Quote From: jewelsf In the first place I wasn't attacking her at all! You made the assumption that I was, when it was the government that I don't understand and am angry at. In the second place, my compassion goes to my husband before it goes out to anybody else. He truly deserves it! Much more than you will ever know! And yes, I am filled with anger, anger towards the surgeon who put me in this position. I have every right to be angry, she took away my life and basically the life of my husband. You say that everyone is in pain? I don't think so! I don't see everyone else forced to live like a mole, have absolutely no social life, never be able to travel, or even be able to sleep in their beds for over seven years. I bet you sleep in your bed every night. I haven't even slept for over one hour at a time in over 7 years. Yes, I admit it, it is finally getting to me.
And BTW, going back to this particular woman. As I said before, I wasn't taking anything out on her or attacking her. It wasn't until you brought it to my attention that I went back and re-read her message. That is when I picked up on some of the inconsistencies in her story. And again I still didn't attack her. I just said that there was something not "right" in her story. Come on and get real here. Since when does someone who is on Disability have to hold down a job? That is the point to getting the benefits, because you are unable to hold down a job! So what is the deal with the mother not allowing her to see her child until she gets a job? I think this is a perfectly normal question to ask. If you would get off of your own high horse for just a minute you would realize that it does indeed not sound right.
You say that I sound mean, really mean? I am not a mean person in any way, shape, or form. You misunderstood the original point that I was trying to make. It had NOTHING to do with this particular girl. But I do get angry when I happen to know someone as I mentioned before that is on disability and proceeds to have 3 children after-wards. This woman does anything she darn well wants to. She learned (from her mother) at a very early age exactly how to work the system. And this type of person sickens me! I have even changed my attitude towards giving to charity's such as Toys for Tot's because of this woman. I used to buy tons of gifts for needy children, making a point to buy for the older ones that nobody ever wants to buy for. Until I found out what "Mary" was doing. I will use a fake name for her. As I said, she is drawing disability because of her weight, she is also getting welfare checks for her 3 illegitimate children. She lives at home with her mother, drives a brand new car, and parties and dates all of the time. Her weight doesn't slow down her social life or her dating life. When I found out that "Mary was also receiving free toys from the charity's, all of them in town, on top of the boatloads that she and other family members were buying for her kids, it just turned me off. I can't handle people who abuse the system. I know people who work for the Sheriffs Dept. who have good incomes that receive free food from the food banks for the under privileged. This is disgusting!
I never once included this girl that you are talking about in any of this, and I don't know why you keep insisting that I am. I don't understand the government! Can I make this any more clear? I have NOT attacked HER! What is the deal here anyway, are you her best friend or something?
But in my defense, yes, I am angry at some very particular things, but no, I am not a miserable or mean person. Yes, I do have compassion for others and even empathy, although I don't think that you will believe anything that I say. But my first loyalties lie with my husband, this is supposed to be the time for him to slow down and stop working. Instead, he has to keep working the same God awful hours that he has put in for over 40 years and it is extremely detrimental to his health. He also has to do the grocery shopping, the cooking, the bill paying, and the housecleaning. He works 7 days a week 6 months out of the year and 6 days a week the other 6. As I said before, he works between 110 and 140 hours per week. Don't you think that he needs a break? Do you know anyone who has that much responsibility? And as I also told you, he needs to have heart surgery and he he needs to stop working because he is diabetic and losing the feeling in his feet. But he can't! He has to continue working to pay for my own medical bills, which by the way, we happen to owe over $250,000. out of pocket costs after what the insurance has already paid. Plus all of my future costs, since I will have to have even more surgeries in the future.
So may I please, with your permission of course, have compassion for my own husband first?
P.S. Re-read her story and see for yourself if something doesn't sound right about why she is not allowed to see her own child because her mother is forcing her to hold down a job. If she is disabled, then I would say that it is her own mother who lacks comapssion!
I lost my son to the courts 3 in a half years ago, due to depression, and lack of parenting skills. 2 years ago on May 3/06 is when the last time i seen him because he was made a ward of the courts. My mom got him. After she has full cutody of him which she will be in Dec/08 she can let me see him if she wants too. She chooses not too because she is scared that he may react in a negitive way.
He was dignosed with Post tramatic stress disorder because after me not be able to see him May3/06 my mom gives him to foster care 2 weeks latter and changes her mind on adopting him. By this time she had him for a year. He went into 3 foster homes in a year in a half and the first foster home was just in it for the money and yelled and sweared at him alot. What a month that was for him. My mom took him back and has now adopted him . She is scred with all the behaviors he has now that it MAY get worse if she lets me see him.
Like i said i did have a perfect attendance at school, and also vouelnteered at the Alzheimers society for a little bit until school and thta was too much. I am limited to work but i still can owrk if someone would give me a chance. It takes most people 3-4 days to fit in and feel comfortable , well it takes me about 2-3 weeks.
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