Quote From: cyncritterInstead of sitting back in our chairs, shaking our heads in dismay, we have to consider HOW our children morphed from (mostly good kids with) a few bad apples in the mid-20th Century ... to a few hundred thousand bad apples in the first decade of the 21st Century. It's SO SIMPLE, most people can't see it because all of you are looking for complex reasons. The Family Unit unravelled.
The mothers went to work. They wanted to have careers to fullfill themselves, AND (quite selfishly) have children to prove they were still feminine!
It's like mixing vinegar and oil.
Divorce became less stigmatized and more attainable, women stopped waiting for the perfect mates and began envitro vertilization to have and raise children with $$$ instead of TLC and being in the home.
Unlike during the 1940s, when fathers had to go to war and mothers were left NO CHOICE but to go to work to support the family in his absence, the more liberated women wanted the best of both worlds. With two incomes, Moms & Dads could pay someone ELSE to raise the children (until they were old enough to become latch-key kids and finish raising themselves) and Moms & Dads could BOTH feel fulfilled.
Well, how's that working for you?
I thought when women like myself were given the freedom to make choices, we would all behave more responsibly. Those of us who DIDN'T want to be housewives and baby factories would choose careers, and those who were inspired to have children would stay home and take care of them.
And with the right to abortion upon demand, there would be fewer unwanted and abused children being raised on Welfare cared for by the County & State; fewer disabled children because they could be aborted prior to being born and becoming burdens on parents and society; and, I thought having access to choices would allow us to figure out who we really are ... a lot sooner than the Trial & Error policies imposed by the older family traditions and the churches bias against womens' independence.
But no ... the Churches stepped in and started saying abortion is MURDER! (Hey, I thought the Soul never dies?!? So, if it's freed from an UNWANTED vessel or a defective vessel, to be recycled into a WANTED and/or BETTER FORMED vessel, what's the big deal?!?)
So the stigma of getting pregnant - even from a rape - wasn't enough to liberate women into becoming all we can be. Husbands still want control, Churches still want control, the families still want control... and when you add all the new pollutants, the stress from having to work twice as hard so the kids can all go to college - whether they're college material or not - things have regressed instead of getting better for everyone. (And... manual labor CANNOT be OUT-SOURCED!!)
Where is it written in STONE that an adult has to have a college education to build houses or repair plumbing and do electrical work to make a good living? Manual labor is not something to be ashamed of; rather, it's a honed SKILL that some can master and others cannot.
Where is it written in stone that unless your household is a clone of all the others on the block (new cars every 3 years, the best of everything all the time, soccer/dance/gymnastics/skating for the kids is a must to have a well-rounded child) you are a failure?
We are now a World of 6.5 BILLION people, and more than 2/3 of us are unhappy. We are breeding children who are unloved and unhappy.
More is NOT better, folks. Why have all this wealth if it cannot provide the things that give us REAL happiness -- creeks and woods and wildlife to stimulate the imaginations of the children we're bringing into this world, and parents who sit down and play with them - parents who insist that the family has meals TOGETHER at least once a day, and vacations where everyone explores a different part of this wonderful world together?
No wonder there are angry children all over the U.S., violence amongst them, and dissatisfaction instead of feelings of love and unity!
In other countries we call them Jihadists; here they are just a natural regression of our own environment that continuously gets SICKER every day because we've lost sight of the true responsibility of parenting -- being there when we're needed, and providing a clean environment for all of us to grow up and grow old in.
If we don't set a good example, stop chasing our own tails, knuckling under to advertisers whose job it is to SELL PRODUCTS we don't really need, and being led around by false "Family Values" spouters and Churches who care more about their coffers than their flocks, how can we expect anything different? We're reaping what we've been sowing, and it's coming back to bite us in the ass, BIG TIME.
