Quote From: izzylew Yep that's pretty much me in a nutshell. My family and friends want whats best for me but give me everything . I don't like this one bit. I am ready to earn a living. I have never had a job, only babysitted for a relative , in which I am doing as we speak. I don't enjoy the pitty streak I've heen on. And yes I am afraid to do anything thinking I will fail. When I said I go after things in life that are not meant for me, I meant my dreams I used to want to be an actress. Not anymore of course, but I went from that to writter to comic book, in which both have failed. I don't believe I am meant for these because if I were something would be somewhere in life. But my friends constantly remind me of my present problem of not having a job or a car, makes me feel stupid and pathetic. I feel they think I am lazy or making excuses cause they have a job or a car. I've been looking for jobs but nothing ever comes through. I just feel life will never come into place. That I am a failure. I want a purpose in life and don't think I have one.
We all have a purpose here, and I beleive that part of that purpose is learning everything we can about what it is to be human on the earth.
Right now you are exploring the uncomfortable zone of feeling stupid, pathetic, pitiful, failure. I know this sounds trite, but this is because you choose to do so. The way out of this is to take it in baby steps. The more little successes you wrack up, the better you will feel and the bigger steps you will take.
Consider what you have done in the way of looking for a job. Did you do everything in your power to land a job? Also, did you let the fact that you didn't get one right away cause you to get discouraged? You can't take it as a personal insult, the jobs market is pretty tight right now and you must put forth maximum effort and your very best attitude. It's difficult but not impossible.
If you go to Dr Phil's blog, there's a post on what Dr Phil would tell graduates if he were to give the speech. You might find it helpful.
Things don't happen overnight, and the first step you must take before you can enjoy your own car is the means to afford one, so landing a job is the first thing you must concentrate on. If there's nothing close enough to walk to or ride a bike to, can you get rides or is there public transportation available? These things must be considered. Networking is an excellent way to get on somewhere. Ask your friends if there are any openings where they work and if they will put in a good word for you. If you get hired you would then have a good shot at getting a ride, paying for gas money of course.
Things fall into place only when we begin to do the things that will contribute to the success of whatever we want to do. Nothing is ever handed to us unless we are children. Once we are adults, we have to take action on our own. Nobody can do it for you.
I think you sense that you will feel better emotionally when you take control too.
Come back and let me know what you're doing, OK?
