Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

 Todays show was disturbing how a woman could trap a innocent man into believing that he was the father of another man's child. Married or not married there is no excuse for this behavior. I do not believe he has any financial responsibility to this child. At this point it should be up to the mother to locate and notify the real father instead of trying to rope another innocent man into being an adopted father.

Mom you need to grow up and stop trying to get innocent men to take on your responsibility.

Many people seem to have an opinion on this topic, but how many of you have been in this position? Not all men who end up fathering a child were deceived on purpose. Should people sleep around and get pregnant by any number of men? Probably not a good idea, but put yourself in that situation where, regardless of what you have done, and what mistakes you made, there is a child in the picture and you have to look towards the future. Perhaps these women think or feel that there will be a relationship with the man they are with regardless if she thinks he might be the father or not. Yes, there may be women who just want someone to pay, I am not saying there aren't devious women out there, but there are alot more dead beat dads who not only REFUSE to pay, but more importantly refuse to be a real father, and give that child the emotional and physical support that he or she needs to be a healthy, successful adult. The number one issue should be that the child has the best circumstances possible. I have raised a son by myself for six years, no paternity, no father, no child support. My first purpose is to make sure he has the best life possible, not chasing down someone for pennies to put him in a relationship with a man who would be damaging to his life. I am angered by the male guest on the show who wants the blame all on the women. The woman did NOT make him have sex(in most cases) and vice versa. It is an adult decision to have sex, if you do not trust someone, don't sleep with them. The only way to protect yourself from this is to be responsible with your sex life and don't get yourself into this position to begin with. IF more people worried about the consequences of their reckless sex life, than getting laid, we wouldn't have so many fatherless children and men being accused of fathering children who are not biologically theirs. Ultimately, none of us have any ground to judge anyone else, but to make sure that if we want to change things, we need to start with self responsibility first, and if a child is brought into the world in these situations that THEIR needs are put first always!!!

2claim conspiracy in child-support here
Seek$7M for legal fees, punitive damages

ByJACK BRUBAKER, Staff
Lancaster NewEra
Published: Oct 13, 200711:36 AM EST
LANCASTERCOUNTY,Pa. -Two county men have sued 15 defendants —including the Lancaster County Court of Common Pleas and their own lawyers —accusing them of conspiracy in child support cases.  

Thecomplaint claims that because the Lancaster Bar Association "hasan obligation to regulate their profession," it is party to the conspiracy tobase support payments on maximum earning potential.

..The complaint further allegesthat county judges "extort" money in order to "enrich" the county's Office ofDomestic Relations, which, according to the lawsuit's complaint, receivesfederal and state funds matching the amount of support money collectedlocally.  

For full text of newsstory: http://local.lancasteronline.com/4/210845  

I know a man that got a divorce and, then, found out that his ex-wife had an affair around the time she got pregnant with their 2 year old child. He said that, even if he were to find out that he was not the biological father of that child, he was that child’s father and loved him very much. He paid child support and took advantage of all visitation times and any other time he could visit. That child chose to live with his father in his early teenage years. That child is an adult now and their father-son relationship remains very strong!