intent to distribute.  (At age 17, he was selling pot to support his oxycodone habit.)  He was released on probation pending further disposition by the court.  Two days later, his probation officer picked him up at school because it was felt that my son was not forthcoming in his court-mandated drug evaluation.  My son was taken directly to juvenile detention where he was found to have 14 miscellaneous pills (primarily oxycodone) in his possession.  Because of that possession while on detention center premises, he was taken to the local district court for arraignment and charged with possession as an adult because he was then 18.  His trial ion the adult charge is next week.  Meanwhile, he was in juvenile detention for 3 weeks (painfully detoxing from his oxycodone habit) and subsequently sent to a 45-day inpatient drug rehab.  He was then required to do an intensive 5-week out-patient program (3 evenings/week) and submit to urine testing.  All seemed to be going well until last week when he suddenly was "unable" to urinate when the probation officer was at our home.  Since not providing the urine test was a violation of his probation, he had another hearing in juvenile court (yesterday) and was remanded to the detention center until his trial next week in adult court.  One thing I'm guilty of is wanting desperately to trust my son.  I believed he was sincere after he insisted that he never again wanted to suffer from the addiction and detox from opiates.  I was so wrong!  After he was taken to "juvie hall" yesterday, I came home and went through his cell phone's text messages.  It confirmed for me that he was indeed selling pot again.  And I believe he's getting high again as well.  He was permitted to call me after his arrival at the detention center.  I told him that I knew what he'd been doing.  Of course, he denied it up and down then got angry with me for "setting him up" to go to jail again.  Typical denial, manipulation, table-turning... it was MY fault (according to him), not his!  When he started to rant all his BS at me, I hung up.  If he calls me again today, I'll have to tell him that I'll be 100% supportive of him as long as he gets real but unless and until he does that, there's nothing I can do.  And I have to convince myself that it's the right thing to do.  Otherwise, I'm simply enabling him.  I'd rather have his incarceration hanging over me than his death -- either from the drugs or his fellow addicts.  (He was severely beaten when something went amiss during a drug deal.)   And I won't sit idly by while MY life is jeopardized.  (One of his "friends" broke into our home and stole $2000 and some drugs he had hidden in his room.)  Since my ex-husband/my son's father hasn't been in his life for over 12 years, I have no one to support me in my efforts regarding my son.  I second-guess everything I do.  Did I do the right thing?  Will I mess up his live further by dong....?  I can't feel alone any more.  It's impossible to go on like this.  I've taken the first step by contacting Nar-Anon and B.I.L.Y. (Because I Love You).  Both organizations have websites (just Google "NarAnon" or "BILY") that can direct you to local chapters/meetings.  They can't help my son -- HE has to decide to get real about his addiction -- but they can support me, help me stop beating myself up. 
 
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August 13, 2008, 2:05 pm PDT

Take time to read this....

This poem was written by a young indiana girl who was jailed for drugs. She was eventually released, but true to the drug...It owned her! They found her dead not long after, with the needle still in her arm!

THIS WAS A BIG HELP TO ME WHEN I NEEDED TO BREAK AWAY!! bY MY EXPERIENCE, TAKE IN & LISTEN TO EVERY WORD.IT'S AS TRUE AS THE BIBLE.

My name is Meth

I destroy homes; I tear families apart,

I take your children, and that's just the start.

I'm more costly than diamonds, more precious than gold,the sorrow I bring is a sight to behold.

If you need me, remember I'm easily found.

I live all around you--in schools, & in town.

I live with the rich; I live with the poor.

I live down the street and even next door.

I'm made in a lab--but not the kind you think.

I can be made from under the kitchen sink.

In your childs' closet, & even in the woods,

If this scares you,it certainly should.I have many names, but there's one you know best. I'm sure you've heard of me, my name is crystal meth.

My power is awesome; try me, you'll see.  But if you do, you may NEVER break free. Just try me once and I might let you go, but try me twice and I'll own your soul.

When I posses you, you'll steal & you'll lie, you do what you have to, just to get high. The crimes you'll commit for my narcotic charms, will be worth the pleasure you'll feel in your arms, your lungs, your nose.

You'll lie to your mother; you'll steal from your dad. Wehn you see their tears, you should feel sad, but you'll forget your morals & how you were raised, I'll be your conscience, I'll teach you my ways.

I take kids from their parents, & parents from their kids. I turn people from god, & seperate your friends. I'll take everything from you, your looks, your pride, I'll be with you always, right by your side.

