I have been best friends with this guy for atleast 4 years I beleive. When we first became friends we did everything together!!! Well, both of us ended up going to a organization together to be a missionary. When we were there people always gave us a hard time saying we were dating and didn't know it (which by the way i have never dated). That put such a stress in our relationship, we both knew it was true but the others wouldn't leave us alone (even though some said they weren't serious). Well, I went there with a huge wall and so many hidden things and well he went there with his own issues including his immaturity (which drove me crazy sometimes depending what it was). So with all they were doing and the things that we as individuals had to face not realizing it we took it out on each other. If we were upset with one person we reacted instead to our best friend (Me to him and him to me). Finally, after a while of it all one day we just stopped talking. We didn't discuss it say why or anything we just knew not to talk to the other. I mean there was no fight of anykind just one day we didn't really talk anymore. What made this even harder was that people somehow didn't realize we weren't talking anymore and still gave us a hard time. It was like we were growing apart yet we weren't.
We were going to India and on the way got stuck beside each other the whole way, by now we had been talking but well it wasn't always so nice (not that bad but yeah). So, we started getting along a lot better as the plain ride went on but not long after being in India there we were not saying much again. I really didn't know what to do so well once again we both kept our mouths shut until one day we were asked to go do something together. We talked a little about it that day and finally started talking again. Things weren't quite the same as they had once been but they were better then they had been. So we finished the outreach still with something there that didn't seem quite right. We got back to the original base and said some casual things but didn't really hang around each other the way we once had. We finished this whole thing and went home, he stayed home but after a while i went back to this organization. During the time that both of us were back home we never really talked for the longest time.
Anyway to make a long story short there was a time we started to do things a lot again but then it kind of died down just casue sometimes life works that way. It has been 3 years and never until last night did we know the other was wondering what happened and did the other person feel the same way as we did. It was so strange i mean if we would have really really talked about ti then a lot would have been saved but instead we got to see what a real friendship was all about. I mean even when we didn't talk we introduced or refered to the other as out friend!!!!
well i thought that was an incouraging story about friendships and how they can really survive anything and you all are only hearing a part of it!!!
