Topic : Living with Chronic Pain

Happy New Year.. "hear the horns blowing and the balloons are falling"!!!!!!

 

Wow, I know there were days I was not sure if 2008 was going to get here or not.. But here it is and we brought in the New Year very quiet this yr..

 

Did have some people over last night for Ham and Beans and played some cards.. So that was the "Big One" for the New Year..

 

Was so glad to see our Two Girls checking in for the New Year..

 

Our campers are hanging in there.. I'm guessing three more weeks of school. The snow's were have had, has put a stop to their driving..

Just now, something in the camper broke and Val just came running in with the cat.. No heat in the camper... So will have to run into the camper store and see if they can get the part to get it back up and running...

 

12 above right now and No Heat.. Not a good thing...

 

I guess when we think we have it "bad".. when we stop and know that we have a roof and heat  and a Bathroom... "we are very lucky".....

 

Okay... hoping to see a check-in from you lost ones out there... Missing all of you.....

 

Again.. Happy New Year...

 

Sending each of you a diana with a H , a huge HUG and HOPE and All My Love..

 

Diana...

Slothliness is over, or so I'd like to think...Ringo is definitely indicating that it is time to put away the decorations...he's been trying to climb the tree!!  Tomorrow is the day...

 

I ended the old year with a SPEEDING TICKET!!!  I can't believe it...30 years of driving with a clean record...not even a parking ticket!!  I'm so mad at myself.  I'm usually such a stickler about driving the speed limit that I annoy the other drivers and get passed all the time!!  I was following behind somebody and matching their speed while looking for my turn-off on a highway that I've only driven on a few times, and not recently.  While matching that guy's speed, I wasn't watching my own speedometer!!  12 mph over the limit...the police man wrote the ticket for 10 over...really a nice thing to do...maybe he saved me from having a horrible wreck!!  I was driving my son's car down to him at school, and I hadn't driven it in a long time...I wasn't used to the car or "feeling" its speed, nor could I remember how to use the cruise control..I am going to court just to let the judge know that I'm not a habitual speeder...not that he/she will reduce the ticket ($113), but at least I can say my piece and make payment arrangements...that's a big chunk of change all at once!!

 

Plus, the tabs expired on Dec 31st, so I had to go out today and get them($47), and Fed Ex ($20) them to my son, so he can drive to work.  Then there was adding him to our AAA policy, so he'll have roadside services ($23).  He is now living with my brother and his wife in exchange for keeping his room clean and doing their cooking on the weekends...a way to hone the skills he is learning in school...it is farther away from the busses and bus stops, and it would take him an hour by bus to make a trip that takes 10 minutes in the car...but he had better keep himself and other drivers safe...I didn't tell the kids about the ticket...don't want to show any bad examples!!

 

I am so upset about the ticket...it's literally making me sick with anxiety and tears...I just can't believe it...I hurt everywhere from the stress of it all...John has been very understanding about it...I'll sure be watching my speedometer more closely...the one time I don't, and I get a ticket!!  The guy I was pacing with got of Scott Free!!...maybe he was caught further up the road...

 

Well, that's the skinny on me...I hope that this year is much more uneventful than last...2006 was filled with a lot of surgeries, and 2007 brought the death of my dad, and a speeding ticket...

 

I hope that everybody has a good 2008...Becky

I am online to let everyone know that I have very sad news to tell.    My 35 year old daughter passed away Sunday the 30th of Dec 2007.  She lived in Connecticut.   They say it was an asthma attack and she stopped breathing but it will be 2 weeks for the coroners final report. I plan on going to Conn.. for the funeral where she will be layed to rest.  Just thought I'd let you all know.    My heart is so broken, i don't know how to go on.......Maggie

Hello everyone. Life has been crazy and I'm sorry I haven't checked in but it has just been one thing after another. I finished the semester with 3Cs and 1 B which is pretty much the worst I've ever done so I'm going to have to find some new motivation real soon...then came work...Christmas was just insane. We were so jam packed I didn't get a day off til Christmas Eve plus I worked overtime...but it was good to be busy. Then Christmas rolled around and my dad came home. It was strange. He was like totally different person (for the "better" though it didn't make me feel better at all). And then Jacob's aunt died from Lou Gerricks on the 30th. He wasn't able to come home for the funeral which is tomorrow. It's been rough. I really miss him and I think he's having a really hard time up there. I've not been feeling well at all lately. It's always one thing or another.I hope everyone is doing alright and had a great Christmas and New Year.

 

Maggie, I am so sorry about losing your daughter. I can't imagine how hard it must be on you.

 

Becca

XOXO

Maggie,

I am so so so very sorry.  I pray that you have friends and family who will help and support you in the weeks to come.  If you lean when you need to hopefully it could be a little reserve of love and strength when you need them.

 

Thinking of you,

Karin

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter.  I will keep you in my prayers.  I, too, hope that you have friends and family who will rally around you and give you support.  You have lots of friends on the board too.

 

Becky

Maggie,

 

I am so very sorry to hear about your daughter.  My thoughts and prayers are with you during this incredibly difficult time.  Don't hesitate to lean on us all here when you need to.

 

Take care,

 

Debbie

Talk about "making my day" to see Prof, Becky, Becca, Debbie and Karin!!!!

 

Of course, along with all of you, My Heart is just broke, for our Ms Maggie.. There are just time's when words to express are so hard to find...

 

Prof.. I love Red Lobster and you are so right about their biscuits.. Hubby is always telling me to bring my big purse.. ha ha ha.. joke of course... The closest Red Lobster is 2 1/2 hrs away..  But the great thing is that the Mall is in the same parking lot.. Our cow-poke town does not have a Mall....

