Topic : ! My parents are driving me crazy...!

I haven't been on the message boards in a long time so I hope this shows up but here hit goes....I'm 18 and if there is one thing I have learned it's that sometimes parents just don't get stuff....so my suggestion to u is just to drive them crazy....if ur happy with ur weight then thats all that matters...in the mean time if i were u i would just do little things to really irritate them that they really can't get mad at you about... for example, they won't let u waitress at their restaurant so, go apply for a job at another restaurant and waitress somewhere else...seeing u come home with tips everynight knowing that ur a good employee for someone else will drive them nuts...and to go along with the weight thing say for instance ur mother took u with her to the store or u drove her....park in the space the farthest away from the door and when ur mother complains just insist its just a little idea u implemented to help u exercise more.........little things can really add up and drive parents mad!!

After many years of being told by others how I looked , I looked for myself. I found out I was just the way I was created special and unique. I would like you to disregard what others think of you and be proud of who you truely are One of a kind.

My parents are driving me crazy is a true statement. But after many years of soul searching I have found you are in control of your emotions. Lots of mothers are dominearing but we all turn out to be wonderful adults none the less.

Donna K

thank-you for all your helpful comments;; it's what I needed to hear :)

How are you? I hope all is well.

I read your message and I wanted to respond.

Your parents are set in there ways and you can't control what they say or think but you can control the way you feel about yourself. You have to be happy with yourself and you have to LOVE yourself from the inside out. Please ignore what other people think or say about you because most of the time they aren't happy with themselves.. Some people say things because they know it hurts you but if you smile and have confidence in yourself no body can take that joy away from you. Never let any one take your joy! You are wonderfully made WORK WITH WHAT YOU GOT!!!

I know it's hard to stand up to your parents because of the whole culture background thing. I should know. I was a black, southern, minister's daughter. I'm not Korean but I can relate to the "respect your elders no matter what" saying. Look, I know it's hard because you want to please them but think about what you need to do for you. It wasn't easy for me to break the cycle. I used to get criticized all the time about my weight by my family. I ended up with eating disorders and self-esteem issues. It wasn't pretty. In fact, I developed depression from it too.

You need to stand up to your parents. I am not saying be disrespectful but let them know you feel good about yourself for the way you look now. As hard as it may seem, you have to do what's best for you first and everyone else comes last. Speak your peace and tell them if they truly love you, they will accept you for who you are. You are more than just a physical being, you are a wonderful, spiritual being. Let them know how much it is hurting your relationship with them. If they don't get it then you need to take responsibility for protecting your self-esteem.

Trust me. Don't let anyone diminish your self worth not even your own parents. You have to live with you for the rest of your life. Remember that.