My husband's ex makes this woman look like Mary Poppins. My husband has been divorced since 2002.They share joint legal custody. They have a specific parenting time schedule. My husband's ex just refuses to honor any of it. My husband has taken her to mediation three times (the third was cancelled by the court mediator stating that "ms. B. is due any day." Due for what? She was having a baby with her married partner and had sworn the boys to secrecy for nine months. She didn't work outside the home during their seventeen year marriage but didn't want spousal maintenance because she'd have to pay taxes on it. The ex and their two teenage boys lived off $1,000. in child support for the first year after the divorce. She could have stayed in their marital home but instead it was sold and she moved the boys across town, away from their school and friends so she could be closer to her "new" friends at the bar she sang karoke at. There are no parent-child boundaries. She discusses everything with her sons. When my husband told her it was not appropriate to burden the boys with her issues, she said she had a "right" to discuss her personal life with them.
The boys swear at my husband, call him names, and only want to see him when it is their birthdays or Christmas. The oldest sent my husband an email detailing how he'd love to bash his head in with a two by four if he was guaranteed of no consquences for doing it. The ex claimed she didn't know about it - end of subject. She also claims she has no idea why the boys are so angry. I found out about Parental Alienation Syndrome about two years ago and it was as though a light started to shine on the entire situation. Last November, she called and asked our help moving out of the home she shared with the boys, her Partner and their little girl. She claimed he was abusing her. We helped them move and from November, 2006 - July 6, 2007, my husband talked with his sons almost daily and saw them frequently. Then came the calls she was being evicted (they have moved seven times in 5 years). Their oldest son, according to the ex, was going to stay with friends and she was moving with the other two kids into her sisters' basement . My husband offered to take their youngest son into our home till the ex got back on her feet. The poop hit the fan immediately. "Absolutely not" she screamed before hanging up. Less than half an hour later, the vulgar, profanity ridden text messages began arriving from the boys. During this peaceful time, the Ex told me she had taken the kids with her over to the home we moved them out of . She said the police had met her there and told her she had no right to enter the home. (This was April, 2007)
The ex waited for the police to leave and had the oldest son kick in the back door. We have the police report. In fact, there are 40+ police reports from the last three residences they live in. My husband learned his oldest son had been engaging in self injurious behavior. The Ex had never mentioned it. My husband had had no medical, governmental, etc. information on his sons since 2002. When he pushed the Ex for it, she filed a Harassment Restraining Order against both of us. We went to court and it was dismissed without any testimony from my husband or I. He still doesn't get to see his boys.
And now, despite a court order, she refuses to let the Partner visit with his little girl (she's 3) during his court ordered visitation and when he calls at the court ordered time for his phone calls, no one answers the phone. They have a court date in November to decide custody. Now she says he is not the biological father of the little gir - yet he pays child support every month.
It is a horrible situation. The boys claim their father was horrible to them but have no examples of this horror. This wasn't their relationship prior to the divorce. The Ex has taught them it is okay to lie to the police, lie to anyone to get what you want.
My husband is a good, kind man who loves his boys. It breaks my heart to see how he is treated by his boys. The ex thinks she is above court orders. She actually stated in court for the Harassment ORder that my husband wanting documentation regarding his sons (one has allegedy been diagnosed with Bi-oplar disorder)) was a privacy issue. Our therapist has told us the boys are living in a war zone with the enemy. They had to show total loyalty or else.
The ex does not seem to care that she is harming all these kids. It is all about her. The boys don't seem to have a clue as to how they feel about anyting. The Ex tells them how to feel.
We are preparing the paperwork for a contempt of court case. We can't afford an attorney, The Ex interrupts the judge, refuses to answer questions - she arrogantly thinks she knows better than anyone. It is a double edged sword. Even if he does win, the kids send him nasty text and emails and seem to believe he is being unkind to their mother. The woman is evil.
Dr. Phil checks back in with some memorable guests. Last time, Keri accused her ex-husband, Ken’s, fiancée of being a mean, evil step-monster to her three kids. Keri says she took three Xanax before the show to combat her nervousness, and as a result, she was too overwhelmed to get her point across. She says she was portrayed as a bitter, jealous ex-wife, and she was so angry, you won't believe what she did when she got home! Now, seven months have passed, and the parties return to set the record straight! Why is Keri still upset with Ken? Ken and his new wife, Cari, say they just want some peace for the sake of the kids. So why has Ken called the police on Keri five times? Is Ken hiding money? Plus, find out what Ken says he found on their son’s cell phone that scared the heck out of him. The drama continues as Dr. Phil tries to resolve this war of the exes once and for all. Talk about the show here.
