Topic : 06/11 Scary Skinny

I agree that OCEANFRONT4U is judgmental and selfrighteous and should be sentenced to the Dr. Phil house for 30 days to live with and BE RESPONSIBILE for a teenage anorexic.

 I agree with JenniferC and Mommyv..... I wouldn't sit on stage either with my daughter, but probably mostly related to the viscious lies she tells to protect her anorexia that are directed at you the parent who is doing everything and sacrificing to make her better.  Research says that Anorexic parents are usually perfectionists which would suggest they are doing more for their child than the average parent.

WORD PICTURE:  Anorexia is like Cancer... like Leukemia.... it goes in periods of relapse and remission.  Now if someone had cancer themselves truly THEY would be seeking Treatment; where contrarily an Anorexic usually doesn't want treatment and SABOTAGES your sacrifices and efforts to help her which is very frustrating where you do daily have to forgive her and look beyond this and keep working for her recovery.  Now if a child had an ear infection you go to the Dr., get the medicine and they are all better and they are happy with you that you helped them get better.....  Whereas in anorexia YOU ARE THE ENEMY when you are trying to help them get better....  Anyone who gets in the way is the enemy.

I've noticed that it causes alot of division in families because they are trying to BLAME someone for it.... just like oceanfront4u seemed to.  YOU KNOW WHATEVER THE CAUSE(S)... I think the reality is:  It started somehow... AND EVERYDAY SOMEONE WITH THIS DISEASE WAKES UP THEY HAVE CHOICES TO MAKE.  They ultimately are the ones who have to make those daily choices to get better.  And although there may have been triggers.... ultimately They did it once, they did it again and again and again.. and have to take a little responsibilty....

but I agree with Jessica that eating police-ing SHOULDN'T BE the only thing you talk about to that child because it puts them on the defense and damages the relationship whereas as a parent thats your natural instinct to teach your child to do what is good for them..... but this is a daily challenge... because you daily have to watch your child be self destructive or find evidence of it that you thought was cured and  it breaks your heart into a 1,000 pieces.

In defense of Susan (Mom):  I had a counsellour shake her head and criticize me because I didn't "cry" also in a meeting when my daughter was crying because "she had to be  at a counselling meeting."  I don't feel the counsellour appreciated all the effort it took just to get her there.  I have done so many things for her. It's a tug of war... They don't just say ok great I am going or OK I'll go.... They say NO, I am not going, there is nothing wrong with me... you are the worst mother in the world and then think of lies to punish you and get you back.  I think you are hearing the story for the 1st time and some of us have been dealing with it for years.  I have shed many wailing tears, but you can't live in that mode  all the time.  Perhaps for the sake of  TV you wanted to hear the initial wailing which I KNOW HAPPENED MANY A TIMES in every situation.... but you go thru the grief process and are at different levels and accept things to some degree and lose a little hope.  This weekend I had to tug of war with my daughter to get her blood drawn.  I HAD TO PAY HER $10 to cooperate and I was the worst mother in the world, but I was like look IF you were in a foster home you would have to get your blood drawn and do whatever the Dr. says and there would be no negociation and they wouldn't pay you $10 ok?   And the $10 pacified her.... but ? Average parent:  Do you pay your kid to cooperate with medical treatment?   but today is a New day: St. Patty's Day and I bought her St. Patty's Day socks and shamrock light up necklace to wear to school.  We are going to plant  Spring flower seeds in a 72 pack Walmart soil kit greenhouse if she is in  good mood after school.... but these are the little things I do.....

Doctor Phil Scary Skinny. I would be afraid if I was skinny myself or anyone else. Beside I donot think that--

anyone would be affraid to be skinny at all. See you on Wednesday June 11th, 2008. Sincerley Your. Rus--

sell Vlaanderen.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Dr. Phil had a show similar to this a couple of years ago. One of the Ladies that was portrayed lives in my area. I have forgotten her name, but, it was something unusual, like Joey. I used to see this woman just about everyday, walking, with a limp, all over town. She was very, very underweight. Her skin was just hanging off her body. She ate nothing but popcorn, drank water, and exercised all day. Her sister was on the show with her. I believe her sister was her twin.

I used to see her shopping in our local Wal Mart Super Center, walking up and down the aisles. She never had much food in her basket, but would pick up cans and boxes, read the labels, and put the item back on the shelf.

Dr. Phil offered her help, but she refused it.

Now I don't see her any more. Not walking. Not shopping.

I was just wondering if the shows staff can enlighten me and let me know if she is still alive?