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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 11:20:02 am
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Have you read "Self Matters" or become familiar with the process of uncovering your authentic self from watching the show? Share your story here.

 
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July 25, 2005, 9:38 am PDT

Defining Your Authentic Self

Moira,

Something I have learned is that a good therapist will listen and guide you to find your own answers. Quite often we know the appropriate answers for our life's challenges, it just takes saying them outloud to be recognized. Good job!

It is wonderful that you get to share this gift with your children and grandchildren. Often we don't go towards our lives confused on purpose...and our children usually figure that out. Your gratitude shows, and I celebrate it with you!

Teri

Moira,

 

Hi, I am new to this too, but I wanted to reply to you because I have been where you have been. I have had "therapists" tell me that I was nuts and that I had all kinds of disorders I knew I did not have.  I was badly abused as a child growing up and it took me awhile to figure out that being abused every day was not normal. Of course the "therapists" and Psychiatrists that practiced in the 60's were a lot different than the ones that practice today. I finally stopped seeing them and luckily I found a support group of beautiful people who had been treated the same way I had been. They became my lifeline and yes, I made a lot of bad decision but I figured out that I am not nuts and I have raised 3 beautiful children and I have 2 beautiful granddaughters. I am like you, I don't have bad days anymore allthough I am fighting cancer and I have a lot of other physical problems, I feel like if I wake up each morning than that is a GREAT DAY!. I am so glad that you have great days and have a wonderful time with your children and grandchildren.

 

Connie

 
 
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July 25, 2005, 9:41 am PDT

RETIREMENT????

Oh! Ritehere, Teri, Michelyn5 and Longstory, I have missed you all so MUCH!!!!

I was just browsing and reading to try and catch up with every one! Hope everyone is having a fabulous summer!!!

Only 3 more working days before I am officially retired-from this particular position, that is. RETIREMENT... sure hope I'm doing it correctly!

I just have no experience at retiring. Is it supposed to be one of those solemn, somber things or like a 'Yee-ha, it's party time, ya'll!' kinda thing? Hope it's NOT too serious. I don't have a single decent black outfit! And, that black hat and veil are just plain gone... lost the veiled black hat while racing down the road after a funeral!!!

So good to have the board back! I've missed you all!

Oh! I did return to the beach, have another M-O-T-H-E-R story, later!

Brenda :-)

DANG YOU SOUND HAPPY ABOUT THIS CHANGE....... HERE IS WAS MOUNING AND PITCHING ABOUT MY BUSINESS AS IF I WERE PUTTING A CHILD TO DEATH....  BUT AFTER READING YOUR ENTHUSIASM IT'S CATCHY.....

PUTTING THAT BUSINESS TO REST WILL BE MORE LIKE BURYING THE TWO HUNDRED POUND DRAG I BEEN LIVING WITH FOR YEARS... THE HAPPY DIVORCE... NOW I JUST WANT IT BEHIND ME.  MAYBE MY DREAD WAS ABOUT DOING IT... HE HEE HE HEEEEE & WHOPEEEE
 
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July 25, 2005, 9:49 am PDT

Lyne,

Hi Ritehere,

It is good to see you back on the board, your input is always refreshing to read and your wisdom is clearly something i acknowledge and look for.

Thank you for your kinds words for Lynn i sure will say a prayer for her.

Have a nice day

Sincerly Lyne

So glad to hear from you again! Aren't vacations just what you need? I hope your surgery is completely successful and recovery is quick. Keep us posted.
 
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July 25, 2005, 9:59 am PDT

Brenda,

Oh! Ritehere, Teri, Michelyn5 and Longstory, I have missed you all so MUCH!!!!

I was just browsing and reading to try and catch up with every one! Hope everyone is having a fabulous summer!!!

Only 3 more working days before I am officially retired-from this particular position, that is. RETIREMENT... sure hope I'm doing it correctly!

