Topic : 06/10 Deadly Kids

There is underlying factors that lead up to such feeling of hate, resentment, anger, outrage, etc.  Get to the bottom of it while they are still young enough to be a child and not have the worries and fears of an adult.

I do believe there was more hope for Michael than the boy who was poisoning his family. That boy seemed to have those black, empty eyes. Different approach to that child, and that's just it every child acts out differently.

Stop with the excuses, please. Nobody betters his/her situation with EXCUSES. I taught in a poor high school for 9 years. I have seen the poorest of the poor single mothers FIND time to take a vested interest in their children's education. I have seen poor parents decide that their kids will NOT end up like them so they disciplined them, provided them with God and structure, made sure they had good friends, emphasized school work and sports, etc. The poor are not dumb. They are merely poor in financial resources.

No, most households don't "have" to have both siblings working. There are more middle class parents working than anyone and many of those families have made a CHOICE to work double to have the nice cars, the expensive cable TV, the yearly vacations, the brand-name "keep up with the jones" clothing, etc. Most of our friends are upper middle class and they both choose to work so they can have more "stuff." Their kids are always exhausted, they get their meals from fast food junk food places and nobody is taking time to TALK with their kids about the truly important stuff.

I do not fault the wealthy. They owe me, you and everybody NOTHING. They got what they got thru hard work and planning or the hard work of their parents and grandparents. We should all strive to obtain what they have, providing they have a balance in their lives and the lives of their children.

I do hope these kids (and their parents) get the help they obviously need. Pointing fingers does NOT help at all (as you stated), but PLEASE don't make excuses for some people who could do MUCH better by their children!

I totally agree with you when you say, " when the child acts up, that child is calling out."  Isn't that about the truth.  I know parenting is easier for some than others and like my Grandma always tells me, "the babies don't come with a manual." 

I have a ten year old, and a new baby who is 4 months.  All I can do is put myself in my child's shoes when is is having problems. I Give lots, and lots of love, support, encouragement, structure, and firm discipline. 
I am a single mom also, have always been.  Just when I think I have things figured out, he grows and changes, and I am back to evaluating the situation.

I can only imagine raising six children on your own.  Every parent requires loads of patience.  I know you have it.

all this talk about god & how faith can save this child...

god does not save you.  medicine & airbags, that's what saves you. 

look at the parents.  clearly they are not leading an active, healthy lifestyle.  they need to get up off their a@$es & be involved in this childs life.

all behaviour is learned.  hmm, 'the apple doesn't fall far from the tree'. 

you're first problem is the video game.  get rid of it.  i have 2 boys as well.  one is 19 & is in 1st yr university on a 5 yr athletic/academic scholarship.  & he didn't get that...playing video games.

my other son is 15 & in gr. 10.  He is a 97% avg student, aspiring to be an M.D.  Again, no video games. 

you are the parent, act like it. 

I truly believe you can't help some people. You have to want to help yourself also. Some kids just know exactly what they are doing and are determined to go any route to get someone they are jealous of or have deep hatred towards, out of the picture. They use every trick in the book, the "I'm sorry" just doesn't work anymore after so many times. You know whether they mean it or not. Kids can be very manipulative and clever, know how to play you and they grow up into adults with the same mindset. You know down the line they are going to end up in serious trouble with the law, be a drug abuser, alcoholic, liar or just plain vindictive and abusive in some way. You either recognize the signs or you don't. You can only do so much, and after having exhausted every avenue some turn their life around, and some just aren't wired up right and need serious mental help.

We make too many excuses for our kids, parent through guilt (or whatever) and when we do that, you are damaging them even further. The parents have the issues and pass it on somehow, problem is they refuse to see they are at fault, and that they fed the behavior somehow, continue to do it on a daily basis and are absolutely clueless, not enough rules, not enough discipline and rewarding bad behavior is the worst you can possibly do. Eventually you end up on the path of destruction. I say somehow, you bring it all on yourselves and if you take a step back and examine your life how it 'really' is, you might just "GET IT" where you went wrong. Parents hate to admit they are at fault and it's NEVER their child to blame for anything. A lot of parents are at fault and it IS their child, so accept it and deal with it. Some people just should NEVER be parents. When parents out there think it's funny to see their young child act with an attitude because they did  (and they see themselves through the kid), and you don't correct that, you are telling them it's ok to be that way and it gets progressively worse. On your head be it!

I truly believe you can't help some people. You have to want to help yourself also. Some kids just know exactly what they are doing and are determined to go any route to get someone they are jealous of or have deep hatred towards, out of the picture. They use every trick in the book, the "I'm sorry" just doesn't work anymore after so many times. You know whether they mean it or not. Kids can be very manipulative and clever, know how to play you and they grow up into adults with the same mindset. You know down the line they are going to end up in serious trouble with the law, be a drug abuser, alcoholic, liar or just plain vindictive and abusive in some way. You either recognize the signs or you don't. You can only do so much, and after having exhausted every avenue some turn their life around, and some just aren't wired up right and need serious mental help.

We make too many excuses for our kids, parent through guilt (or whatever) and when we do that, you are damaging them even further. The parents have the issues and pass it on somehow, problem is they refuse to see they are at fault, and that they fed the behavior somehow, continue to do it on a daily basis and are absolutely clueless, not enough rules, not enough discipline and rewarding bad behavior is the worst you can possibly do. Eventually you end up on the path of destruction. I say somehow, you bring it all on yourselves and if you take a step back and examine your life how it 'really' is, you might just "GET IT" where you went wrong. Parents hate to admit they are at fault and it's NEVER their child to blame for anything. A lot of parents are at fault and it IS their child, so accept it and deal with it. Some people just should NEVER be parents. When parents out there think it's funny to see their young child act with an attitude because they did  (and they see themselves through the kid), and you don't correct that, you are telling them it's ok to be that way and it gets progressively worse. On your head be it!