Topic : 09/21 Does Age Matter?

But I am and I agree with you completely!!!

I am 29 years old and I really like this guy who is 19.  I have a son who is 9 and I feel weird having feelings for someone who is in the middle of mine and my sons age.  He makes me smile and feel good.   We meet at work and most of our communication is through  work.   Should I feel awkward or wrong for wanting to pursue things with him?  I know it is only 10 years but he is only 19 and between mine and my sons age?  Most of my friends are younger than me by 5 or more years.  Working in a restaurant keeps me in an environment filled with younger individuals.  Basically I am just wondering if I am wrong for wanting to pursue things with this younger man or should I follow my heart?

 So, does age really matter? The show was not informative at all!!! It just dealt with 2 specific cases. What is an appropriate age gap? I am a 34 year old female and my fiance is 25. I feel he is my soul mate, the love of my life. What are the challenges I could face in the future? Give me a reality check if I need one. I feel this relationship will work, others don't because of the age difference.

I really think age does matter in some cases. Why only some?? Depends on the width of the gap! What caught my attention on the show today was at the end when they were sitting next to each other! OMG! He is still a BABY! I agree totally with Dr. Phil. And time will sure sneak up on them and then when people ask if that is Grandson and Grandma what will she say.............or if the age gap becomes to much for him and he sees her daughter in a whole new light!! Just stop and think of everyone involved not just ones-self! He has so much growing to do. They are at different levels. Let him live! Not be molded into what she wants. Let him get out on his own and become his own person. She loves him like she says..............then let him enoy his young years and his own experiences. Things she has already experienced.

 

Everyone has their own opinon. I don't want to hurt her feelings. And you know what.....if it is not so wrong to them.....why haven't they told his Momma!!!

 

 

IMO, Christopher & Adrianne DESERVE each other. Both of them are immature and selfish. Adrianne is acting like many 20-somethings, and Crhistopher, despite his chronological age, doesn't seem to be much more mature than that. Unless they start taking that therapy to heart, we will soon see the blurb on the entertainment page announcing their pending divorce.

I don't know about "deserve" but that was exactly what I was thinking: That they are both acting like selfish teenagers.  She admits she doesn't know how to have a relationship without conflict, and then she complains that they fight?  And he's a my-way-or-the-highway control freak--what does he expect?  Even my failed relationships didn't have all that craziness, and I've dated some immature guys but none of them were like that.  They're both throwing tantrums!

Hello, I too was dating and 18 yr old a few years ago.  He was 18 yrs my JR.  I felt it was ok at first!  Then I met his mom and she was younger than me, he was born AFTER  I graduated HS, and IF I had not had a miscarriage when I was a teen, I'd have had a child OLDER than him!   It was a midlife crisis I call it now.  But I do feel bad as I did then because I knew that he was looking for a "mommy" & since I have never been able to conceive after I miscarried I guess I was looking to take care of someone too.  I loved the attention he showered on me but it also annoyed the fizzle out of me too.    I guess I'm trying to tell Shelly that as fun & exciting as it all seems right now, it is not a good situation.   I feel to this day that I may have actually hurt him more than helped him.  I regret it now & actually regretted it then too, but was too confused to admit it to myself.  I hope she can get herself together enough to realize that the relationship is not healthy for either him or her.   I am married to a man now that is 12 yrs my senior and he treats me like a princess.   I admit I have always liked younger men, but  a relationship with that much of an age difference is just not healthy.  ESPECIALLY when one of the partners is still a "child".   I pray that she finds it in her own heart to let this relationship end before either gets hurt unnecessarily(?) and finds  a relationship that is healthy & mutually beneficial. 

I was so worked up about how the other couple was treated I almost forgot about them! Everyone seemed shocked that Chris could be so hurtful, and tell her she'd be a horrible mother. At the time I thought it was mean but after thinking about it I totally agree. The idiot can't even take care of a freaking cat! Um, babies make messes, and you can't just change diapers when you feel like it or have nothing better to do. Talk about immature! I wouldn't want her to have kids! We have enough moronic celeb parents thank you. She's no more responsible/mature than that 18 year old boy, maybe less! Since the brady guy got himself a hot young chick though, who cares if she acts like a spoiled 5 year old? Hire her a maid with some of the money you make doing TV shows about your screwed up lives...LOL

How is he a pedophile...LOOK up the meaning first...my god this is not the stone age. If he were a pedophile SHE would be a minor..DUH

 

She knew what she was doing and so did he they are BOTh adults.

 

HOW Dare you even judge someone like that..SO that makes over HALF this board pedophiles who are married to older or younger men???? INCLUDING myself???

WOW how nice and kind of you ..I bet you take the dishes out of the sink before you got potty to..huh

 

 

sigh..get with the times sister...

The show did seem to be partial to the traditional older man/younger woman scenario and I don't see why the same arguments that were presented against the younger man/older woman relationship wouldn't apply to the older man/younger woman relationship as well. Especially the one on the show. Dr. Phil shows himself next to an older woman as if to present the idea that she would be much too old for him, yet we don't see the same situation for a woman? Show me the 70-75 year old next to Robin! Did I miss that part? When the man on the show is 70, and that beautiful young woman is 45 or whatever, is he not going to look too old to be with her? And how will she feel? (Wake up, guys.) As a really young 54 year old woman (newly married to a 55 year old man!), I have found most men who aren't pretty close to my age to be far too old for me, and much more than 10 years younger is far too young, but can be fun for a time... But it all depends a lot on activity & energy levels, and how one has aged. I think a significant difference in age can make it difficult to have a long-term relationship no matter which way the May-Dec. thing goes. So for anyone in that type of relationship, I would say enjoy it, and appreciate it, but try to be realistic about the long-term prospects of the relationship. I think most young men aren't ready for a long-term relationship anyway, and a relationship for some period of time with an older woman might actually be good for them. I say, let the young man and older woman play it out and get what they can, and learn what they can, from the relationship. In time, they may be ready to go their own ways and be better for it. I don't see that the young woman/older man situation is any healthier of a situation... If it isn't going to be a long-term relationship anyway, then why does the age matter? (and, what are the probabilities, really?!!) And if it turns out to be a long term relationship, then it really only matters to the couple. And there are many examples of large age differences working, so I don't see it really being any one else's business. If your son wants to date an older woman, so what? If your Mom wants to date a younger man, so what? If they are happy and having fun, then be happy for them. If they are being taken advantage of financially, or abused in some way, then that's a different issue... Otherwise, if they are all adults (and that includes the guy over 18) and having fun, and no one is giving away the family finances, offer your advice if you must, then leave them alone.