Topic : Living with Chronic Pain

 

I have some more information:

 

The gallway is the way from the liver to the gallbladder and turn around. The one is called : CYSTICA and the other CYSTICUS. They don't take them away while removing your gallbladder, but did they check them out before removel*?? There can still be a stone in one off the 2 ways, wich they could see (thinks my husband) on a simple echography. Maybe worth looking in too and they als clem* the Cystica and Cysticus of with clems. Maybe it is possible one is open, just guessing, although i doubt that, but can also be seen on echography.

 

Another thing is that possible that you had in fact a stone in the gallway and did not see it but is growing now. Or to close to the liver, they didn't see, i don't know, i am no doctor. But if i was you I would go for a check-up with a echo ( I think that you in the States call it a Ultrasound,yes?)

 

Also it can happen, while removing the gallbladder during surgery, it is possible that some gall-fluid leaks* out on the liver, when that happens, they Shower ( i do not know another word, maybe rinsing?) the tummy very much untill your tummy is clean before closing, but maybe, if that happend, it can give an infection inside due to not rinsing,showering the liver enough.

 

Hope to be to some assistence,

sincerely, simone

Same here, my dear Morgan, if anything would happen with my husband, i am a bird for the cat....

 

I have studied untill 24, worked 11 years night and day-shift and have several diploma's but none i can use.

 

BUT...... If my husband leaves me, he has to support me, that is a fact due to my dissibility of 82,5% wich is almost  the highest rate in Belgium(90%), but for income just part-time +66% and that is not even 400 dollars. And still have to pay half of  the mortgage for 13 years, and 2 college-students, i can not survive. The only thing i could do, is sell my jewellery first, about 30.000 dollars and the house for maybe good dollars but that house is for my children to decied, i can sell but they most agree then.No mariage-contract. Everything in the house is mine (110.000 dollars) but i don't have then no bed or chair anymore. We just bought a new car, The Toyota Hilux Highlands Black metalic with cab and leather and Kind of GPS. He has 1.200 km now and has cost a fortune, But i feel save in it. I am very scared in a car due to an accident when i was 11 years old and traumatised me forever. I am 45 now. BUT....

 

Again i say, i would give it all away, if i could get healthy and feel no more pain.

 

But imagine, that i don't have that as a background, i don't have a change to get work at all. I can not get out of my bed when I,ME,MYSELF want to, to go to work.I can not stand up for an hour,

I am addicted to my meds, and constently forgetting everything. Like you guys say, i would forget my head if it was not attached to my body. :-)

I am 45, have no more experience in what so ever, i don't leave my house at anytime and surtenly not alone, because, i have panicattacks. I can drive my car in good days but i will not get out of the car and walk in a street, not even 5 meters, i m scared of people. LOL

When i have to go to the bank to put my jewellery away, i panic, start sweatting,Hyperventelate, and pass out. Big fun.So imagine i have to find work, what would i do, what can i do and 5 miles is for me like 5OOO miles, maybe 2O meters.

 

So you see, my lady, you are richer than me, you are not scared, you dare to go out and you can walk, you don't look 50, you have enormesly courage, and you are clever, why should you not find a job????

 

I am sure you will find work and a house, you are not a quiter*, like me.

Love you, my elf Morgan,

sim

I hope you are all feeling  well today.  I 'm having a pretty down day today, I have to admit, so thought I would come to this board to vent and whine and generally feel sorry for myself!  thank you in advance for indulging me!!!

I've been so, so fortunate to be able to hold down my full time job with RSD and I know that's unusual.  My job can be extremely stressful though and it cannot possibly be helping my health.  I am just trying to hang on as much as possible.  the job my husband has does not offer any benefits at all so I have the health insurance coverage for my entire family.  I also don't know much about how insurance companies with other firms would handle pre-existing conditions.  A friend of mine is a civil attorney and she told me that as long as you disclose your illness, that most companies will determine at that point if they will cover you or not.  Problem is, I can't find this out AFTER I've quit THIS job!!  Oh well, I'll just do the best I can at this point.  I started the job 18 months ago and the only "vacation" I've had is for the 6 weeks I was on short term disability for rsd (when I was first experiencing the illness).  Maybe some time off would do me some good although part of the stress is a boss that everyone in the place has complained about but it doesn't look like she's going anywhere.