 

Dobby is the wild child you always needed to have.. He's a ball of fire and you never know what is next with this little Man... ha ha ha....

 

Becky.. Oh, I am so feeling for You.. I have not had a ticket since the Month before I conceived my only child.. so, were talking 23 yrs.. So.. I know what you are talking about and I am feeling for you.. Now, I have been pulled over a time or five.. but..... no ticket..

AND.. 10 miles over  and it's over $100.00... that is CRAZY.........

And what burns my tail, here, a DWI is under $600.00.. they post them in our paper.... now how crazy is that....

 

But, watching last nights news, were a 23 yr old, was going the wrong way one and ended up killing a Mother and I think four children, from 10 yrs old, down to 4 months old....

SO.. I agree with you.. I do think there was a reason to stop you and who knows what that down time did for you...

So, don't beat yourself up too much here..

 

Becca.. Made my Day to see you and so glad things have been busy and so glad you are going to kick some tail on this next semester of school.. That's the girl I know!!!!

 

Debbie.. Are you back to work this week?? I forgot when you go back.. I was going to work this week and just can't make myself GO... Not sure what is going on with me.. but this time off has been so good for my body and mind and I just can't get out to my summer project... BUT,, I'm okay with that......

Now, how are you doing?????

 

Karin.. How is the packing going and the Dr's ???? I bet V is so excited about this wonderful new job.. How are you feeling?? Your Christmas present from your folks was a great gift and see, Santa is still in the heart......

 

EVERYONE.....

Sending you a Hug for today.. Love Diana

 Good morning Friends!

I am almost afraid to put this down in print for fear of a jinx but....okay....here goes..... I am actually feeling better today than I have in over a year!!  My hand is not flaring - no little feelings of shock waves -- no swelling -- no pain -- I actually woke up and didn't feel exhausted like I always do.  Makes me afraid to start wondering what is going on!!!  I only wish you all the same luck that I am experiencing right now.  I had to share with my chronic pain buddies!!!  WA HOO..(at least for this morning!)

Still having some marital issues but am hoping something can be worked out.  We've been married for 25 years so it seems ridiculous at this point that we can't work something out.  Not to burden you all with my "junk" but I believe that my husband is an alcoholic.  My father was and all of the signs are there.  It has gotten progressively worse and he won't accept the possibility or get any help.  It's really bad.  And then I beat myself up for basically repeating my own childhood by marrying into something like this.  He wasn't AS bad when we married but looking back with my now 20/20 hindsight vision, he has always had this problem -- it has just gotten worse.  I thought that since he was not as 'bad' with it as my own dad was that it would not be an issue.  So I feel pretty stupid -- got busy raising my 4 kids and now that only one is left at home, I think I am really noticing this problem.  CRAZY< HUH??????  Sorry to burden you guys with all of this --helps to get it out.

Prof- How are you feeling?  I'm sorry to hear that your face is starting to have some effects.  I had no idea rsd/crps could go into anything but our limbs!!  You take good care of yourself - glad you got out to Red Lobster. That place is THE BEST!!

Dianah - hey girl -- you hang in there.  I went back to work on the 2nd and it hasn't been too bad but only because I've been feeling good. Our company is still in dire financial straits and the 'word on the street' is there is only a couple of months more of survival.  I am punching up the ole resume but not sure how things will go.  We'll see -- I will keep my fingers crossed and my prayers going that you are able to get back to work -- hope you feel better soon!

Maggie - you've been on my mind and I am hoping you are okay.

Lashy - where are you??  We miss you here.  Haven't heard from you in the longest time.  Hope you are okay.

Morgan - same for you, sweetie.  How are you??

Everyone else and I'm sorry not to mention everyone by name -- thinking of you all daily and hoping everyone is okay and happy and healthy in 2008!!!

All my love,

Debbie

John and I have been married almost 27 years, and we have certainly had our issues. 

 

Your hubby has to recognize that his drinking is a problem before he will seek help for it.  You could start attending ALANON meeings, for family members of alcoholics...maybe one day, he'll see his problem and go to an AA meeting.

 

You can do something for him...don't enable his habit...if you are doing the grocery shopping, refuse to buy him his alcoholic beverages...have a sit down talk with him and let him know that you think his drinking is a real problem...he may deny it, but it would help you to know that you have tried.  I have no experience with recovering from alcoholism, and no experience living with an alcoholic, but it must be difficult and distressing for you.

 

I'm glad that your pain is improved for today...I hope that it continues.

 

My anxiety over the speeding ticket is over for now...I opted to go to court...maybe because it is the only ticket I've gotten in 30 years, they'll reduce it. although, I really did deserve a ticket, since I was speeding...usually, I am so vigilant about keeping it at the speed limit, to the annoyance of other drivers, who pass me all the time.  I just picked the wrong person to pace with.

 

It is snowing like crazy here...it was supposed to warm up and rain, but we are at a higher elevation and therefore colder than the city where the weather forcast comes from (about 30 minutes from here).  I've lost our satillite signal because the dish is covered in snow...so no TV today until it quits snowing and the snow slides off of the dish.  I hope it stops soon...I have to pick up my middle son from school today...he didn't have some of his Science homework, so I have to make sure that he gets all of the materials that he needs to do the homework over the weekend...I'd prefer the road conditions to be safe.  Oh well, snow is better than ice...this morning, we had freezing rain, and the roads were like a skating rink!!

 

All those missing from the board, please check in...we miss you when you're not here...Becky