Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I agree that we are much more than a cash cow for deceptive women. If we make a mistake and marry such a woman and take on the responsibilty of her children, no matter who she had as the father for each of them, it is our own fault and need to be the responsible person. However, if by trickery the man is caused to be responsible for a child that is not his then the cash drain needs to be stopped BUT if the bonding with the child has any merit he should continue to be emotionally responsible.

Even though I have no blood related grandchildren, I still have 12 grandchildren and 2 great grandchilden, that are mine in an emotional way as well as several more that claim me as their Pap, Poppy or grandpa.

For some of the children and grandchildren, I am the only father image they have or will have. This I don't mind as is a gift from God but the deception is very hard to forgive. Praise the Lord that he has forgiven a deceptive wife.

i had no idea why Gloria was there.......she absolutely had no say on the subject presented that made sense. I agree with the Men's advocate.........P.S. i am a woman with 4 kids and think the "father" is being railroaded.

Everyone agrees that the father and daughter should continue their relationship but there are two other issues here. 

1.  Should a man have to pay child support for another's child.  The simple answer for any thinking person is ABSOLUTELY NOT!  The law needs to be changed so that victims are NOT required to pay for anothers crime (the woman's fraudulent claim of paternity).  All amounts previously paid should be repaid to the man.

2.  The other issue is that woman lawyer.  She did not answer direct questions but rather changed the topic to other issues; she ranted and raved about the "best interest of the child" (nice legal term for family courts, like they know what that is!) when the topic was "should the man continue to pay?".  She contributed nothing to the show except to show how she views the rights of inocent victims in these cases (short answer; they have none).

Bottom line: The man is a victim and the courts continue the crime when they require him to continue to pay.  The mother should be prosecuted for fraud (a real crime) and be required to pay him back.  When are we going to get this system fixed?

When the show first began I took the fathers side, just by viewing his demeanor. I thought the mother looked like a woman with secrets up her sleeve. But, as the show progressed I found myself torn between different sides. For one thing, I am surprised no one gave the mother any credit or took her side. I don't mean her side as in the lying part but on the show she was very well put together. She never called names, she never accused, she never defended her actions. She always agreed when the audience booed her and Dr. Phil called her out. I think she really was there on the show for the daughter. As an adoptee myself, I whole heartedly believe that when you raise a child it is YOUR responsibility.

Now, the guest speaker, I forget his name but he was the man who said he had payed child support for eleven years when he was not the father. Why did no one think to call him out on the fact that he never bothered to get a DNA test when an ex girlfriend just called him up one day. That is pretty irresponsible if you ask me and he seemed to be a man that cared more about triumphing over accusing women than getting something serious done. In the case with the parents at hand they had been married at the time and I can understand why no DNA test was done.

The mother was completely at fault. No question about that. However, raising a child as your own for 10 years even when you were duped should be enough to have to pay child support. You were part of a unit, a family and all expenses were shared. Should the mother have to go to court for a lie? It is possible. But, as Gloria Allred said the child comes first. It is all about the child. Feminists get off your cushion about being treated fairly and men bring down your egos about who you may or may not have knocked up.