I had high hopes last week because I had my first few days in a row in 7 months without any feeling of rsd at all - no electric shock feelings, no burning, no itching, no pain.  So I started thinking I should start looking for a new job - then yesterday and today, the pain has been bad again and it's almost like it started all over again.  Maybe it's God's way of giving me a sign to hang in here awhile-and then there is the issue of being a Federally funded non-profit organization who is not being funded as we once were...one week payroll was one week late.

I don't know - thank you all for listening, as always, and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  I'll keep you posted on my situation - thank God tomorrow is Friday!!!!

~Debbie

Sweetie, I 'm so, so sorry - here I was, rambling on and on about my crummy job, and then I read your post about going in for your appointment tomorrow to get a job.  That is so insensitive of me!!!!  I apologize.  I should be sitting here thankful I can work instead of complaining when you are probaby sitting there making the motion of a teeny tiny little violin while you're reading what I wrote !!!!!!

I wish you all the best and you will do just fine!!  I've found that there have been lots of things in life that I've tried that I never would have felt qualified to try (not just jobs-motherhood, for one thing and I have four kids and it's been just fine!!) and once I jumped in with both feet, you find out you sold yourself short!! You are qualified for LOTS of jobs - you have been a busy, multi-tasking mom - there's no better worker than that!!!

Good luck and do tell us how things go!!

~Debbie

Its fine that you asked the question.I know the question had to be asked because a lot of people would assume that since I am young, that i am a party girl who drinks but im totally the opposite. I stay at home and try to take my mind off the pain. Yes it could be that they did touch a nerve there but dont know. I had a doctor tell me that since I have several herniated discs in my back and scoliosis that the nerves in my spinal cord can actually mess with the nerves near my stomach in which it feels like i have pancreatitis and other stuff. i am not quite sure.All i know is Im having worse pain than ever before on my right side underneath my ribs. Its sharp stabbing pain that really doesnt go away. I dont know if they checked out the gallways, they did not tell me. All the sugeon said was that I had over a half a dozen gallstones. Altough I do know that he burnt several parts of my gall bladder so I am assuming that he had to burn the gallstones. So maybe its still healing but I dont know. I will find out though from the surgeon, I will have to call him up even though i havent seen him since my surgery which was the end of April of this year. The pain though is a nine. As far as breathing though, I have severe astham so thats my breathing problem. They have me on all sorts of inhalers. I think though if the pain persist for another week, I will get it checked out and have an ultrasound done to see what is going on. I should anyways because I remember the hospital telling me that they thought I had a Urinary Tract Infection but while in the hospital they gave me antibiotics through Iv but dont think it worked. I was doing some research though on Kidney Infections and I have a lot of the symptoms but I dont know if i should worry or not.

Morgan,

I don't know why it took me so long, but try the banks.  Especially the big banks - Wells Fargo, BofA, etc... I'm such an idiot not to have thought of this sooner.

 

Wells Fargo for example - Hourly workers work anywhere up to 18 hrs per week, no benefits but you can get a schedule that's only a couple of days a week, etc. and time off pretty easily; 18.5-36 hrs per week is part time - full benefits, paid leave, etc... some control over your schedule (eg. you could always have Tuesdays off for Drs appts); 37+hours - full time, full benefits, almost no control over your schedule but the most money and hours. 

 

In addition to your paycheck there are quarterly bonuses (at all banks I think), at Wells they vary from a few hundred dollars to many thousands depending on how hard you sell bank products.  One woman I trained a few years ago (single mom recovering from an addiction), I went back to visit and she's second in the nation!!  She makes thousands of dollars in bonuses each quarter - maybe more than her base salary even. 

 

Anyway, banks usually provide stools,some provide chairs and you can alternate between standing and sitting.  If you are on the lower hours you can say "I can work 5 hours 4 times a week" or such. 

 

Anyway you can apply on any of their web-sites. Or, go where you bank and ask if they're hiring.  Or dress up  and ask a friend to drive you to multiple branches one day and ask at each one- they'll all point you to the web-site just pretend like you don't know that already- if they like you they can route your application to their branch : )

 

Good luck honey, I hope that appointment goes well!  And, who knows, maybe you'll find your next 10 years in a local bank somewhere : )

 

Love,

Karin

 

PS - As you can guess I worked at Wells for years - part of high school, all through college - Wells Fargo put me and 5 of my firiends though college!  I went back to my old branch post-pe (first round of PEs) and my old manager was VERY accomadating.  If you get along well with people, and I'm guessing you do : )  it can be a very fun, rewarding job that you get to leave at night and not take home with you.   Oh, and they almost always promote from the inside and tellers can easily, and quickly, move up if they want to.

