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(Original Air Date: 11/27/07) Dr. Phil follows up with a family torn apart when the mother was banned from her only son’s wedding. The bride-to-be, Michelle, said she’d rather burn in hell than let her future mother-in-law, Jane, attend the ceremony, and her fiancé, Jay, stood behind her decision. This sent the entire family into a tailspin, with the best man resigning, the aunt disowning the groom and the wedding planner on alert to call 911 if Jane showed up. The big day has come and gone, and everyone returns to update Dr. Phil with the latest. Were they able to bury the hatchet before the wedding? Jane has gone through a rollercoaster of emotions, and Dr. Phil finds out what has her so mad at him, she even wrote him a scathing letter one week after her appearance. Has Jane done a 180-degree turn since? Has Michelle stopped her “campaign of hate mail” as Jane called it and opened up her arms to her husband’s mother? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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iwishiknewmore

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November 27, 2007, 3:15 pm PST

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This whole story is UGLY! And sad. The daughter in law may think she has won, but it is a hollow victory. What goes around comes around. Unless she finds a way to forgive and make peace with her new extended family she will continue to nuture and display only hateful and ugly behavior and she will find herself on the other end of this story when she has grown children banning her from their wedding. As it stands now, I wouldn't want her in my family. As far as the son goes, SHAME ON YOU!

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November 27, 2007, 3:15 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I feel it's time for the bride to grow up and consider her husband's feelings. She will eventually regret the way she is treating his mother and not allowing her to have a relationship with them. The mother is just as wrong at what she has been doing and it's time she cut the apron strings and allow her son to live his own life. If both the bride and the mother would do these things they could have a wonderful relationship of enjoying each other. I dread to think of what it will be like if and when children are brought into this union.

The daughter-in-law is so out of line in this situation. The son also needs to realize that he will only have one mother in his life. Maybe his mother has done some things that he is not happy about, but his wife is already way too controlling considering they just got married. I hope he steps it up and tries to meet his mother half way. His wife should not have anything to say about his choice to try to reconcile the relationship with his mother. Most of us that are married or have been married realize that there are things about in-laws that we may not like or may not agree with, but because you love your spouse you try your hardest to get along and accept others. If Michelle really can't get along with Jane she should at least encourage her husband to fix the situation or at some point her husband will resent the fact that she ruined his relationship with his family. Nothing good will come from the bitterness and anger. I have never wanted to yell back at someone on TV as much as I wanted to jump into the TV and put Michelle in her place. Hopefully they will try as hard as Jane has to change their ungracious ways.

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November 27, 2007, 3:16 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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Here, here The mother-in-law is the main problem ! Quit dmping on he bride ! She is just responding tothe M-I-L.

That may be true, but it doesn't give her the right to be so nasty! Whatever happened to respect your elders?! I have had disagreements with my MIL, but would never resort to calling her names, etc. Just because the MIL behaves poorly, doesn't mean the DIL should too!! She has the opportunity to rise above it all, but choses to stoop to the MILs level!!

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November 27, 2007, 3:16 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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Sorry, being a victim of a MIL from Hell I don't agree that Michelle should be gracious. Write the MIL off as a loss, and don't waste your time or energy!! That's working for ME!!

This comment just proves to me that everyone has a twin in the world. I pitty your MIL's.

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November 27, 2007, 3:16 pm PST

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Too bad Jay and Michelle do not see themselves as others do. Years ago my mother in law would iritate me to no end, but we never used the disrespectful language to each other that this family does. I bit my tongue in front of her and never said anything I would have to live to regret. My husband ( we have been married 34 years now) never ever took sides. Jay is the most to blame, he had the power to help his wife be more reasonable and he should always respect and have a relationship with his mom no matter if she changes or not. Michelle will never be able to be humble and peaceful it is all up to Jay and Mom

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November 27, 2007, 3:16 pm PST

He never promised you a rose garden

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I FIND IT INTERESTING THAT EVERYONE FEELS SORRY FOR THE MOTHER IN LAW. SHE IS NO ANGEL. I MYSELF AM A DAUGHTER IN LAW TO A WOMAN WHO PRETTY MUCH IGNORES MY EXISTANCE. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW---OVER THAT OF HER OWN DAUGHTER. SHE PLAYS FAVORITES WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN. OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE POINT FINGERS AND MAKE ASSUMPTIONS THAT IT IS THE BRIDES JOB TO MAKE NICE WITH THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM........HOWEVER, IT WOULD SEEM THAT IT IS JUST AS MUCH THE MOTHERS RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE NICE WITH THE BRIDE. AS FOR THE SON. MAYBE HE SEES THE PICTURE FOR WHAT IT IS. MAYBE HE IS SIDING WITH HIS BRIDE TO BE BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW HIS MOTHER IS AND BEHAVED IN THE PAST. AS FOR MY HUSBAND AND MYSELF WE SPEND VERY LITTLE TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. USUALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS ONLY. THEN FOR AS SHORT A TIME AS WE MUST. WE BOTH GET LITTLE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT. THERES ALOT OF COMPETITION BETWEEN THE OTHER DAUGHTER IN LAW AND MY HUSBANDS SISTER. SO TAKE A LOOK AT THE MOTHER OF THE GROOM AND CUT SOME SLACK TO THE YOUNG BRIDE.

