Topic : 01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

I just cannot believe that there are that many people with that lifestyle. I was born and raised in the church and it's bad enough that fornication is a sin, but now it's like people that are married and that are supposed to be devoted to that person and love them with everything that they have and only them,  these people are going against their vows, whether or not they are both doing it together, they are still going against their vows to each other and sinning.

I think that it is gross and un-ethical.

Most of the people in this lifestyle are actually secure in their relationship enough to go on with this sort of thing. My husband and I have very strong sexual appetites but our love is solely in one place....with each other. A lot of people meet all different types of couples and have sex just for sex. Our outlook on this is that we have ONE COUPLE that we swap with. We dont have sex every single time that we see them. We go out to dinner and to parties together and meetings. We have found a rare kind of happiness. As a woman I have to be secure about my husbands love for me and know that at the end of the day no matter what his heart belongs to me. There is absolutely no room for jealousy in this. I have a very strong attraction to women and as does he. Its a double standard for just one of us to have sex with someone else and not the other. For the couples on the show they do not need to be in this lifestyle, And for the second couple. The man forcing his wife to have these threesomes is equivalent to rape. Its the same thing. We are not open about this to our children nor do we participate in these acts in our home. our marital bed is OURS. We set rules and boundaries before we ever tried it for the first time. And if something like this seems to interest you know that you have to respect the other person in the relationship first and foremost. It does open the window to temptation but as does porn....For some people going to the gym, swimming in a public pool, at the beach, going to bars, going to strip clubs, alll of these things open temptations, Secure adults in a realtionship dont have to worry about the temptation! I once read that men and women alike date the bad boys and the bad girls, the kind that are great in bed sexxy powerful and great fun but when it comes to marrying they want the "good" girl or man. Then thats why their sex life bombs and they divorce. Divorce rates in swingers are actually extremly low. I am happy in what we do.