Angelica,

I hate to be a bummer on your gall bladder but mines been out almost 10 years now and I STILL get right side under-rib pain -exactly like the gall stones. 

Quick aside-I ignored my gallstones for 8 months, took pepcid and ignored my Drs suggestion of an ultrasound.  Must have passed close to 20 stones in that time, based on pain and symptoms.  Finally one morning I woke up in full on medical shock.  Luckily I was at my parent's house overnight, they took me to the ER.  I had a large gallstone stuck at just the wrong place - low enough to back up everything - liver/pancreas/etc.  So I got severe jaundice and pancreatitis, was really really ill - you have about 2-3 days to live at that point.  I got lucky, they went down my throat and removed the stone that way, sent me home to recover and took my gallbladder out a month later.

 

SOoooo when I say I still have pain, I also didn't have the "average" experience.  My common bile duct and all those areas were pretty torn up from all the stones passing and the last surgeries. 

 

Here's where I try to help:  I find the pain really is less if I take something for acid.  You said Zantac didn't work, what about Prilosec (also over the counter)?  Or Zantac and Pepcid together?  It really does help me although it takes a little while to kick in.

 

Second - Has anyone in your family had a history of blood clots?  Not just clots in their legs or lungs but strokes?  Unexplained heart attacks?  The clotting disorder I have is pretty common, 5% of the US has it, and one thing it causes is bad gall bladders at an early age.  I also had a pulmonary embolism diagnosed as a kidney infection in my 20's before we knew I clotted.  Do you have any shortness of breath?  Is your heart rate stable?   If your pain continues you might seriously consider an ER visit.  The gall bladder pain might just be a fact of life for you, as it is for me, but if you feel short of breath or the pain in your back continues please do get it looked at - sooner rather than later. 

 

Be well,

Karin

Morgan, honey,

 

I am so sorry too over what i said last night, about my jewellery and so, it does not help you, please forgive me. It was not to be cruel or anything like that at all, it is i have that luck and you don't but,........ if did not have that to sell, i would be better of dead but not you.

 

That is what i was trying to say, YOU will find a job because you are a strong person and i am not, not at all, in fact, i am a looser.

 

Not that i want to be, but  me , i am scared off everything, even the supermarket, so go and find a job like that.

 

I wish you good luck, today, sweet lady, and put on that make-up

Love you,  sim

 

 

PS. Something nice "Boterkoek", i don't find but "Chocolatekoek" i did :

 

Ingredients : 100 grams(3,53 ounces) butter, 75 grams(2,65 ounces) Light brown Sugar, 175 grams(6,18 ounces) of flower and 3 tablespoons off cacao.

 

How? : You take a glass microwave platter in glass, rub it in with some butter.

             

              mingle the butter with the sugar soft en foamy (put the butter e few seconds in the micro

              wave,easier)

              After the mingle-ing,turn(add) the flower and the cacaopowder into that.

              Make little balls big as a wallnut and put on the glass plate in a circle

              After you put them all on it, push them down a tiny bit

              then put the plate in your microwave : 4minutes at 35O Watt and again 3 1/2 min at 35O

              And let them rest for 5 min.

              Then you put  them on a bread-iron with iron trets (you know, where you put a cake up or 

               bread to cool off, a flat round iron thing) and put the 'koeken' in the frige(cooler)

              Then do the same again with the rest off your preparation

 

I think you can do the same but instaed off cacao, you do the same amount off butter and sugar and 1 pack(10 grams(0,350 oz, whatever oz stands for) )vanillasugar from IMPERIAL, the best one, if you have it in the states. Then i think you have 'boterkoekjes'

 

I hope it is that what you were looking for, my lady

 

If it is not that but the soft juicy onces, you like, then i have to ask a baker how they make it, IF they will give me the recepie at all. They are afraid, when they give the recepie, we want buy them anymore in their shop. But try these ones first and otherweise, give me a more detailed descreption of how they look, smell,big or small etc. I will find it when i have more details.Ok,Morgan?

 

Love you and good luck, sim

 

 

Sweet prof,

 

How are you, girl and where, i don't see you post. Are you still angry with me? Angelica said her thing to me, honest and now we are talking good to each other.

 

But you were angry too and now i am worried, that you are not fine or sick due to the offensive way i have put things, i really am sorry again. Please, post, if you can.