I just have no experience at retiring. Is it supposed to be one of those solemn, somber things or like a 'Yee-ha, it's party time, ya'll!' kinda thing? Hope it's NOT too serious. I don't have a single decent black outfit! And, that black hat and veil are just plain gone... lost the veiled black hat while racing down the road after a funeral!!!

So good to have the board back! I've missed you all!

Oh! I did return to the beach, have another M-O-T-H-E-R story, later!

Brenda :-)

 Thought about you alot while the boards were down, but it sounds like you're still here and relatively sane, despite what you feared! I've been studying Buddhist practices, and this was a lovely example of impermanence. I tend to get upset when my carefully balanced spinning plates crash to the floor, but you know what? They do it anyway. Find the lesson and the humor and move on. Great to hear from you!
 
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July 25, 2005, 10:58 am PDT

Not sure where I am?

Hello there,

I am new to message boards and don't often get to post/get on the net. I am 45yrs old, single professional counselor and just feeling really lost on my spirit's journey. I spend a lot of time just working with families and adolescents and trying to fit in time for myself. I like to jog, and do so 4miles per day, and swim for 2 miles, it helps to reduce stress, keeps me fit and trim and hopefully makes me attractive to a potential mate. I am Native American and participate to two different worlds. It's getting hard to keep it going... When I have my professional hat on, it feels so natural and I have such fun with it, despite all the problems I deal with with my families. Yet, when I come home and I am alone, I often wonder if I have walked my path in truth and made a difference. I have no children, and no partner except Spirit. I often find myself wondering why my Higher self would choose such a path for me, yet, I accept this path but, not sure anymore how to continue the walk/journey.

I welcome any feedback/ideas.

 

Spirit Bless,

 

Monica
 
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July 25, 2005, 11:23 am PDT

Defining Your Authentic Self

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Well, it is true that you can't change what you don't acknowlede but when you look at the question, what amI not satisfied with in my life and your answer is nothingis ever good enough well haaaaaaa how in the world doI change that!!! I mean sure I know it's possible but well yeah I don't know what I am talking about. LOL

I think you should really try to define the things you are not happy with. "Everything" is not a answer. Like Dr. Phil often says: define your goals as precise as possible.

 

Jo
 
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July 25, 2005, 11:27 am PDT

Go For IT, Girl!

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DANG YOU SOUND HAPPY ABOUT THIS CHANGE....... HERE IS WAS MOUNING AND PITCHING ABOUT MY BUSINESS AS IF I WERE PUTTING A CHILD TO DEATH.... BUT AFTER READING YOUR ENTHUSIASM IT'S CATCHY.....

PUTTING THAT BUSINESS TO REST WILL BE MORE LIKE BURYING THE TWO HUNDRED POUND DRAG I BEEN LIVING WITH FOR YEARS... THE HAPPY DIVORCE... NOW I JUST WANT IT BEHIND ME. MAYBE MY DREAD WAS ABOUT DOING IT... HE HEE HE HEEEEE & WHOPEEEE
 
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July 25, 2005, 11:27 am PDT

Everything hmmmm

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I think you should really try to define the things you are not happy with. "Everything" is not a answer. Like Dr. Phil often says: define your goals as precise as possible.

Jo

I don't really know how to do that I mean really it does seem like i am never happy with anything i do it can always be better..........  how in the world am i suppose to ooooo i don't know grrrr.......  well i don't know i am soooooooooooooo confused!!!!  I am past confused
 
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July 25, 2005, 12:28 pm PDT

I CAN RELATE

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Hello there,

I am new to message boards and don't often get to post/get on the net. I am 45yrs old, single professional counselor and just feeling really lost on my spirit's journey. I spend a lot of time just working with families and adolescents and trying to fit in time for myself. I like to jog, and do so 4miles per day, and swim for 2 miles, it helps to reduce stress, keeps me fit and trim and hopefully makes me attractive to a potential mate. I am Native American and participate to two different worlds. It's getting hard to keep it going... When I have my professional hat on, it feels so natural and I have such fun with it, despite all the problems I deal with with my families. Yet, when I come home and I am alone, I often wonder if I have walked my path in truth and made a difference. I have no children, and no partner except Spirit. I often find myself wondering why my Higher self would choose such a path for me, yet, I accept this path but, not sure anymore how to continue the walk/journey.