I believe any mother-in-law owes her first alligence to her son--not her daughter-in-law. Remember that when you are a wife. Being a wife means standing alongside her husband, and being his friend and confidant. A wife must keep the things he has told her about his mother TO HERSELF!! His secrets are her secrets.

That is the best way to help him

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November 27, 2007, 3:16 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

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I watch Dr. Phil faithfully and have never had the desire to post a message on this board until today. I was tired of talkin to the tv so i wanted to post what i think about this situation. I think the son needs to grow a spine and stand up to his hateful wife. The fact is that his mother came first and the wife has no right to treat his mom in that way. Im sure that mom has made mistakes and said inappropriate things as well but Michelle is extremely rude and just downright hateful. She seems spoiled, has no respect for her husbands family and doesnt even seem to care. I hope she comes to regret that. One more thing, who lets ANYONE talk to or about their mother like that!? Its really unbelievable. In my opinion the son is completely under the spell and control of his spiteful wife. Its sad really, he needs to really rethink his position. This is his mother and he needs to do something about the whole situation. Ok now Im done venting. Thanks

I'm with you!! This is even the first time on the website!! I "signed on" just to be able express how I feel this is a sorry situation. Michelle, despite her good looks, and well controlled manner and seemingly happy-to-be-married to the "man of her dreams, " has to be so unforgiving, and so self-righteous. Jane looks like she is coming to terms; Michelle looks miserable despite all that one would think she has going for her.

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November 27, 2007, 3:18 pm PST

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I am so surprise that the son is letting his wife talk to his mother like that. That is his mother he should not let anyone disrespect his mother, his wife is so childish. The mother has said she was sorry so many times and the wife just kept going back to what she said or did, it's time for her to grow up and get over it. And the son is such a punk he needs to stand up to his wife and tell her to calm down, everytime the wife spoke she said what we want everything was we. It's time for them to put all the old things in the pass and move on because tomorrow is not promised.

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November 27, 2007, 3:18 pm PST

Amen Brother.

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Man oh man... good luck! I know love is blind and everything but you have to know deep down that this is not going to work. I don't know everything you went through to put you in this place with your mom, but she's still your mom. Everyone's family can be overbearing at times or even downright crazy, but to have your best man up and quit because of what he saw, that's telling- really telling. If I was your best man and I talked to you about this situation and I felt the way you do about this then I would do everything I could to get your mom in line and to help you talk Michelle down but I definitely wouldn't quit on you... unless I agreed with your mom.

From what I saw today, Michelle will never let you reconcile with your mother no matter how much you want to. When you finally do, if your mom lives that long, your marriage will be over, and if she doesn't live that long, you will always resent Michelle and your marriage will be over, The show went through great lengths to cover your identity. As far as I know your mom, although upset with you has never betrayed that trust. If you and Michelle divorce, I guarantee you can kiss your current career goodbye. The woman will laugh at how she tore you and your mom apart, take you for everything she can and then she will try and ruin you. You can tell by how she reacts that a "goodbye, it just didn't work out" is never going to be enough for her.

So good luck, I hope I'm wrong

I completely agree with you. The bride is evil. She loves every minute of torturing her MIL. You can tell by Michelle's body language and facial expressions that she's enjoying seeing the MIL crumble. Jay is screwed if he reconciles with his mother. The wife won't have any of that, she wants Jay all to herself with no baggage (i.e. His Family). Unfortunately, when you choose to get married, you have to occassionally eat a $hit sandwich when it comes to the in-laws.

This marriage is not going to end well, the writing is already on the wall.

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November 27, 2007, 3:19 pm PST

11/27 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2

This show was all about Janes behavior. What about the son and new daughter-in-law? Where is their ownership in this mess? I believe that the new bride is in fact a bitch and does not want the in law in the picture. I have a feeling that mom and son had a close relationship until she entered the picture. As the mom of an only child( a son) who has been married for 15 yrs I will always be his mom. I am not in competition with my daughter-in-law. He DOES have enough love for both of us. In the scheme of life this is soooo ridiculous.

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