You'll give up everything-your family, your home. Your friends , your money, then you'll be all alone. I'll take & take, til you have nothing more to give, when I'm finished with you you'll be lucky to be alive.

If you try me, be warned--this is no game, if given the chance, I'll drive you insane. I'll ravish your body, I'll control your mind, I'll own you completely, your soul will be mine.

The nightmares I'll give youwhile lying in bed, the voices you'll hear, from inside your head. The sweats, the shakes, the visions you'll see, I want you to know, these are all gifts from me.

But then it's too late & you'll know in your heart, that you are mine, & we shall not part. You'll regret that you tried me, they always do. But you came to me, not I to you.

You knew this would happen, many times you were told, but you challenged my power, & chose to be bold. You could have said no, & just walked away, if you could live that day over, now what would you say?

I'll be your master; you will be my slave, I'll even go with you when you go to your grave. Now that you have met me, what will you do? Will you try me or not? It's ALL up to you!

I can bring you more misery than words can tell. Come take my hand, let me lead you to HELL.

 
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August 13, 2008, 2:20 pm PDT

Daughter addicted to crack

I have a 22 year old daughter who's doc is crack.  She has a drug felony, has been to rehab 5 times.  She has 2 children.  Her son was adopted out and her sister has her daughter at this time.  I no longer have the financial means to send her to rehab, and she has no insurance.  She doesn't want to come home because she hates living here she says, not sure if that's only when she is in using mode or not.  Her longest clean time lately was almost 7 months, then she relapsed.  I want to continue to help her but I know I need to as the say "Let go and let God".  When she is clean she is a wonderful person who wouldn't take a thing from anybody, but let her use and she is a totally differnt person.  I really want her to get her life together before she is no longer able to find jobs.  I want her to go to school.  Ok, I want her to be as normal as an addict can be.  I want my daughter back.  I am very afraid she will end up dead or in jail.  Any ideas, and I don't want to hear positve feedback,  no crap.  This is someone's life we are talking about, she is my daughter and someones mother.  Can anyone help us!

 
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August 13, 2008, 2:43 pm PDT

Addiction Support

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My situation involves my husband who has been addicted to crack for 4 years.  He has been on the mend often and now I am facing another set back. I need a buddy to swap stories with.....

 

I feel very lonely as no one understands the pressure involved with seeing someone you love destroy your life by substance abuse.  If you can relate... give me some feed back, I would love to chat.

Hello I know how you are feeling.  My husband is also addicted to crack along with prescription pain pills, alchol and what ever else he can get his hands on.  I feel like crawling in a hole and not coming out except I have to small children that I need to stay strong for.  I am also lonely because I don't tell anyone what I am going through because I am embarrassed.  We are in the process of losing our home because of drugs and I don[t have a job to support me and my kids.  I am scared to death.  I want to leave him but I also want to stay with him and make things better.  I don't know what to do anymore.  keep in touch
 
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August 13, 2008, 2:47 pm PDT

daughter going down hill

Hi there im just worried about my daughter shes heading down the wrong path shes hooked on drugs also and I have told her repeadtly to stop because i don't want to find her dead one day. She don't see what she doing to her self she won't listen to me at all

 

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August 13, 2008, 2:58 pm PDT

My addicted son

My son is 39 years old, single and a great guy.  But, crack has screwed up his life and our familes lives as well.  There isn't a day that goes by that I don't worry about him.  His father ( my X ) died last December of Chirrosis of the liver from alcoholism.  My son used to work as a dental technician and is a very hard worker and now crack has really screwed him up.  He has no self confidence anymore and can barely hold a job.  He has been homeless, as he lost his home and vehicle and just about everything in his life.  He is presently staying with me, but I don't leave him in my home alone, for fear of him getting desperate for the crack and possibly robbing me, which I don't think he would , but who knows. I started an Al-anon group four years ago and that helps to go there alot.  But, my heart is still aching for my son and his future. 

My heart goes out to all the addicted people and their loved ones, who feel just as screwed up as they are at times.  I know I need to take care of myself and try very hard to do so, by volunteering and doing my Al-anon and spiritual readings.  I don't know what more I can do, but pray and go to  my Al-anon and talk with others who really understand.  It also helps to go to open AA meetings and hear the addicts stories.  I checked myself into Hazelden for a family week and it was the most rewarding week of my life.  Please take care of yourself in the midst of this crazy illnes, which seems at times to hold every loved one hostage.  God Bless!

Sharon0807@msn.com

 
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