I welcome any feedback/ideas.

Spirit Bless,

Monica

I STARTED COLLEGE TO BECOME A LICENSED COUNSELOR... CAVED IN AND TOOK THE ROAD OF LEAST RESISTANCE, ACCOUNTING. IT'S DIFFENTLY NOT MY CALLING, ALTHOUGH I BELIEVE I HAVE EXCELLED IN THE AREA. THAT'S MY NATURE, NOT MY CALL. I TOO HAVE ENJOYED MY FAMILIES, AND HAVE DONE NEARLY EQUAL AMOUNTS OF MATH TO LISTENING. IT'S OFTEN BEEN A JOKE ABOUT PUTTING IN A RECLINER. WELL I ENJOYED THAT PART OF MY JOB MUCH MORE THAN THE TAX END. BEING THAT I HAVE $$$$ RESPONSIBLITIES I KEPT PUSHING FORWARD. LIKE YOU I AM SINGLE AND ALWAYS CONSIDERED MYSELF FIT AND ATTRACTIVE. NOT SO OF LATE, SINCE MY TRACTOR ACCIDENT I CAME TO HATE MY BODY, ASHAMED OF IT, I LOST 20 POUNDS WHICH I DIDN'T NEED TO LOOSE, HANGING SKIN. YUK YUK. ALL THIS MERELY ADDED TO THE EXISTING STRESS. I HAVE SOME PROPERTY UP FOR SALE AND WILL BE ABLE TO PAY OFF MY MORTGAGE. THIS WILL GIVE ME TIME AND TH E ABILITY TO FIND MY TRUE LOVE WHAT EVER THAT IS. I'M ONLY SURE IT'S NOT DOING TAXES. AS FOR MY LOVE LIFE THERE ISN'T ONE...... I WAS ALWAYS PRETTY CONTENT WITH MY JOBS, HOME AND WORK. HORSES, DOGS, ETC.  MY RECOVERY HAS ENDED THE HORSEY THING AND I NEED SOMETHING. I WOULD LIKE A MALE BUDDY TO PLAY WITH, NOT NECESSARILY SEXUAL, BUT THAT MIGHT BE OK?????  I AM GOING TO WORK THIS PROGRAM, TRY TO FIND MY OWN ROAD BLOCKS, AND HOPEFULLY THE SECOND HALF OF MY LIFE WILL PROVE TO BE MORE REWARDING...  ENJOYE D READING YOUR MESSAGE
 
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July 25, 2005, 12:59 pm PDT

It's Ok Monica

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Hello there,

I am new to message boards and don't often get to post/get on the net. I am 45yrs old, single professional counselor and just feeling really lost on my spirit's journey. I spend a lot of time just working with families and adolescents and trying to fit in time for myself. I like to jog, and do so 4miles per day, and swim for 2 miles, it helps to reduce stress, keeps me fit and trim and hopefully makes me attractive to a potential mate. I am Native American and participate to two different worlds. It's getting hard to keep it going... When I have my professional hat on, it feels so natural and I have such fun with it, despite all the problems I deal with with my families. Yet, when I come home and I am alone, I often wonder if I have walked my path in truth and made a difference. I have no children, and no partner except Spirit. I often find myself wondering why my Higher self would choose such a path for me, yet, I accept this path but, not sure anymore how to continue the walk/journey.

I welcome any feedback/ideas.

Spirit Bless,

Monica

I have a different situation, but I have lots of friends and clients in your place. I reccomend alot of books, as I don't have all the Answers. Did you read "Running with Wolves"? I forget the author right now, but I think you would benefit from it! Good luck to you!
 
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