Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

Women who wrongfully accuse a man of fathering a child should be held accountable.  I believe many men have been forced into parenting another man's child way too many times, and it creates resentment and denial in the male race.

"Dead Beat Dads" has become a common term.  What term is used for a woman who "can't be honest about who she slept with in the last 30 some days"...  The wife who has an affair doesn't give the husband a choice as many states consider the child conceived his...no matter who actually helped sow the seed...

DNA testing has helped...but as many talk shows broadcast...most of the people on these shows either believes the other has had an affair, or don't believe they are the father.  The children hurt because the women involved in these situations have not been honest, and cause the "nightmare" to come...whether it be before birth or years later.

Enrique, I believe, did not handle the situation with his "daughter" very well.  He should have had someone sit down with all parties involved, and find a solution to the problem, and handle the conversation with tact.  Selina will always hurt...but the fact is...Enrique IS NOT THE FATHER...he was duped into supporting Selina's mother's lies.  The past always finds a way of catching up with you.

I hope Selina receives counseling to help her with the eminent disappointment and upheval of life as she knew it.  But, unfortunately, life comes with lots of disappointments.  I hope Enrique finds a place inside of himself to see that he can still try to keep some type of relationship with Selina.

I am married to a man who was the bio dad of a married woman (she was separated and living in an apartment at the time) who later divorced him and asked him to step forward and take a dna test.  When all was said and done my now husband had to pay the former husband and her current child support.  The bottom line it's more importantly about the child'semotional health.  But secondly - if a bio mother has caused a man to pay child support (as though he had physically caused this child's birth) - in MY opinion SHE should pay the back child support to the non-responsible party.  And thebio dad should pay ongoing child support for his new found child.  I also think this problem is becoming more common and dna tests should be taken before fathers sign the birh certifiate or are listed on the birth cert as dad.

The man who thought he was the bio dad should have the heart to continue some kind of relationship with the daughter.  Added parents to the mixing pot (new wives or husbands) should encourage to the adults to do the right thing by the child - thechild has the right to know her bio family and the bio dad should finish out the financial responsibility to the child. 

I just wanna say that it was the woman fault for not telling the man about him not being the father. I am kinda in the same situation my daughter i have full custody of her and i dont thik im the real father, but I am takin resposibility for her. she is my life and if my ex would take her from me i woud be very upset. She thinks im her dad and i dont think at age 8 i should tell her that. I am like u dr phil in saying that the man is a victum but he should have done it a different way. I love my daughter alot and if fight till i was dead for her to. 

I am  a dad whom has shed many tears , i have three daughters , and lost them to there mom 14yrs ago , my oldest was 16 when i said my last good bye now shes 30 ,, and never has spoken to me ,

i feel for the dad on the show , and wish he and the daughter dont lose each other ,

i have much to say  but its an entire show.

I have a couple of questions for Enrique.  The first is the young lady I saw on the show your daughter?  I do not refer in the biological sense.  Do you love this young lady as a daughter you have raised for ten years?  If so what in God's name where you thinking to say the things you said and then follow through with the actions you took.  I mean this is your child, she loves(d) and respected you, as well as looked to you for safety and stability.  I do not understand your actions.  Second, how can you be called a parent and not be finicially responsible for your child?

I am a father as well.  I have a daughter who is not mine.  I am currently fighting her mother and grandparents just for the right to be called her father.  I have raised and been in this little girls life for more than 8 years.  There are many issues involved in this action I am invovled in.  I have a well established relationship(father/ daugter) yet I can not get the recognition of the court to have standing to called her father.  Enrique you have it and you threw it away, My question stands are you her father or not?  Yes you were deceived, lied to and hurt, but to hurt the child you knew as daughter makes you more childish than any child could ever be. I will never understand why adults who get hurt and hurt other in response, never get what is coming to them.  The child is the most important person here, not your money, not your wifes wrong or wrongs. Stop being selfish and think of the tue hurt person here your daughter.

A question posed to Ms. Allred

 My daughter (soon to be 12) has even gone as far as to call Gloria Allred's office and spoke to her assistant.  My Daughter's and I, are frustrated beyond belief.  I am reduced to a visitor and the people ,who be all reports submitted to the court , should be in my status have custody. I go to trial in four weeks and by all accounts I should be the one with custody.  We (she) has  court appointed attorney yet she has only met with a spoke to that attorney three times in two years.  Where is the voice for the Best interest of this child and her sister.  I care not for my status, I just want my daughters in a safe enviroment, and where they are now is not that enviroment.

I almost never watch your show but my wife urged me to watch this episode.

The problem that this FRAUD has caused is monetary and emotional damage that has

spread to everyone involved in this. I feel anyone who was knowingly involved is an accomplis

to a very serious deceit.. Too many women use their chldren as pawns in the game of life

not looking at the damage they are causing. And also opens the door to what amounts to kidnapping

and extortion. As Women hold the children ransom from visitation for monetary gain. Its a pregnancy loophole hat needs to be attended too. And their is no doubt in my mind that theese women exist to expoit this.

My solution is to do a DNA test at birth.

Blood is already drawn from the baby and the father can then have a decision if he wants to accept

a negative result.

This would stop any deceitful intentions, Save a child from getting in this situation 10 years down the road

Unclog some paternity suits in the court system

A benefit wold also be removing suspicion from normal healty relations

The more i think about this the more benefits there is...forceing women to be open and honest about their pregnancy