To think that a man can be held responsible for something he had absolutely nothing to with in the first place is insane and I believe it may also be part of a bigger problem that needs to be addressed with hardcore action. It is sickening and detrimental to find out that a mate has cheated on you and changes a relationship forever. On the outside everything may look OK but believe me it isn't. I have learned from the experience on both ends so I am well aware. I cheated on my first wife and my current wife has cheated on me. I would have never completely understood the consequences otherwise. I have 2 girls from my first wife and a son from my second. He is now 22 and I have always held the question in mind is he really mine after my discovery of her infidelity. That happened some 20 years ago. Sad thing is I never even got an apology from my current wife for what she did. Maybe I don't deserve it I don't know but I don't think so. Now for Enrique and Selina I feel they are both victims of the justice system and also believe that their is a way to stop all this B.S. that is really quite simple although it will not help matters for them. My simple solution is to have DNA testing done at birth of all babies born along with their fathers to prove right from the get go who is who. Some would argue that this would only complicate the system and cause a lot of heartaches. I would say that may be true however would calm the attorneys who thrive on this twisted behavior and save a much deeper heartache in the future of a child. As for the thousands who would be unfortunate enough to find themselves in a mess like this I would also have an answer. Those who play must pay. I will use Selina and Enrique for example. I forgot the woman's name but she and the biological father should be the ones held in a trap not Selina and Enrique.
Enrique is victim number one (by order of events) and should be fully reimbursed DOUBLE his expenditures by his ex-wife. This would not recover him, nothing could do that now but he would at least be some kind of compensation for his loss. He did not lose a wife he lost a daughter. The biological father should be brought out whether he or the woman would want it even if a truth serum had to be used to find out the secret. He should have to pay all current and back support after all he participated in the act that produced his child. But I do not think that the wife should have any part of that money. The child should have it all, every penny. Kind of an eye for and eye approach. This also would not help to heal her wounds either however would let her know her problems are not of her own making.
One of the biggest things I seen from the program was that Enrique it seemed was forced to take action but didn't know how to approach it. (Who Would) If he kept doing what he was doing he was stuck with a bill that didn't rightfully belong to him and he wouldn't have a chance at recovering any of his dignity. On the other hand if he cut off his association he lost a daughter who really wasn't his anyway regardless of how much he loved and cared for her. He is in a no win situation. Selina the second victim here is also in a no win situation because if he had not told her and made his stand. She would have lost any opportunity to ever know about a biological father and the real reason for her parents separation which could have led her to believe that she may have been the problem to start with. On the other hand we all seen what happened.
Enrique and Selina I hope that you both read this as feel for you both from the bottom of my heart I honestly do. I would like to hear at sometime in the future is that the two of you have had the opportunity to sit and rediscover each other as best friends by feelings of your hearts as you have a desire to be in each others lives that is undeniable. Many other things I would like to say but cant seem to put my thoughts in order as this has put yet another empty spot in my heart and has angered my mind.
(Original Air Date: 10/29/07) Fraud. lies. conspiracy. They may sound like the latest Washington scandal, but these are allegations of exes at war over child support. Dr. Phil's guests claim they became victims of the perfect crime when they were led to believe they fathered a child that was not biologically their own and were forced to pay. First up, Enrique says he was shocked and angered to discover he was not the father of his youngest daughter, Selina, and that she was conceived during his ex-wife, Maria's, adulterous affair. Maria says he raised Selina but then abandoned her to save money. Why does Maria say Enrique's current wife is to blame for the fractured relationship? Next, 13-year-old Selina speaks one on one with Dr. Phil. Will she decide to let the man she once called Daddy back in her life? Then, Carnell Smith, who uses the online moniker, "Man4Justice," suffered a similar fate to Enrique, and but he fought and won. He says he's tired of seeing women trap men and get away with it. A heated debate ensues between him and feminist attorney, Gloria Allred, who argues that men like Enrique should continue to act as the father ... and continue paying! Talk about the show here.