 

I hope that you don't are in terrible pains, i do wish you are not? cause i need you to put me through that painting, remember,all 16 windows. I must say, it is so hard, and very presize*? work. And then, i have fly or a mot on the paint and there we go again, start over. I think I must put 3 (Couches in French) Coates(English?) to have the color good, and i am half-way the first one, so i will be there for years,i think, untill i am old and grey. Oeps, i am already grey,hihi

 

How are the tomatoes doing and why are your cumcumbers staying small, not enough sun maybe?

 

Please, prof, don't fantasies about my house, in Belgium, small country, they do cost a lot of money for a small property, and we build one which is even more expensive but it is not big. I will discribe it.

You enter and you are in a small entry-hall, with 2 doors in front, Right the toilet for guests, left, straight into the lving and dining room. You go through the living room into the kitchen, left you go out in the garden en right you come in the private hall with the stairs in it. In that hall, you have 4 doors. The left one,next to the kitchen would of been an office but changed real rapid in the our bedroom. Next door, a small bathroom, wiyh douche(shower),toilet of the family and lavabo-armoire. Next door, My Stockroom, with water, Coca, wine ,beer, dry-foods Etc, and the door in front goes into the garage. So If you draw that out, You made a U turn, cause next to garagedoor, go right and you have the frontdoor again.

Then in private Hall, you take the stairs up and come to hall way above the living- and dining room, where there are 2 bedrooms for the children and on the other side, a bathroom with bath and toilet for the children in the night and not finished yet, after 15 years. And next to that bathroom is there a small guestroom for a single bed and an bookshelf to the wall to the oposite  site.Thats it falks :-), like in the cartoons.

 

So, don't fantasies no more, Yes i have 4 bedrooms but small, i have 2 bathrooms but small, a kitchen, but small, it is just my living room which is big space(big for me) anyway, 8 meters on 5,7O meters, but really it is 8 by 4 meters, because one wall is the fireplace wich is very big and in white Spanish marble with green Dolomiet, very expensive. And the kitchen is in oak,also very expensive and so are the bedrooms.I have a bed with drapes ( we call it a heavenbed). And in the living 8 by 4 left over, we don't have enough space because off the terrariums with my 9 snakes and my green iguana iguana. So, you see , prof, don't worrie, we still have to pay for it 13 years, and we paid already 17, so a lone off 3O years is way to long and way too much.

 

And another thing, here we have tp pay taxes on the houses, you could throw up, for everything taxes. When i could not work anymore and i became ill, 1 year after we build the house, we have seen a lot of Black snow, do you know that expression. My children had food always, but my husband and i lived on breath and water, and that is no joke!!We were hungry, my husband took sometimes left-overs from the hospital to survive.6 years, we did that, all for a house. Often we said, let sell the house and find something smaller, very often, but we didn't. Now, i am glad we did not. You know, there were 16 houses in our part of the city. Only 7 couples survived the lone and all you have to do in a house to make it pretty. When we moved in here, we had 1 toilet, 1 bedroom, 1 Stove*? to coock on and 1 lavabo for everything, even the dishes. Nothing else, not even a stair or beds for the children, no floor above, they slept on old matrasses. So, frankly, we started from scratch*? and we build ourselfs up. 5 years later, someone, tried to burn down the house and my husband had to go to court because in the neighbourhood, they said to the FBI-kind off that i was involved with somebody else and that he did as an act of jealousy. Imagine, but that is pure jealousy in the neighbourhood here.

For example, when somebody buys a new car, they do too. When we go on holiday, they go too etc. Nice neighbourhood. They laugh at me when they see me in my wheels. So, you understand  why i don't go out to the supermarket? The children of these neighbours attack me or tease me and the parents don't bodder to say something. LoL

 

I have 3 dogs to watch over me, 1 outside and 2 inside and i damn know why!!! 3 times they tried to get in our houses here, groups of Romania, Bulgaria, they even steel the money at night from the children their little savings or the golden cross, they were given when they were Baptised*, horrible, i find it.

 

I could go on and on about my life but the important thing is, we survived as a couple and with good children who study hard to get somewhere in life. They are teenagers and I truly wish that i don't have to and walk like in Lashy's shoes, the poor woman. She has a hand full and did all she could for her children, but statistics say that we as parents only have 30% in their education, 10% school and 60% their friends. Would you have guessed that. It is true.

 

I will post this one now, becaudse i am afraid it will be eaten.

Love you,sim

 

Please, prof, post if you are up to it, will you, please.XXXXX