I VERY MUCH AGREE WITH YOU . YOU ARE VERY SMART PERSON ,, BUT , WHEN WE HAD TO GO TO WORK AND LIVE OUR CHILDREN HOME FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO RAISE THEM , THAT WAS THE BEGINING OF OUR DESINTEGRATION OF A UNIFIED FAMILY.
EVERYTHING TAKES TIME FOR IT TO HAPEN, AT FIRST WE DON'T SEE IT BECAUSE IT HAPENS LITTLE BY LITTLE. I WOULD SAY WE ARE IN OUR THIRTH OR FOURTH GENERATION OF DESINTEGRATION OF FAMILIES . FIRST COMES THE NEED FOR THE MOTHER TO GO TO WORK, THEN PRESURE TO HAVE MORE MATERIAL THINGS AS WE SEE THE NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR. WE DON'T HAVE TO HAVE ALL THAT THE MILLIONERS HAVE . VERY MUCH ENFACIS IS NOW PUT IN MATERIAL THINGS. THEN GENERATION OF DRUGS COMES IN TO PLAY AND WE WANT MORE FREEDOM FROM RULES AND REGULATIONS MEANING ,(OUR PARENTS).
AND THAT IS ALRIGHT, BUT WE DON'T HAVE TO LOOK AT OUR PARENTS AS THE ENEMY IN THE BATTLE TO BECOME INDEPENDENT. THEN COMES THE WOMEN'S LIBERATION MOVEMENT WHICH IS ALL DISTORTED AS TO WHAT BEING FREE REALY MEANS. AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT ,WE HAVE THE DIFICULTY OF CONTROLING OUR CHILDREN . TRUE THAT WE DON'T HAVE TO FOLLOW OUR TRADICIONAL WAY TO CORRECT OUR CHILDREN. THERE ARE VERY GOOD ADVANCES IN SCIENCE THAT ARE VERY HELPFULL IN TEACHING US HOW TO HANDLE OUR CHILDREN WITH OUT RESORTING TO CORPORAL PANISHMENT.
I WAS RAISED THAT WAY. I MADE MYSELF A PROMISE NOT TO DO THE SAME , SPECIALLY NOT TO CALL MY KIDS BAD NAMES. I AM A MOTHER OF FOUR CHILDREN . I WAS STRICT STAY HOME MOM. TRIED TO NEVER LEAVE THEM ALONE WITH A BABY SITTER. I AM THE BAD MOM WHO WANTED TO KNOW WHERE MY KIDS ARE AT ALL TIMES, DROVE THEM TO ALL EXTRA CARICULUM ACTIVITIES THEY WANTED TO PARTICIPATE IN. THEN I NEVER LET THEM YELL AT ME AS I SEE MY GRAND CHILDREN DO TO MY DAUGHTER.
HAVE TO TEACH THEM DISCIPLINE FROM THE TIME THEY ARE 1 , THEY LEARNT GOOD BEHAVIOR. THAT'S WHERE ALL STARTS. I SEE PARENTS NOW DAYS EITHER THEY ARE TOO PERMISIVE OR OF VERY SHORT TEMPER OR BOTH. I FEEL VERY SAD ABOUT IT. MY CHILDREN ARE NOW IN VERY GOOD STAND WITH SOCIETY AND SUCCESSFUL GOOD CITIZENS.
Exploding anger, brutal attacks, death threats. Perhaps this sounds like the behavior of a hardened criminal. But what happens when such violent rages come from your own child? Kevin and Jean say their 10-year-old son, Cole, is a ticking time bomb. He yells, hits, screams and turns destructive when he's in a rage, and his out-of-control meltdowns are taking over the household. Jean even fears Cole may kill her in her sleep. What is behind his rages, and how can his parents help him and bring peace to their family? Then, Ryan and Rebecca's 6-year-old son, Sam, has violent temper tantrums that include kicking, hitting and biting his siblings and teachers. He has even threatened to kill his twin brother and burn the house down. Is Sam really dangerous, or just a master manipulator? What does Dr. Phil tell these parents they must do to change Sam's behavior? Talk about the show here.
